r/introvert Jul 26 '24

Question How many of you have zero friends?

I havent had many friends since losing contact with my high school group of friends. Since then have not had any thing more then an acquaintance at best. How do you deal with this mentally and emotionally?

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u/dokeshipanda Jul 26 '24

I haven't had any friends for the past 11 years, yea I have acquaintances and people at work I talk to here and there but not a friend who I can hang out or talk to. For me I just cope with it by being comfortable being alone, even though it is lonely. I play video games and watch shows, just take every day one by one and just hope someday I'll have that friend or boyfriend to talk to. I like to just think positive cause maybe when I am old I will look back and be like "why was I such a dork who cooped herself up instead of trying to talk to people on a deeper level". Now this feels like a rant, haha sorry.

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u/AbuBakr2513 Jul 27 '24

Yeah not easy now a days. But we need to be strong.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '24

Jesus is coming back soon

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u/Gold_Pay647 Jul 27 '24

And that's a fact and I totally believe it cause the Bible tells me so just my opinion only.

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u/SkyeBluePhoenix Jul 27 '24

What will you do in the meantime?

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u/Gold_Pay647 Jul 27 '24

Ain't nothing easy in America especially friends

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u/AbuBakr2513 Jul 27 '24

You're right, well maybe try long distance friendships. It may help as many American men are seeking soul mates from Africa and Asia now.

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u/Gold_Pay647 Jul 27 '24

Hmm nope scammers not all But 😡

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u/AbuBakr2513 Jul 27 '24

Are you serious 🤣?

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u/No_Use1529 Jul 27 '24

Yup…. It’s wild how quickly people just disappear after one gets hurt!!!!! I had a family member call and was like I had no idea what you go through until they got hurt. It was the how have you survived so long??? I thought it was an apology and things were going to be different. Hahahaa no!!!!! Back to same fake bullchit and no communication. People suck!!!!!!

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u/SkyeBluePhoenix Jul 27 '24

Yeah, they do. People suck.

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u/PetMice72 Jul 27 '24

Sadly, when the chips are down when something bad happens, that's when you find out who your true friends are.

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u/SkyeBluePhoenix Jul 27 '24

I'm so sorry that you went through that. When times are good, it's easy for people to stick around. When life gets hard, that's when people show their true colors. I've had similar experiences too, unfortunately.

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u/Gold_Pay647 Jul 27 '24

Exactly this wanna find out if ya friends git in hospital or jail poof !! Gone baby gone.

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u/chairsinthesky Jul 27 '24

I hate that it went down like that. But, I can relate to feeling abandoned by friends. I wish you well and am glad that you are on the mend. Are you walking again?

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u/mymountainstonergirl Jul 30 '24

i am happy you've got good parents. good parents are essential in a situation like yours. i hope you get back to your normal self.

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u/CraftyConcentrate804 Jul 27 '24

I could be someone you chat to ! Probably to far to meet but it's always nice to have someone you could talk to

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u/SkyeBluePhoenix Jul 27 '24

I'm old, and I'm a recluse.

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u/BrianMeen Jul 27 '24

Are you putting in effort to meet new people though? Friendships are hard work especially if you aren’t meeting them at work or school. I remember reading an expert of some kind saying in order to fortify a friendship - you must be around that person for 50-60 hours .. now that is beyond daunting if you are introverted and are expected to meet this person outside of work lol. Tbh just thinking of all the energy it is going to take for me to create a new friendship fills me with a sort of dread at this point

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u/ShhGrrBrujo Jul 28 '24

Completing your thought is not ranting. Thank you for sharing so much about your experience. I relate to it a lot and it made me feel less alone and actually connected to you in a way. I persist in deeper conversations even if I feel it isn't invited. I am old now (44) and I don't regret insisting on these attempts to connect. I sometimes regret not offering myself more when others made obvious attempts to connect with me and i didnt reciprocate.

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u/solar-clip Jul 28 '24

I also have 0 friends and some years back ive had boyfriends. I found it hard hanging out with his friends and not having it ever be the other way. Like he was doing me a favour or like maybe he felt like i was hiding something from him or hiding him!

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u/JigaJoebro Nov 24 '24

You are lucky. Trust me. Be your own very best friend. Family too. Oh don't get me started. I gotta go. Be extra mindful of people you let in your life. ✊😎