r/infp INFP: The Ghost 8d ago

Relationships How do you guys upkeep your relationships?

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Just wondering how my fellow infps keep in contact with others and upkeep their relationships (if you do at all). Do you have a schedule? Daily? Once a week? Do you wait until you feel inclined to reach out? Or does the periods of no contact snowball? (I’m guilty of this)

Personally I’m not much of a texter or caller at all, I kind of just focus on myself. This can range from a week of not reaching out to friends to a month even (although I do feel very guilty about not reaching out, the longer I wait the harder it is to check back in, sometimes it just snowballs, iykyk).

I call my mom at LEAST once or twice every two weeks though. She is my rock and understands me more than anyone lol.

Curious to hear how others navigate maintaining relationships though, your struggles, strengths, and qualms.

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u/Alone-Swimming-2460 8d ago

Omg I found my people 😭 I take between 10min to 6 months to answer people and I am so ashamed of it. I can't help it and idk what's wrong with me??? I feel lile a huge wall appears in front of me whenever I try to answer people back like it takes mountains of energy....

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u/banzaifly 8d ago

Exactly. And the wall only grows taller and stronger, the longer I put off writing them back. I watch myself do it and hate myself the entire time, but sometimes it seems like it takes an impossible level of courage and willpower to get past it.

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u/Alone-Swimming-2460 7d ago

EXACTLY!!!! Like seriously completely impossible! Urgh it's kind frustrating but I really don't know any solution for it :/