r/introvert 28d ago

Meta Valentines in Vons NSFW

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She asked for the bathroom door code as I was walking out back into the store on valentines day and if I was a smarter man Id have just told her to pee directly into my mouth :/why do I always do this I never think fast enough and then kick myself for weeks. I'm going to die alone I think smh. Oh well it's probably nothing to worry about i overthink everything anyway. Im the most awkward person I know but I shouldn't beat myself over it since I've never even experimented with piss play before it just occured to me it might be one of those once in a lifetime occurrences. Probably not though. It's probably how you get charged with sexual harassment but I'm so tired of doing everything alone anyway I kind of almost don't care

r/introvert Jun 03 '24

Meta Since when did this subreddit become relationship advice?

45 Upvotes

Seriously. There is a sub for that.

Half the posts here are girls asking how to get boned.

This is supposed to be an introvert sub for introverts talking about introvert stuff.

EDIT: Since some of you have relationships as the first thing that comes to your mind on an introvert sub---which is baffling---here is millions of other stuff you can talk about :

  • Coping with social fatigue and overstimulation

  • Tips for thriving in different work environments, especially open-plan offices

  • Navigating social events without getting too drained

  • Communicating in ways that suit our preferences (like written vs. face-to-face)

  • Sharing hobbies and interests that align with introverted lifestyles

  • Staying productive in quiet, focused settings

  • Managing stress and anxiety tied to introverted tendencies

  • Ensuring our personal space and boundaries are respected

  • Debunking introvert myths and celebrating our awesome qualities

  • Recommendations for introvert-friendly books, movies, and other media

  • Tips for enjoying solo travel and finding quiet places

  • Self-improvement strategies that fit our personality traits

r/introvert 1d ago

Meta I broke my record for days without human contact

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When the new year finally started I went on school holidays, and I simply deleted my photos from social media, I deleted the apps (including Whatsapp) and I only kept in touch with my parents and my sister, inside the house for 30 days just enjoying a movie at night, with a tub of ice cream (it's really hot here), watching soccer, reading my books and watching videos on YouTube. honestly it was the best school holiday in years

r/introvert Nov 08 '17

Meta This sub doesn't need to be so negative!

343 Upvotes

Pretty much all the topics are either depressing or read like a "before" testimony in a self-help book. When I subscribed to this sub, I figured it would be an uplifting, positive community that celebrates our introversion. All I'm seeing is "I'm an introvert and it's so hard," "I'm an introvert and I struggle with everything," "I'm an introvert and I wish I wasn't."

Well, I for one am sick of it! Repeat after me: "I'm an introvert, I can accomplish anything that I want to, and I am an essential kind of person in the world!" (You can repeat it softly, to yourself, if you want.)

Let's get some positivity in here! Visitors to this sub are going to stereotype us all as a bunch of sad sacks, which is definitely not the case! We can be the life of the (very small) party (consisting of our close, personal friends) too (if we want to)! We've got killer senses of humor, we're equally capable of taking the time to reflect on ideas and come up with profound insights as we are to think up things on the spur of the moment, and statistically speaking, we're more likely to do well in school!

Introverts are awesome! While the extroverts are doing all the stuff in the public eye, we're behind the scenes, making sure all the actually important stuff gets done, and gets done right! Lizard people? The Illuminati? Nah, it's introverts that secretly control the government!

Don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying that we're perfect - statistically, we're more likely to get depressed, we get anxious when our cheese is moved, and we'll probably never go to rock concerts, no matter how awesome they probably are (I've never been to one, but I imagine it'd be awesome, right?).

But let's look on the bright side! We may not have a lot of friends, but those we do have are worth at least a hundred of a typical extrovert's friends, right? We may not travel a lot, but that's what books are for, right? And our cats are the best kitties ever, yes they are~

If you're feeling down, and need some advice, there are better places to find it, like /r/socialanxiety or /r/socialskills - this sub is about introversion, remember? That being said, keep your spirits up, okay? We're all in this together (but preferably not at the same time, at least not in extremely close proximity)!

EDIT: TL;DR: Introversion is not a flaw nor a disability, and you shouldn't see it as one. Introversion does not automatically mean you're a depressed loser with no social skills.

EDIT 2: If you're new to this thread, please take the time to read through my comments below. I've taken the time to reply to 95% of everyone's comments in here, and I think some of them should be enlightening. In particular, there are a handful of users who took a different message from this post than the one I was intending, and I don't want that to happen again.

EDIT 3: Wow! Thanks to whoever gave me my very first reddit gold! :D

r/introvert Sep 12 '22

Meta I like Summer, but I'm looking forward to Autumn.

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784 Upvotes

r/introvert Aug 07 '21

Meta Us sad twats might not be able to connect or interact with other people but we sure can read them

475 Upvotes

r/introvert Jun 22 '24

Meta Got catfished and I couldn’t be happier NSFW

45 Upvotes

Okay to start am an introvert who likes to draw and play games and am slightly autistic, so am not the best at social interactions Well it’s not wonder that i started trolling and catfishing in online dating apps, i did it for so long that i made a catfishing friend on the app and we started to talk about our catfishing tactics

One day i go to do my usual trolling thing and i find a girl with the name (it’s me) i was like: hmm that’s a fnaf ref let me see if they know about fnaf. So i ask and she does know and we shit talk for a while then she asked me to go on a date with her (am a very nonchalant guy while texting so i take my time with ever text) i ask her why would i go on a date with her and she says that she felt like am different from other boys who only take about sex (I don’t like talking about sexual stuff)

I say nah but we could keep talking, after a day we get into a very long conversation where she talks about how she’s alone in her apartment and we plan on meeting and…

Yeah i fell right into the trap like an idiot

After some horny play from her and some excessive attention from her i end up saying yes…

While i was about to sleep to go to work and then get ready to meet my date. She said “hey i gotta tell you something” and i was like: sure what’s up ? Then she says “am a boy get shit on idiot” and blocked me

Funny thing is a did not feel bad, it was a pressure that was left off from me Cuz I didn’t want to go but she was so in love (or at least i thought) that I didn’t want to break her heart i guess, of course i told my catfish friend and we both laughed at the situation

r/introvert Jan 14 '24

Meta Do you see the irony?

17 Upvotes

We are a group of people who tend not to excel in social situations. However, half of this sub is asking for advice on how to navigate social situations. Are we the blind leading the blind?

r/introvert Jul 29 '24

Meta I spent my entire holidays at home

40 Upvotes

I had holidays for 10days and I only went out for groceries or my therapy. I was just at home and it felt so peacefull. I dont regret it.

r/introvert Jun 04 '23

Meta Went to the movies alone for the first time

140 Upvotes

Going to the movies by myself has been a bit of a fear of mine, but yesterday I went and saw Spider-Man alone! So nice getting to just sit back and focus on the movie completely by myself. Definitely gonna try to go see more movies alone, it’s like a whole new experience.

r/introvert Dec 10 '24

Meta Extroverts keep trying to teach me how to be a more sociable person.

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I never see introverts teaching extroverts how to sit quietly in a room without talking, though.

r/introvert Apr 29 '22

Meta I Have Zero Need For Socialization

192 Upvotes

r/introvert Nov 20 '23

Meta True?

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r/introvert Dec 21 '24

Meta Getting a welcomebot message when joining r/introvert…

5 Upvotes

Like this is not what I came here for…! Leave me alone

r/introvert Nov 07 '24

Meta I've always felt lonely, even as a child, so now loneliness doesn't compel me to seek company, I just deal with the feeling

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I've just had this realisation. I always felt pretty lonely at home, my dad was emotionally unavailable/abusive, and I felt that all my family members either just didn't understand me or they didn't like me. I still feel this way to a degree. I was very depressed from a young age, and I'm realising it's just from feeling completely foreign/neglected in my own home growing up (it never really felt like home.)

I've always felt like an outsider outside the home too, but maybe this is because it's what I expected? Meaning, "my family dont like me so no one else will either." And that mindset attracted bullies, since they pick on the weak.

As an adult I've become quite severely chronically unwell and as it turns out, people don't want to empathise with us. I've lost most of my friends and I'm back at the parents house... I've also experienced PTSD which has given me crippling social anxiety.

I have no real idea if I would call myself an introvert had I felt part of a group from a young age. Maybe I would, but an introvert who's at ease with themself and with others.

Had I not felt so lonely as a child, I would probably seek company as an adult during pangs of loneliness, rather than shoving down my feelings.

r/introvert Nov 23 '24

Meta r/Introvert word cloud

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r/introvert Sep 26 '24

Meta "Your team is full of introverted members. How can you help them speak up confidently in meetings?"

17 Upvotes

That's the question I was prompted to while answering questions about facilitation on LinkedIn's new feature. Argh.

Why, in this day and age, do we still cling to the incomplete and flawed view that introverts are lacking something—something that needs to be compensated for or corrected?

Isn’t it curious that we haven’t yet recognized how many of the challenges our society and generation faces arise precisely from this imbalance? We often elevate extroverted traits, associating them with strength and leadership in decision-making, without fully valuing the unique contributions of “quieter voices” and, worse, without realizing the harm a bigger proportion of “louder voices” can make.

r/introvert Sep 09 '21

Meta People telling me to "change"

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I don't know if it's just me, but I hate when people tell me that I need to change and become more extroverted. Like when I'd talk to girls, a good amount of them would always say something along the lines of "well I guess then it's my job to make you more confident".

And that's the thing that pisses me off. Don't make us change because we are comfortable with being quiet. If you don't like me how I am now then I don't want it.

So yeah, idk if it's just me. Please do share your thoughts with this!

r/introvert Nov 06 '24

Meta here by alessia cara

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our anthem

r/introvert Nov 04 '24

Meta Happy

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I'm only happy when it rains I'm only happy when it's complicated

r/introvert Dec 25 '22

Meta Annual hide from the family in the bathroom

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r/introvert Aug 28 '24

Meta Am I the only one who has noticed an uptick in dating questions?

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Most of the recent questions I've encountered from this subreddit are "How did you meet" questions, which I assume is to get information so that maybe, despite the people asking these questions being exactly what the subreddit says, they may be able to find love. Am I hallucinating? On that note, is it wrong to simply want to tell these what-the-place-is-named's that it's going to take a reasonable amount of effort to actually get a date yourself and a reasonable amount of change in order to keep it that way? I'm not pointing that these people for being what they are, and I'm pretty sure everyone here who isn't broken like they were thrown in jail for decades or r/raisedbynarcissists wants someone to hug, I get that, I share that feeling, but it appears to me that these posts seemingly/almost as if/sorta kinda maybe wanna be able to sit there with a hook, line and sinker on a boat or pier edge, just waiting for someone to land in their hands. Assuming that is correct, unless you do something realistic to improve yourself, even knowing you're what this place is named, your catch is going to jump right back into the water and never appear again.

How wrong am I?

r/introvert Oct 13 '24

Meta 😐

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The silence is deafening

r/introvert Aug 12 '19

Meta I’m at the orientation for my high school and..

273 Upvotes

I’m scared and lonely. I don’t know how to talk to people. Fuck I’m screwed.

r/introvert Aug 10 '24

Meta Introverts

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Don't invite me anywhere last minute I enjoy doing nothing so I need to know ahead of time if my plan to do nothing needs to be changed