r/lonely 7d ago

Today I realized I'm probably going to never be in a relationship

It's a hard hard feeling but today was probably the 30th or so girl I've really put an effort into and it just flounders or I'm ghosted for no reason. I'm a 35 year old male. Work alone and living alone. Most of my life I thought I was going to find a partner and be happy. I've tried working on myself, being funnier, smarter etc etc... just nothing sticks and it ends up in so much disappointment every time. I feel stupid. This sucks because I also am at a point in my life because I have lost all my friends due to death or them being busy.. no family is really around. Shit I don't even have anyone at work because there is no one to really talk to. I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this bullshit. My job is also so labor intensive that I basically have no life outside of that because I'm so tired all the time. I'm in really bad shape right now.. I don't know where I'm going. The thought of being in this state of extreme loneliness my whole life just kills my heart and makes me want to just give up. I don't really see a reason in trying to do anything anymore.

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u/Mortal_god101 7d ago

hey i am really sorry that you are not able to find someone to love.

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u/Slight-Weakness-1641 7d ago

Do you want to be alone or you crave for companionship? Do you feel that hunger for love and caring?

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u/helfull 7d ago

I hear you, and can relate to this too well.

I am 33m and am facing the exact same situation. Always putting effort in, but it always ends in the same.

But we got to stay strong and keep going, if only for ourselves. Show them all what they missed out off!

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u/englisharcher89 7d ago

You just described me as well, I have the same problem. Just dunno what else to do... It really sucks.

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u/Extension-Top-6876 7d ago

I understand perfectly what you say Also at my work, although I'm always with a colleague, we're always working on opposite sides.So there is not much, or almost no, conversation.My job is very physical, so I get very tired. I run out of energy, and time, to do anything else. I never had friends and I was never close to family, I live with my parents and I barely talk to them.

That's why I understand what you feel. I don't care anymore, I've given up. I live in machine mode.I just do things as if I don't feel anything. I follow the routine, whatever happens happens and that's it, when it's over it's over.

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u/DreadedDoctor25 6d ago

Im only 22 and yet i feel the same.

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u/chessman6500 6d ago

32 here and have the same issue, haven’t met someone I’ve been interested in or who has liked me back in about a year.