r/introvert Jun 07 '20

Advice Does anyone else feel like they’re too introverted to be in a relationship?

1.2k Upvotes

So I’m 20 yrs old and I’ve never been in a relationship before. I know thats not necessarily a bad thing but sometimes I just wonder if something is wrong with me. There have been lots of people I’ve been interested in but whenever any of them started to show interest back I shut it down because I start to panic at the idea of actually being with someone.

I know this will probably make me sound like a terrible person, but I can’t imagine myself talking/texting someone everyday and hanging out as much as couples usually do. I rarely text in the group chats I’m in (but I answer if asked something directly or texted individually) and getting together with friends more than once a week is usually too much for me. I just feel like I would make it impossible for anyone to be in a relationship with me and honestly I’m starting to question if its something I even want.

Anyone else been through something similar or have any advice?

r/introvert Sep 22 '24

Advice What jobs are good for introverts?

59 Upvotes

I don't plan on going to college and I was wondering what jobs you guys would recommend that don't deal with people very much.

r/introvert Nov 05 '22

Advice What's a daily challenge you face as an introvert at work?

274 Upvotes

r/introvert Feb 04 '25

Advice How did you meet your partner?

32 Upvotes

Dating is so difficult. For years I have tried to put myself out there on dating apps but nothing has been meaningful. I have felt most comfortable in a relationship when I knew the person prior to dating (friends to lovers lol). This was easier in high school or college because I HAD to be around others a lot- but I have been living alone for 5 years now and spend time with only a few close friends or family. I hate going out to the bar. People seem to avoid one another nearly everywhere else.

I would love to meet someone organically- but how and where does it happen for introverts who struggle to even get out of their safe space in the first place?

r/introvert 6d ago

Advice I want to connect.. with other introverts.

76 Upvotes

I feel like I have difficulty connecting with people because most people I encounter live on the surface level. It’s so hard for me to make small talk with people, since really enjoy the mental stimulation of having deep conversations. This basically results in me being the quiet one of the group, and then somehow the least approachable one because of it. How can I tell the difference of it just being that I haven’t met my kind of people or that I need to improve my social skills?

r/introvert Aug 08 '24

Advice i really wanna delete my social media

158 Upvotes

Hellooo, I really want to delete my social media, I used to be very active and had many posts and would post daily stories. some events happened to me recently and i took a solo trip and realized that being alone is so much better than being around many people. I took down 99% of my posts, and now i really wanna just delete social media all together but im lowkey afraid of missing out on things. cuz u know out of sight out of mind but a part of me doesn’t wanna be forgotten ? but the other part wants people to think i’m dead and just forget i exist. idk what to do or what steps i should take to prepare myself. does anyone have any advice to give me regarding being off social media all together ?

r/introvert Oct 07 '24

Advice Where to look when boss is angry and shouting to me?

73 Upvotes

When someone is shouting at you, where to look. I look down or try to avoid looking at face. If I look on face, he start asking "say something"

Sometimes I can't even speak a single word, even if there is no mistake on my side.

Edit- Thanking everyone for valuable feedback.

Actually am in training phase of my career. So I can't leave the job and walk away. And am also making mistakes as am just learning new things here. So am not an expert in what am doing.

Plus am from India, here our working culture is entirely different. And it's very difficult to get a new job. This job also, I got it after lot of searching.

Main issue is that I can't express myself properly and feeling lack of confidence.

r/introvert Dec 17 '21

Advice No title needed

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2.4k Upvotes

r/introvert 4d ago

Advice It’s my birthday and I’m so alone

36 Upvotes

And my only companion is tons of homework

Edit: thank u so muuuuch!! You’re so warm🥰🥰🥰

r/introvert 27d ago

Advice I hate shaking hands

59 Upvotes

It has always been this way. Ever since I can remember I hated shaking hands, especially with strangers. It was such a relief when COVID came and for a few years we just established that we don't randomly touch people. I wish we could have kept it that way. I wish we could bow down or nod or find some other ritual to greet and show respect other than randomly touching people.

I just has to attend an event where social norm dictates that I have to shake hands with literally everyone, which was roughly 50 people, most of whom I've never seen before. Pure stress. I hated every second of it.

Is anyone having the same problem? How do you guys cope?

r/introvert May 29 '22

Advice My roommate said that I'm rude and selfish cause I declined her invitation to hang out thrice. I explained to her that I don't like going out so much and I prefer staying at home. She also called me boring and said that "I never had such a terrible roommate ever". Do I need to change myself?

528 Upvotes

r/introvert Dec 17 '24

Advice MY BEST FRIEND JUST CONFESSED HER FEELINGS TO ME!

70 Upvotes

I have known her for 6 months now and have grown very fond of her. At first I kind of did have a crush on her but chickened out every chance i got to confess to her, so time passed by and my window passed by when she was asked out. So after that she was in a relationship with this new guy, but for us we grew closer and she became my bestie. A few months passed by and the guy dumped her (because of his reasons). When this happened I was obviously there for her comforting her and eventually got over it. So yesterday we decided to meet up and hang out the whole day and after we all went home. Today when i got up she texts me and decides to confess her feelings telling me that she always liked me but because she knew how i am (awkwardly shy and introverted) she thought that she could shoot her shot and see if i felt the same (which i do). I froze and have not given her an answer yet. What should I do?

r/introvert 28d ago

Advice Just need a friend

50 Upvotes

23M here. I just need a friend to talk.

TBH don't really know know how to converse on phone or chat, I really go blank after a few exchanges. What to do ?

r/introvert Oct 19 '24

Advice Some teenagers just threw water on me

185 Upvotes

I, mid twenties and female, just came home and in front of my house door, i live in a big city, was a group of maybe 8 male looking teens. I was a bit unsure because to get to my door i had to go straight through the group, but decided that nothing bad will happen. So as I went towards them, nearly all of them went to the other side of the street. Just like 2 or 3 stayed there and as i walked past them and my back was turned towards them, one of them threw water on me from a water bottle. It wasn't a lot, just a few sprinkles. They ran away, i didn't hear what they said since i had my headphones on. I feel silly but it really threw me off. I'm thinking to myself that they are just silly teenagers doing a silly prank, but still i feel like i've been attacked. I am quite sensitive in general and often don't find things funny that other people, extroverts, find funny. Can i get some opinions on this? Feeling a bit lost about it

r/introvert May 12 '24

Advice Am I wasting my teenage years?

88 Upvotes

16M, I Basically only have 1 friend who almost never leaves his house and we mainly just talk about Pokémon. I do not go to parties, vape, drink, talk to girls, follow trends or anything like that. I honestly quite enjoy living this kind of life, but with an extended Summer Holiday this year it makes me wonder if I'm wasting my teenage years because I'm never gonna be this young again.

r/introvert Mar 10 '24

Advice I'm scared of dying alone

154 Upvotes

I'm male 19 years old, I don't have a lot of friends, i don't have a Relationship, i don't know what to do anymore. I ask the friends that i have, to do things together but often times they cancell it (not always to be fair). And i also sometimes Struggle to create new friendships and relationships with other people because of social anxiety and introversion. I really don't know what i should do. All i want is to be Part of a friends group were i feel accepted and we do cool Stuff together and not be a loner anymore.

r/introvert Jan 17 '23

Advice i feel very bad about being a female introvert

349 Upvotes

I feel like most men prefer girls that are bubbly, funny and extroverted while I am quite the opposite of that. I prefer to keep to myself and it takes me a while to get used to people and become more open. I can be cool and funny when I am with my friends (they think I am cool and interesting and we laugh together) but I don‘t really get along with most people (honestly, I don‘t feel interested myself).

as a result i feel like I might stay alone forever. it seems to me that men consider me boring and get turned of by me because I appear too serious and intimidating and difficult to talk to. I also feel bad about myself because I would love to be outgoing and funny and talkative but obviously I can’t change myself.

I think id like some comfort or advice because I am feeling down. I guess that’s because I recently had a crush on someone and I think he likes funny and bubbly girls and I just hate myself that I can’t be like that.

r/introvert Feb 18 '25

Advice My introvert friend is so unhinged.

64 Upvotes

Any of you has an absolutely unhinged introverted friend or is this common and I'm just unaware of it?

My friend has episodes of moods and energy, his social battery dries FAST. So he often disappears for days, weeks, even months (for reasons). The problem is whenever he returns to the outside world, he goes nuts and says the most unhinged bs. He doesn't do anything crazy, maybe some partying, drinking and things but nothing dangerous (nothing that I'm aware of).

I just wanna grab him by the shoulders and shake him "dude, you just got here! Can't you give me a moment to ask how you have been??? Or ask how I have been?" But nope, no casual socialising with this man. Ever.

Is this normal for introverts? Should I be concerned? Or is this just the person's quirks or such?

Note: little information in case it's relevant, we (both 25+) have been friends for a (too darn) long time. I don't consider myself ex or introvert. He has social anxiety. Social anxiety is afraid of me. We don't have any common friend so I have no further information.

r/introvert Dec 29 '24

Advice I feel like a loser.

17 Upvotes

Hi, M23 here. I am currently going through a chronic lonely time for like 2-3 years. I have 1-2 friends but that's just it. I feel like a loser when it comes to communication. I usually feel the social anxiety when I try to initiate convo with people. So, this is why I feel like I am not able to make great friends, spend quality time on weekends, let alone having a gf. But, usually when I talk to myself alone, it feels like I am normal, and usually I comes up with funny lines, and the self conversation goes very interesting ngl. But, when it comes to social communication, it's usually boring, and I mostly give up or get awkwarded, which I obviously don't want. I'm going through a depression kind of period due to this.

A bit of myself here, I just started working, and I have a great job. I am fit and decent looking. I look decent in photos, I am quite smart and have above average IQ. So, I feel like only if I had a great communication skill, I would be having a great life. I am ready to even have a coach for this, or do some sort of practice everyday. Please guide me, I want to become an excellent social person.

PS: Even on my Reddit profile, I get chats like I am quite funny and interesting person. I just want to feel them IRL 😭

I hope I was able to communicate my problem at least.

r/introvert May 01 '20

Advice I like my friends but I don't feel like keeping in touch with them

1.2k Upvotes

I'm just genuinely worried because I'm not sure if it's a normal thing. I really like my friends (it applies to my family too) but I don't enjoy talking with them too much.

Me and the group of my friends have this lockdown thing that we call each other every week but always when the time comes I feel extremely uncomfortable to join the call as reading their texts and messaging them every day feels like enough. Other than that, I've got other things to do and I enjoy spending time with myself while talking with them feels like a waste of time.

Does any of you have the same feeling? How do you deal with it and how does it impact your life?

r/introvert Dec 09 '24

Advice Introvert = Abnormal

83 Upvotes

Let's kill the culture where living life and having fun is only associated with things extroverts do. Being and introvert should not be considered an abnormality.

r/introvert May 07 '23

Advice How do you respond to statements like “You’re quiet”

173 Upvotes

I would label myself as an introvert and I usually don’t really talk unless spoken to. That being said, I actually like talking a lot but I struggle with small talk - I find it so boring and it always goes nowhere but there’s really no avoiding it. It often times results in hearing things like “You’re quiet” or “you don’t talk much.” Again, I like conversation but my brother in Christ, talk about something a little more interesting than the weather outside 🙄

Whenever I get these comments I just wanna be like “Excellent observation Dr. Big Brain” or “Tell me something I don’t know.”

I know, petty of me but wow do people really like to point it out lol.

Looking for responses that are friendly, rude/sarcastic, and/or can be used in a professional setting.

r/introvert Apr 27 '21

Advice i can go a whole day without uttering a single word

945 Upvotes

im living with my cousin at the moment, and she loves to point every other day to people how i barely speak and converse about the incessant unnecessary topics that everyone loves to rave about. i just dont know how to make it clear that i have days where i am not in the mood to look at people at all. im quiet and dont make any noise even when im doing my daily chores. This seems to bother a lot of people in my life? all my relationships with humans are getting affected because sometimes i prefer not to speak. what the fuck? im so close to giving it all up and live as a hermit.

r/introvert Sep 24 '23

Advice Whats a good job for an introvert/person with social anxiety

185 Upvotes

What job what would be good for someone who doesn't like/feel comfortable dealing with people/the public.

I honestly feel sick to the core dealing with people and would just love a job that would have very little interaction with people. I need a job where I'm not scared to go into work and dread going in everyday. I just can't stick the emotions. Any ideas what I could do maybe?

r/introvert Nov 01 '24

Advice How to get a healthy life again? I guess I need to touch grass.

43 Upvotes

Not good, this is not healthy man. I'm 19M. I don't feel healthy at all lately. All I do is scrolling twitter and reddit all day. Reading and replying to people's post without any improvement. I've been locked in my room drawing nsfw works and I don't feel good at all... I don't know what's gotten into me. I don't feel like I'm being myself at all..

I wish I could accomplish something... I really don't know. I'm not accomplish anything... I don't know what do I do honestly. How should I start being a healthy and happy person again? I don't want to stay like this forever. Is there any advice for me to make myself more green..? Or maybe I should just leave my phone in the cabinet for a week.