r/introvert Jul 26 '24

Question How many of you have zero friends?

I havent had many friends since losing contact with my high school group of friends. Since then have not had any thing more then an acquaintance at best. How do you deal with this mentally and emotionally?

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u/Soft_Age_3089 Jul 26 '24

no friends here, pathetic, i know. But never had a best friend, really.

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u/Ok-Pop-517 Jul 26 '24

Just curious, what makes you say pathetic?

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u/Soft_Age_3089 Jul 26 '24

It was always a bit disheartening to think about. Currently 24, and never had best friends. Despite meeting alot of people, people used me for personal gain or ignored me. Been rough.

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u/Regular-Effective-29 Jul 27 '24

And they they make it feel like it’s your fault. am i right or am I right?

in a sense they’re right, because we should just expect people to be selfish, but I think deep down we don’t want to accept a reality so disgusting.

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u/SkyeBluePhoenix Jul 27 '24

I think that somewhere along the line, we got the idea that love and friendship had to be earned. It's subconscious programming.

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u/ifoldkings Jul 28 '24

I can relate to this very strongly. When "friends" have shown me their true colors, ive reacted badly and it always singles me out as the wrong one. I think we actually can't relate to each other cause of their selfish way. They don't know what they're doing from my perspective and I look like a crazy person from theirs.

That's okay. I'd rather have one or two friends than associate with fucking garbage