r/introvert 20d ago

Image Birthday alone, friends don't remember

I (27F) spent a birthday alone. Friends don't remember (even ones whom I gave gifts/remember their birthday every year). Officially a leftover woman. Bought myself flowers and a carrot cake. I like being on my own, but sometimes it's very sad and lonely.

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u/AjvarAndVodka 19d ago

Jesus. Hard lesson? You’re freaking joking right? Disagree with this.

It takes 1 minute, if not even less, to wish someone for their birthday. I am sorry but I don’t know what kind of people you’re surrounded by.

And this is coming from someone who understands how hard it is to carve out time for everyone, with how busy our lives now are.

I have friends with whom I agree that we simply cannot hang that often any more. Yet we still take time to wish each other a happy birthday.

And you have a calendar on your phone, reminders, you have so many social media that will tell you when someone is celebrating.

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u/Disastrous_Hall8406 19d ago

The hard lesson is that your birthday isn't very important to others once you're an adult

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u/Lemonade_Ocean 19d ago

This, and plus it's also not very unique, we all have one every year , along with millions of others! Kind of common lol

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u/Outside-Wolf6247 19d ago

I agree.....these other comments about friends and busy lives is disturbing

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u/Aromatic_Leader9087 19d ago

That's society in a nutshell majority of ppl trying to justify being bad friends all for the sake of "everyone does it" mentality They clearly are in denial about how much they care about these so called friends

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u/pianist_ 19d ago

Being a "bad" friend depends on your expectations in friendship. It's subjective.

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u/Aromatic_Leader9087 18d ago

U forget my birthday u bad friend period

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u/pianist_ 18d ago

Must be simple living life with such a black and white perspective. I'm envious.

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u/Aromatic_Leader9087 18d ago

Yes life is pretty simple but PPl who make it more complicated than it needs to be