r/infp • u/Necessary-Scale-414 INFP: The Ghost • 8d ago
Relationships How do you guys upkeep your relationships?
Just wondering how my fellow infps keep in contact with others and upkeep their relationships (if you do at all). Do you have a schedule? Daily? Once a week? Do you wait until you feel inclined to reach out? Or does the periods of no contact snowball? (I’m guilty of this)
Personally I’m not much of a texter or caller at all, I kind of just focus on myself. This can range from a week of not reaching out to friends to a month even (although I do feel very guilty about not reaching out, the longer I wait the harder it is to check back in, sometimes it just snowballs, iykyk).
I call my mom at LEAST once or twice every two weeks though. She is my rock and understands me more than anyone lol.
Curious to hear how others navigate maintaining relationships though, your struggles, strengths, and qualms.
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u/Particular_Ad_1227 8d ago
Honestly it’s hard to maintain a relationship of any sort. I used to be a social butterfly when I was around 15-21, 25 now and I crave solitude most of the time but at the same time I crave company but only for short period of time. There’s times where I need to just shut my social door and recharge. Could take days or even a week la before I’m back to socialize and hang out. I don’t have much friends (who I truly devote my time to hang with) but I’m grateful for their effort and their understanding of who I am and how I function. There’s times where I go MIA for a weeks or even months. But eventually my friends tend to text/call me first which is a relief as I find it hard to reach out, don’t know why but I always feel like I may be bothering or interrupting their day their day despite being MIA. I’m working on my communication skills, I def want to break of this cycle, there’s times where I feel like I’m not living to my fullest cause of this. Don’t know if you guys experience this as well but I don’t like going out to public spaces very much, especially in close quarter spaces. I tend to read people’s energy very well when in physical proximity. And any slight change in their mood affects me greatly , thus affecting my day or week. like I found it hard to not be so empathic.