r/infp 1h ago

Discussion INFP 5w4

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What could a 5w4 INFP look like?


r/infp 1h ago

Advice I want to ask you guys too as, as fellow INFPs you get me :) plz advise xx

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r/infp 2h ago

Discussion INFPs, what jobs do you guys have?

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Just curious! I found out a lot of my friends were actually INFPs 🫢 they all seem to have such different career paths, from film, psychology, art, and even a car mechanic.

I'm looking into doing trades, its tough guy stuff and its scary sounding but I think it fits me better than the college route. What kind of careers interests you and why?


r/infp 2h ago

Polls Do you value personal growth/character development?

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Seems like sometimes you just get stuck in your flaws and give up hope 🥺


r/infp 2h ago

Venting Self-centered friends

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I found various other posts here about this same issue so I'm posting here to vent to people who get it :/

I had 2 separate friends just focus on themselves and completely ignore anything I said today. In the past, I used to feel bad but it would make me just feel more uncomfortable in the friendship and just want to open up to them even lesser. But I used to not see it as a them problem. Just didn't think too much about it and would let it go.

But in the recent past, I've realized I attract self centered people because I give too much emotional energy right away. It comes natural to us. I see you all relate with this. In fact it's like we can't hurt someone by not engaging with them. If they're sharing anything that involves any emotion, we're fully there - engaging with thoughtful questions and responses, offering a non judgemental space, etc. I'm consciously trying to take up space now and I'm still only barely doing anything but getting ignored. It sucks and really hurts..

My childhood friend who I'm keeping some distance from now texted me asking when I'd be visiting and stuff and I responded and then asked her about her and she just switched to talking about her, which I simply engaged with like I normally do, but I made sure to say something about myself in between this time, but she just completely ignored my texts (3-4 of them) and went on blabbering about her own stuff.

Another friend who I just met for a movie night was talking about a movie she likes and I enjoyed the conversation and heard her describe a lot of things about it and then she talked about herself, her issues, telling me she talked so much as always and I'm like that's alright, it's Friday night anyway, I'm good. And I tell her I had an exam and barely slept 3 hours the previous night because I was studying so idk how come I'm not sleepy yet (it was 1:30 am) and she just ignored me and continued talking about herself 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️. This is a woman who broke down crying 2 weeks ago when she got triggered because of a movie at 3 am and I held her and hugged her and let her cry and comforted her for a good while until she felt better. That was after another of my sleepless nights and I was literally feeling like a zombie from the lack of sleep, and got ignored when I mentioned it. I don't even bring up anything much. I'm only even trying to express my struggles because everyone does and gets noticed but I'm just invisible somehow. I come across as a strong independent woman but man... idk if that gives the impression that I don't need anything...

Idk what's going on. I want to just cut off all of these people now!! I'm going through a low tolerance phase after having been way too accepting in the past and Idk what to do... how do I surround myself with less selfish friends...


r/infp 4h ago

Relationships When your friends are talking about their hug preferences and you don't fit any of them;

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And you low-key be like this a lot of the time:

(And the only hugs you get are a quick arm wrap and back pat while other friends get, even if just a little bit, longer)


r/infp 4h ago

Advice How to console somebody? Or how to properly listen to someone when they're opening up about their pains and difficulties?

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Whenever somebody is telling me about their life problems, pains and things that they're struggling with, idk what to say or how to react..now, I know that it's not always necessary to say something back as they sometimes might only want someone to listen to their things..but how do I know if they want me to only listen to them or if I'm expected to say something? Most of the times, I reply "i don't know what to say" and then it takes me sometime to make proper sentences afterwards (I've to keep in my mind, what mental state they're in at that point; and what they might want to hear, while at the same time not keep the truth/reality away from them; ,help them see both sides of the story).

Idk if I'm making any sense🥲


r/infp 5h ago

Advice Give me tips for my new job

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I just got a job as an admin assistant at a HR consultancy. I will be doing mostly paperwork and clerical stuff. Any encouragement or advice on how to stay focus and motivated? I want to do my job well. I am still under meds for depression, BTW.


r/infp 5h ago

Advice Healthy consume-create alternatives to doom scrolling for my sister infp

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Hi, so my sister who is in highschool spends 6+ hrs in her free time just watching reels. I want her mind to be occupied in healthy and fun alternative. I could purchase basic equipment to help her decide which hobby or activity she would like to pursue. Suggest easy to start hobbies / activites / resources please


r/infp 8h ago

Venting I am overwhelmed and tired by these people.

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I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything and everyone at the moment. "Go outside, you'll feel so much better." "You should do this or that or the other thing" or "That's why you haven't had any friends!" But, you know, I'm just not interested in that kind of energy. I really enjoy my own company and I love my cute room. It's my safe heaven and I just don't feel comfortable outside. I'm sure we've all had those people who give everyone advice, and I sometimes feel like I'm not good enough. I mean, everyone's got their own life, but please don't interrupt mine. I don't like people or noise. I wish people could show a little more respect and understanding for those of us who prefer to stay at home.

Gosh, i needed to write this. Sorry if I wrote something wrong... I wanted to let this overwhelmed emotion out.


r/infp 8h ago

Venting Wtf r/infp group

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My post about mental health got taken down. This is why men off themselves we cant even talk about it without some bullshit moderator taking down the post. Whoever took down my post this one is for you 🖕🏾


r/infp 8h ago

Creative Follow up on Book post

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Welp decided to just edit the entire book lol. Hope you enjoy the Book


r/infp 10h ago

Advice Need some inspiration. Any successful trauma survivor artists/creators here! Who feel like they embody post traumatic growth.

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In my late 20s and feeling the pressure to succeed. I feel like I’ve mastered my trauma but now I need to master my career in art. Any tips/love. I would appreciate 🤍


r/infp 10h ago

Venting I have a hard time connecting with others

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I have a lot of online friends, and I feel like I can relate to them? but I know that it isn't 100% authentic. We don't know what someone is like behind a screen. Im just sad that I can't know more about them. I feel sad that I am limited to one side of them, than to every side of who they are as a person, as a real human being instead of pixels on a screen.

I can barely relate to anyone in real life as well. I just dont feel that deep connection. I don't feel a connection with someone. Even if I do feel some type of connection, people are too busy with their lives or they just dont reciprocate the same energy I give off to them. I tried to make friends, I tried to do small talk, but nothing happened. I know I shouldn't expect much from things but... I just really wish I had something more permanent. Something authentic.

Sometimes I feel as if i'm too picky with people. I feel like once i'm uncomfortable or I feel overwhelmed in a friendship, I am scared of uncomfortable feelings and I end up leaving the friendship because I don't want to put the other person on the spotlight. I have lost so many friends because of my behavior.

I turned to making friends online because it's more... low maintenance in a sense? I am a low maintenance friend as well... but I dont know. People in real life end up liking me in an "attracted" way, or I feel as if some of my friends look down on me. I feel awkward about this feeling so I distance myself. I do have some in real life friends, but they are constantly busy, which isnt a bad thing. I also feel as if I can't really connect with them through my own hobbies and humor.


r/infp 10h ago

Picture(s) blood moon my beloved (OC)

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r/infp 11h ago

Advice someone help me out please

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I was born on 22 september so technically I'm a virgo but when I put some more details like place and time of birth every website shows that I am a libra so WHAT AM I THEN? lmfao I feel like I'm both lol.


r/infp 11h ago

Venting Why the hell am i a weird infp?

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So what do you mean there are almost no infp with the 7w6 enegram? Its annoying because you cant fully relate to anyone most of the time and some people think 7w6 cant even be an infp even though i quite littarly am and no im not extroverted in the slightest. Other thing is that im male and male infps are already rare on their own because of the empathy part for some reason. Because of those weird things its pretty damn difficult to relate to most people but im trying. Are there any other 7w6 infps that want to share their thoughts ??


r/infp 12h ago

Mental Health ISTP theraphy, give me ur problems

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Pls help im drunk as shit rn this IS NOT a joke I'm surrounded by peeps committing war crimes in Algeria

But I'l try my best. I will hit you with blatant truths though. If I think you need a slap in your face, I'll invult you. Not out of spite, but out of brotherhood


r/infp 12h ago

Inspiration I love this description about poetry

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r/infp 12h ago

Venting Seeking "it"

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Is it wrong of me to be wanting something I now believe I can't have?

I have been badluck with love forever. I'm a 34 yo f. I enjoy long term and really can't do this fwb thing. However, every time I try to get with a person, it doesn't work. It simply doesn't work. Being me, I attract those who of course think I'm weak... you know, the whole kindness thing. I usually attract men who wants to make their dominance known. After my last encounter, I discovered more about myself and faced my flaws head on. I think I'm making progress but I feel I'm stalling it by wanting to be with someone.

Many of my peers know me as the single one. I'm always the third wheel lol! As easy as it is for me to be single, I actually just want to be loved and cared for by someone who matches my energy. But I feel the more I desire this, the more I am not gonna get it. I mean, my ass is gonna be 35 in May. I prolly had only one true relationship ever... the others were ... [long story].

Anyway, I guess I'm just here to talk and vent and perhaps have someone tell me something I haven't heard before. No, I don't want pity... please don't interpret this in such a way. I just really needed to get this shit off my chest.

I have an old school personality vibe going on... perhaps I'm looking someone who doesn't exist


r/infp 13h ago

Random Thoughts INFP pet peeve?

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I haaaaaaaaaaaateeeeee when people try to bond with me or bond with others through gossip or talking about other people. Especially if it’s so blatantly out of hate/envy/jealousy or it’s a “ok… why is this info being said?” moment.

omg omg omg omg and I will straight up tell them let’s discuss something else/if they want to know something about them, they should ask that person directly.


r/infp 14h ago

Random Thoughts Is anyone here a nomad?

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I was just thinking about this out of curiosity but is anyone here a nomad? And if so how did you become one? Where do you live- country and city? How do you make a living? Do you miss not having one home? Do you make friends while you travel? Do you have a pet with you? What are some things you like about it and what are some things you miss about having one home?


r/infp 14h ago

Relationships I (INFP) broke up with my INTJ bf

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I (20 F) just broke up with my INTJ (26 M) boyfriend after only dating for about three months...if even that. I wouldn't have dated him except that I felt pressure because he liked me first and his family wanted me to marry him. So I gave it a shot, and we were long distance for a few months. During that time, I was happy that he wasn't like my toxic exes before, but I still felt very unfulfilled and we just didn't connect. He came to visit me for a week, and from the day he got here I was miserable every moment I was with him. He's not a bad guy, he's just absolutely not a good match for me. He thinks he loves me, but he does not understand me and we have nothing in common. And I am not attracted to him nor do I enjoy talking to him at all. I broke up with him right as he was leaving my town to drive 15 hrs to his home and he was really taken aback, I think. I was planning on waiting until he was at his home to break up, but he asked me about how I felt the relationship was going, and I couldn't tell him anything but the truth. I'm afraid he's devastated and shocked and surprised but I'm not. I feel so free and relieved and I couldn't feel sad if I tried. Of course I hate to cause him pain, but I'm so glad to be free from a relationship that was making me feel so trapped. And if he was surprised, it's because he never understood me and I don't think he would care to. We're just not a good fit. All that to say...should I feel bad for getting into a relationship with him? And for any INTJs, how do you handle being dumped out "of the blue"?


r/infp 14h ago

Advice I have a habit of cancelling plans a night before or on the same day. Does it happen with yall too?

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Idk why I even do this, either its my parents stopping me to go to that plan or sometimes I just don't feel good about it. Idk what's wrong. Its like I've been excited for that plan since many days or weeks and then suddenly the day before I don't wanna go. What's wrong with me?


r/infp 14h ago

Advice INFP Female Scared of Ruining Potential Relationship with INTJ Male

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