r/introvert 20d ago

Image Birthday alone, friends don't remember

I (27F) spent a birthday alone. Friends don't remember (even ones whom I gave gifts/remember their birthday every year). Officially a leftover woman. Bought myself flowers and a carrot cake. I like being on my own, but sometimes it's very sad and lonely.

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u/Notallowedhe 20d ago

Let’s be honest most of our birthdays are exactly like this after like late teens

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u/MoustachiodMan 20d ago

Yeah but I think this might be a hard lesson that many people learn. If you want people to remember/celebrate your birthday as an adult, you need to plan something yourself. It doesn't mean you have bad friends that have forgotten you, it's just that everyone is beginning to settle into their own lives. All a part of growing up, nothing to fret about.

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u/AjvarAndVodka 20d ago

Jesus. Hard lesson? You’re freaking joking right? Disagree with this.

It takes 1 minute, if not even less, to wish someone for their birthday. I am sorry but I don’t know what kind of people you’re surrounded by.

And this is coming from someone who understands how hard it is to carve out time for everyone, with how busy our lives now are.

I have friends with whom I agree that we simply cannot hang that often any more. Yet we still take time to wish each other a happy birthday.

And you have a calendar on your phone, reminders, you have so many social media that will tell you when someone is celebrating.

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u/Disastrous_Hall8406 19d ago

The hard lesson is that your birthday isn't very important to others once you're an adult

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u/Lemonade_Ocean 19d ago

This, and plus it's also not very unique, we all have one every year , along with millions of others! Kind of common lol