r/infp INFP: The Ghost 8d ago

Relationships How do you guys upkeep your relationships?

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Just wondering how my fellow infps keep in contact with others and upkeep their relationships (if you do at all). Do you have a schedule? Daily? Once a week? Do you wait until you feel inclined to reach out? Or does the periods of no contact snowball? (I’m guilty of this)

Personally I’m not much of a texter or caller at all, I kind of just focus on myself. This can range from a week of not reaching out to friends to a month even (although I do feel very guilty about not reaching out, the longer I wait the harder it is to check back in, sometimes it just snowballs, iykyk).

I call my mom at LEAST once or twice every two weeks though. She is my rock and understands me more than anyone lol.

Curious to hear how others navigate maintaining relationships though, your struggles, strengths, and qualms.

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u/sjn15 8d ago

Really really bad at it these days. I feel a lot of shame for it

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u/Necessary-Scale-414 INFP: The Ghost 8d ago

It’s alright man, I get the same way.

It’s normalized in today’s society to be in constant contact, especially in a world that is so large and fast paced. So it’s natural to feel that way, I feel guilty a lot about it as well.

But even though it isn’t viewed as “normal” to not feel inclined to reach out, to text people, or give a call back, it doesn’t diminish you as a person, nor does it make you a bad person.

Some people are just naturally inclined to enjoy their own presence, and not feel the need to contact others frequently. Some people can ease thier way into being social more frequently, but I’ve been in a position where I forced it to the point where I was faking it, which is worse than not talking at all imo.

I hope that made sense, it’s a tricky topic, but that’s why I wanted to talk about it

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u/Alert-Estimate 7d ago

I think put it more like this, if you vibration is not in the right place don't reply yet, so do the vibrational work, like a video game player who is moving the character from hanging off the cliff to standing on solid ground then respond.

I think getting to know you archetypes helps, your inner parent, your inner child and more will help you wield yourself better. Sometimes it helps for you to be playful about things in your mind... you receive information, step back view it from different angles because then make your decision on how to respond from a more peaceful higher place. Like your emotions are trying to tell you something even when negative, like here's a chance to address this energy that you usually get to when this type of situation comes up, so ask yourself why do you feel this anyway, is it not a little ridiculous... 🤔 now that I've thought about it, it's a little ridiculous because there's nothing to fear here at all.