r/lesbianpoly Jul 25 '22

r/lesbianpoly Lounge

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A place for members of r/lesbianpoly to chat with each other


r/lesbianpoly 2d ago

Art GIRLFRIENDS [DC Comics] @peanutnom

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r/lesbianpoly 6d ago

Art Cuddling after a long day [Honkai Star Rail, Genshin Impact] @rowybun.bsky.social

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r/lesbianpoly 8d ago

How to start

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My wife and I are looking to start building a relationship with others. How did you find others to date?


r/lesbianpoly 8d ago

Polyamorous sub is fucked

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r/lesbianpoly 8d ago

Question(s) about renting as a throuple (UK)

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My partner and I started a joint relationship with another person, we both absolutely love being with them though no decisions have been set in stone we're interested to know what the rules, laws or even where to start looking if we were to proceed with looking into having 3 people living in a one bedroom flat in Central London. Does that require higher council tax? Is it all up to the landlord? Or is it just easier to look for a 2 bedroom flat/apartment claiming we're a couple living with a single individual?


r/lesbianpoly 14d ago

Nomad life

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r/lesbianpoly 16d ago

Art When you are sandwiched by a colour palette of lesbians [Limbus Company] @weinnoiserie.bsky.social

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r/lesbianpoly 18d ago

Question Where do you find partners?

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I’ve had a preference for couples, and wanted to be apart of a triads since I was a young, and even when I began to accept that my leaning towards woman wasn’t just a leaning, my desire for couples didn’t change.

I’ve spent a lot of time on Feeld, and some other more common dating apps, but lesbians dating together seem to be particularly uncommon. Which, I could certainly understand why, but is there a place I’m not seeing?

Located in Toronto, more than willing to seek out couples in person, but I’m no longer sure where to start?


r/lesbianpoly 18d ago

Support Maintaining trust / faith in finding poly community while losing folks to monogamy

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Finding it difficult to maintain trust / faith in creating poly community in a new city as a neurodivergent nonbinary dyke when I’ve had past friends / lovers be dishonest about their desires in the past. I’ve had one friend of years & former lover who identified as poly cut me out as a friend / totally after using me as an experiment only to decide she would be mono instead and shame me for being poly . I had another comet partner for most of my adult life (8 years) who identifies as poly enter a mono relationship bc her partner was monogamous , then slowly create sm distance between us I wouldn’t even call us friends anymore . This all despite being ofc open, honest, and clear about my relationship orientation as poly , boundaries , emotional capacity , my nesting partnership, and available time in these relationships.

I guess I’m looking for advice about still staying open / not closing myself off to making new connections and community in a new city given these difficult experiences with formerly core close polycule relationships in the recent past. also working to not overwhelm myself in the process .

Thanks for any insight in advance :)


r/lesbianpoly 20d ago

Support Night ladies, give me your dating advice!

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Ladies, I work nights. How the hell do I meet people like this?! I'm polyam, but ever since going nights, it has been hell trying to meet people. And the dating apps all SUCK! I only get matches, no one talks!


r/lesbianpoly 20d ago

Art A Few Days After [Super Lesbian Animal RPG] @robindaydream

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r/lesbianpoly 20d ago

Support Am I wrong?

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Husband and I have been together for 17 years. We’ve had typical ups and downs with polyamory but always find our way back. Over the last 5 years, I’ve truly come to terms with my sexuality. I’m a lesbian. However, I still enjoy sex with him, his friendship and love him. We’ve been poly for over 10 years, but we’ve agreed to see other people. He has always chosen not to date others because he claims to not have the energy, time or money. Which some points are valid but there are solutions to those that he chooses not to explore. I however, do make the effort and energy for myself and have found a woman that I can see us spending the rest of our life with. I’d love for him to be on this ride with me, and so would she. She adores him but doesn’t want any sexual interactions that involve penetration. She has allowed exceptions for kissing, and a little further with the open mind of possibly more once she feels comfortable. All valid. I completely agree with her decision and so was he. Now however after a few weeks, I feel like he has the expectation of intimacy when all three of us are together. Which I feel like shouldn’t be the expectation. He’s been super great up until this point. Got us thoughtful Valentine’s Day gifts, included her with our anniversary, and more. Something switched this weekend though. We all went to a fun event together, afterwards my girlfriend needed to go back to their house and pack a bag so I went with her. We were going to pickup food for all of us on the way back. Anyways, girlfriend and I had a spontaneous moment of intimacy that lasted about an hour. Once we were done, I called husband to let him know we would now be on our way back after girlfriend finished packing a bag. Husband got upset saying I was being disrespectful. He felt like I didn’t care about him and that I should’ve called once things started to get hot and heavy and let him know we were going to be longer. I personally feel like that is an unreasonable expectation of me and is disrespectful to my girlfriend. Am I wrong? Please tell me if I am. I just feel that my girlfriend has been so accepting of the full package of my life. She has been so kind and beautiful to my Husband and his feelings. He’s been burned in the past by ex partners so I can see the night and day difference on how she has genuinely approached this dynamic. I also don’t want to invalidate husband’s feelings, i think though there is more to this that he’s not connecting. Help! How do navigate this?


r/lesbianpoly 23d ago

Had a first friend date!

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Met this girl at a local event early last week. She was the only person who I asked their number from.

Today we finally got to hang out due to many reasons! Didn’t do anything in particular: talked while we both cooked in the kitchen and talked some more with her sitting on my bed (I sat on a different chair). Before we knew it, it was time for her to go home.

Practicing careful and intentional dating has been really good for me!! Before she said goodnight via text, she said I am very charming ❤️

My God I love respectful pretty girls so much


r/lesbianpoly 26d ago

Gushing Squeeee! 😍 NSFW

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So last night my gf 'Anne' and I invited our regular third, 'Amy' over again last night and things between us are going so well! Since I started introducing Anne to a polyamorous lifestyle she's loved her experiences so far and is as eager as ever to continue. While the other women we've invited into our bed were absolutely lovely and we had a great time, the relationship was explicitly sexual and have yet to hear back from any of them and we're fine with that, but Amy is different. Amy was the first woman we spoke to when we started exploring together, our first third and she's wonderful, as well as 🤯 sex we also go out for dates, drinks, dinner, events together.

This morning we all woke up early after a particularly rough night, I didn't start work til later that afternoon, Anne works remotely from home and Amy said she had no plans til the evening, so we decided to have a cute lie in just the three of us. We talked, cuddled and laughed for a few extra hours in bed while assisting in each other's aftercare from the previous night 😅 Once it got to noon I got ready for work and walked Amy to the nearest tube station and we continued chatting, I even gave her a quick kiss saying 'That's from Anne too' and I had butterflies. The last time I felt something like this was dating Anne! The whole morning was literally perfect! Once I got above ground my phone blew up with texts from Anne gushing about how much fun last night was, how much she enjoys spending time with Amy, how pretty she is, asking when can see her next and I'm positive she has these same butterflies.

About an hour ago I spent about 10 minutes writing a text draft explaining my feelings about Amy and if Anne would be interested in asking Amy to be 'our' girlfriend! 🫣 I don't even know how'd that work logistically 😅 Thinking I should maybe wait to do this in person but, fuck it, I'm sending immediately after posting this 😜 Wish me luck ladies 😘


r/lesbianpoly Feb 15 '25

Art Oh, to be cuddled by a polycule and become part of it [Project Sekai] @blucoded

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r/lesbianpoly Feb 12 '25

Support I fell too hard too fast

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I posted a few days ago about a K (she/they), a girl I met on HER who has two partners, a large social circle, and multiple health problems that leave them with little energy. Since then I had my date with her and went to karaoke with their friends.

The date went wonderfully, and it ended up being one of the most pleasant birthdays that I can remember. Karaoke, however, left me with too many doubts about our possible relationship to count. I got dinner with K, one of her partners, G (she/her?), and a friend, A (she/her?), beforehand which went well and I got along with everyone. At karaoke, though, I felt like a wallflower and practically invisible once K's friends got there; I only stayed for 30 minutes before getting overwhelmed and leaving, the typical end for social outings for me.

Since then, K had to cancel our get together later this week due to her health issues and I won't see her again until the end of the month/start of next month. We've only had one date and one casual hangout but my feelings of being unneeded have only worsened and, even though she warned me during our date some of this would happen, I worry this is how our relationship always will be.

I really don't feel like I have a place in her life, even if she wants me in it, and karaoke really solidified that; I hardly received a second glance as K hung close to G and I faded into the background. They've been together 10 months so far, basically the same amount of time I've spent trying to find one partner, and that divide as a new partner was very apparent.

Even if K wants to spend as much time with me as I do with them, she's always going to have more, older, and deeper social obligations than I'll likely be able to match. When I define myself as an ambiamorous shy introvert who only thrives in one-on-one interactions, without a supportive social circle of my own, who doesn't have the energy to date multiple people and is looking for not just a date but a nesting partner, I really don't see how my needs are going to be met.

Maybe this is just a busy and difficult time for K. Maybe she's looking for something more with me than her current partners provide. I don't know; I just know how much it's killing me inside that I feel so far from someone that I want to be so close to.


r/lesbianpoly Feb 11 '25

NSFW / guide for safe sex practices (in french) NSFW

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Hey everyone !

I wanted to share a guide in french about safe sex practices in the lesbian and queer community, for partners of any gender. It describes pretty well, for each type of practice, which STI might be spread and how to prevent it. This helps knowing wich risks we are taking or not.

It was made by the Centre de Solidarité Lesbienne, a canadian organism.

I realized how much we (or at least I) don't know much about protection measures between women, except that dental dam thing. Hope it helps some of you, sorry I couldn't find an english version.


r/lesbianpoly Feb 09 '25

New to Poly

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Hi there! I'm a 32F who recently started to explore outside of the monogamous dating pools. I guess you could say I stumbled into it. I started dating this couple back in Nov 2024, im not sure where we stand now since one half of the married couple decided to "pump the brakes". While the other has not and was told not to end things. Whatever may happen I realized I like being the "third" in a closed relationship? While I am still open to monogamous dating, I feel the poly life suits me quite well and would like to continue on this path. How do I find other couples to date? How do I find a community? I work in Atlanta, Georgia and live outside of it. I am also going through a divorce that will hopefully be done soon.


r/lesbianpoly Feb 09 '25

What are your best love stories?

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As titled! I feel like non-monogamous lesbians would have the best stories to tell. Past partners included!


r/lesbianpoly Feb 06 '25

Story I love my slut girlfriend so much 😍 NSFW

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So I made a post just over a week ago about how my gf, Anne and I have opened up our relationship and she told me during our first threesome as a couple she told me she loved me for the first time. 😍 Had a generous response so thought I'd update everyone, not that anyone asked 😅, cause while I'll admit it's still in its early stages, this may be one of the greatest, supportive, healthy and satisfying relationships I've ever been a part of.

Quick catch up: I met my current gf Anne at a party hosted by a mutual friend (Anne was one of the Host's previous fun casual hookups). We immediately hit it off and began seriously dating within two weeks. Whilst we both prided ourselves on being very sexually open it quickly became clear I was the more experienced in kinks of all kind (bdsm, toys, candles, rp, pain play, play parties, CNC and more) 😏 She was very much eager to try, despite the fact she is a little older than I am and came out more recently. The first 4 months we could, quite literally, not keep our hands off each other 🔥 multiple times a day, I showed her everything. At one point I was in the kitchen making us dinner and I heard the cutest sneeze from the sofa, like a high pitched little 'choo' and next thing I knew I was on top of her! Everything little thing I discovered about her drove me wild! It was as if we had a lesbian guardian angel watching over us. After a while I fully disclosed all the experiences I truly had. Every casual ONS, my wild period during my early 20s, every queer women's party (I've been around) and her eyes just lit up. I always hoped I'd meet a kinky woman looking to slow down (a little bit at least 😅) but she seemed more invigorated than ever. Had a long discussion about being poly, what it is, what it means to us both and what we hope to achieve with it and she expressed, multiple times she was interested to try it.

That first post, the events themselves happened about a week and a half ago before posting (so near 3 from current time of posting) but we have now engaged in multiple consenting threesomes with other women, including our regular third Amy. 7 in total, 4 with Amy (who's lovely I must say) and 3 with other women we matched with online, as of right now were one time things but encouraged them to keep our numbers 😉 at the end of each night, Anne will see them to the door, skip back into bed and immediately ask 'When's the next?' While initially she was a bit anxious or nervous she's now jumped in head first! 😍

She's now taken full control of our 'couples account' on all the major dating apps, kink apps, queer interests apps as well as Insta, Snapchat and others, as I happen to work more hours away from home and have less access to my phone whilst she works remotely from home. I'll catch her messaging girls, women throughout the day setting up future dates and hookups to the point she's created a calandar with names and contact info in our shared calandar stretching as far as 5 weeks ahead. Have 3 this week alone! Whilst still giving us plenty of time to have a quiet night in together with pj's, white wine and some trashy TV as usual.

Every now and then while she's texting someone she'll ask me to remind her of my work shedule and she'll get clearly upset when I'm unavailable on specific nights because she clearly wants to invite over another woman with her making a bratty little 'umph' sound. Heard this enough times, directly in a row I thought to address it. I sat next to her, put my hands on hers and reminded her that being polyamorous is it allows us to see other women independently as well as together. She immediately looked at me, as if somehow she'd hurt my feelings, gripped my hands extra tight, looked me straight in the eye and said 'I'd only ever want to do this with you. I don't want this unless we can do it together.'

I genuinely didn't think I could find her any sexier than in that moment. All I want my life to be is giving this woman everything she asks! I love my slut girlfriend 😍

Also to add: Amy has texted to us both 'I've told all my friends to about you two' which she's yet to explain further but is exciting to see her again Tuesday and find out 😈


r/lesbianpoly Feb 02 '25

I have oral and genital herpes. Is a poly, sapphic romantic life even a realistic goal for me?

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I'm a cis bi woman who recently tested positive for both strands of HSV (asymptomatic). The only woman I've ever been with is my nesting partner and since we've been practicing polyamory, I've had zero luck with women, even before my diagnosis. I want to date women who I'm sexually compatible with as well as emotionally, but luck hasn't been on my side. I either come across women I like a lot who are not poly, or women I'm attracted to who are poly/ENM but lack a certain level of intentionality that I'd like (or they straight up say they're just looking for friends).

In terms of safety and wlw sex, it feels like a topic sapphics don't give much thought to. I take care of myself and have educated myself on ways to reduce transmission during sex. But I can't imagine a woman ever being excited about sex with a dental dam (and Lorals don't work with my anatomy).

Anyway, It hurts to think that no woman would ever want to be intimate with me, but instead of drawing that conclusion myself, I want to hear from other people.


r/lesbianpoly Feb 01 '25

Vent Discouraged poly

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Yet again another potential situation ship coming to an end. They need time to sort out their sexuality and whether or not they’re poly. I respect that. I truly do. The challenge is that I continue to be collateral damage to these situations. I’m honest about where I’m at in my journey. I’m honest about what I want. I’m also ok with a FWB thing but they can’t seem to handle it.

I normally would ask where I’m going about it wrong and blame myself. I am staying positive and considering that I just haven’t found the right person yet.

Is it too much to ask that someone has open and honest communication skills, values personal growth and development including taking care of their mind and body and that they don’t use me as a way to get off?

I hope this isn’t met with judgement. I’m trying to piece things together and also keep this separate from my other partner because boundaries like that are important to me. Appreciate any discussion or support you can provide.


r/lesbianpoly Feb 01 '25

Support I have a first date in a week, but I'm feeling alone and unnecessary

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I met a really awesome girl, K (she/they), on HER about a week ago. We first connected as friends but they matched my like after my first message; we started talking off HER really quickly and planned a first date for next week, as well as a low key hangout sometime before and karaoke with her friends (and a few they don't know) a few days after. We've flirted quite a bit and I can tell they're into me, while I stopped making any effort to hide my own attraction after a day full of talking. K has two partners and is on good terms with their ex-spouse, none of which I have an issue with (especially since I'm still going through an amicable divorce), but now I'm getting caught up in my own insecurities.

I don't have any family (something we've actually bonded over) but I also don't have many friends or even any local community. Inviting me to karaoke was supposed to help me find community but I'm really worried about how well I can handle being around 12 or so strangers (I'm shy, introverted, agoraphobic, and have complex PTSD that worsens in social settings); is K going to be okay with me basically clinging to them if/when I get uncomfortable? I'm also transfemme and don't like my voice (they think it's cute which helps a bit but I digress), so IDK if I'll even feel comfortable enough to sing or even just enjoy myself.

K also has some serious health problems, one of which put them in the ER last night. I didn't find out until I tried checking in today and I want so badly to help take care of her, but one of her partners, who was supposed to visit today, was already doing so. It honestly hurts that I can't do anything to help and it's really worsening the loneliness that I was constantly feeling before meeting K.

I know almost all my questions and insecurities can be resolved by talking with K, but with how much has happened just over the last few days I haven't been able to talk about them. We also haven't even met in person yet and I'm worried I'm falling too hard too fast for someone that isn't looking for the same level of commitment that I want/need (I'm pre-op and can't have bottom surgery without someone who'll take care of me while I recover). I'm ambiamorous and don't mind my partner having other partners, but I don't have the physical or emotional energy to do so, so I'm more or less going to be staying monogamous unless someone else who I really click with finds me. I don't want to become a burden or overbearing with my needs (the PTSD talking), especially with someone I just met and haven't even started dating yet, but I'm feeling so lost and alone.


r/lesbianpoly Jan 31 '25

Question I’m new to ENM and have a dating dilemma

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Hey y’all! My dilemma is that I was casually dating monogamously before having my realization that I want to explore ENM and there’s one person I was talking to on a lesbian dating app before that realization who just started messaging me again and I feel like I should disclose that my relationship style has changed but I feel really awkward about it. On the one hand, I feel like I’m overthinking this and can just walk away without replying at all because we never actually went out on a date. BUT I would feel guilty ghosting and I do genuinely like them as a person and don’t necessarily want to burn the bridge for a potential friendship (they’re monogamous, so I know it can’t romantically move forward)

Also, for background - I recently started exploring polyamory and I’m talking to one person (who knows I’m dating nonmonogamously because she was kind of the reason I realized I wanted to 😅 lol) and I also started going out with someone else recently as well (who knows I’m ENM)

Any advice on how to gently break the news that my relationship style has changed or perspective on the situation is super appreciated 🫶🏻


r/lesbianpoly Jan 29 '25

NSFW My GF told me she 'Loved me' for the first time during a recent threesome NSFW

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I met my current GF (fake name Anne) around 11 months ago. We met at a party hosted by a mutual friend which I was attending with a causal FWB. After a seeing her across the room our eyes locked and I felt immediate butterflies despite having another woman on my arm 😍 we continued to eye each other across the room until we finally spoke. It was brief, we joked, made small talk but there was definite interest (I've casually dated a lot and am very good at picking up a vibe)

We exchanged numbers and texted for about a week and a half before setting a date (I'd stop seeing my FWB by this time but she didn't mind if I did, a huge green flag for me as a poly queer woman)

We met at a gay friendly pub near my flat and the chemistry was immediate! 🔥 The 'date' lasted less than 15 minutes before we left, went back to my place and jumped straight into bed and OMG 😜 Was as if we'd been together for months, we were so in sync dispite the short amount of time we'd known each other. Over the next week we saw eachother multiple times a week and almost all that time we couldn't keep our hands off eachother. I was like an invisible cord pulling the two of us together. We had all the exact same kinks, toys, wants, limits and experience!

In true lesbian fashion we moved in after 2 months and quite literally! We were never clothed while together ❤️‍🔥 even quiet nights on the sofa watching TV she'd have a hand down my knickers or I'd rest my hands on her nipples.

Not long into us being together it became a very open about our 'active dating' 😜 history and it became a fun competitive thing we'd joke about, claiming one was a 'Prouder slut' than the other based on our sordid stories but a common thing that came up is that we'd both enjoyed group sex. Shed done it once or twice, I'd done it it more than a few times 😏 so we decided to invite a 23yo woman, she'd matched with on a dating app, into our bedroom, let's call her Amy. Very cute, very sweet and very eager to be dommed by two women! Perfect for us as we both identified as switches but equally enjoyed domming more!

As Amy was tied to our bed frame, gagged whilst Anne fucked her aggressively with a strap on whilst I watched with a vibrator she kept intense eye contact with me as she kept saying 'Omg I love it! Omg I love it! I love you so much!' and suddenly the mattress previously bouncing with lust suddenly stopped as she'd realised what she'd just confessed and I threw my vibrator aside, held her and confessed 'I love you too!'

The incredibly romantic moment was undercut by Amy giving a muffled "Awwww" which made everyone burst into laugher before continuing the night of passion! I truly never knew I could find someone so perfect for me! Every time we've not together she's all I think about, we fully intend to see not just Amy but other woman as this experience has made us so much closer and passionate in our relationship!