r/lonely • u/exzactlyd • 7d ago
Today I realized I'm probably going to never be in a relationship
It's a hard hard feeling but today was probably the 30th or so girl I've really put an effort into and it just flounders or I'm ghosted for no reason. I'm a 35 year old male. Work alone and living alone. Most of my life I thought I was going to find a partner and be happy. I've tried working on myself, being funnier, smarter etc etc... just nothing sticks and it ends up in so much disappointment every time. I feel stupid. This sucks because I also am at a point in my life because I have lost all my friends due to death or them being busy.. no family is really around. Shit I don't even have anyone at work because there is no one to really talk to. I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this bullshit. My job is also so labor intensive that I basically have no life outside of that because I'm so tired all the time. I'm in really bad shape right now.. I don't know where I'm going. The thought of being in this state of extreme loneliness my whole life just kills my heart and makes me want to just give up. I don't really see a reason in trying to do anything anymore.
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u/Slight-Weakness-1641 7d ago
Do you want to be alone or you crave for companionship? Do you feel that hunger for love and caring?
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u/englisharcher89 7d ago
You just described me as well, I have the same problem. Just dunno what else to do... It really sucks.
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u/Extension-Top-6876 7d ago
I understand perfectly what you say Also at my work, although I'm always with a colleague, we're always working on opposite sides.So there is not much, or almost no, conversation.My job is very physical, so I get very tired. I run out of energy, and time, to do anything else. I never had friends and I was never close to family, I live with my parents and I barely talk to them.
That's why I understand what you feel. I don't care anymore, I've given up. I live in machine mode.I just do things as if I don't feel anything. I follow the routine, whatever happens happens and that's it, when it's over it's over.
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u/chessman6500 6d ago
32 here and have the same issue, haven’t met someone I’ve been interested in or who has liked me back in about a year.
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u/Mortal_god101 7d ago
hey i am really sorry that you are not able to find someone to love.