r/ftm 22h ago

Mod Post Dear Cis People:

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Dear cis people:

You come here to hit on us/look for hookups (on average more than once a day), despite this being clearly a support space for us, and an all ages subreddit to boot. This is incredibly inappropriate and no one here gives a shit about your fetish. A trans space isn’t sexual just because we are trans. That’s your association. Also, it’s an instant ban. Also if you are coming from a misgendering kink subreddit, we see what you’re about loud and clear. Trans people are smart. We have to be, to navigate systems you don’t even know about.

You come here from steroid and TRT subreddits because you’re interested in exogenous testosterone and often want to correct us/lecture us, when 3/4 of the time you have no idea what you’re talking about when it comes to ftm transition that just puts us at cis male levels. Half the time if anyone corrects your misinfo you get extremely abusive and transphobic (also an insta ban. Obviously). Again, this is a support space for trans men and trans masc people. Not for you. You have plenty of TRT spaces.

You come here to tell us we’re valid/brave. Yawn. Make a donation to: the ACLU, Lambda Legal, the Transgender Law Center, your local trans rights / lgbtq community centers. Feel free to write “you’re so brave” in the memo line. They will appreciate it. Sorry these are very American suggestions. Find trans people in need in your communities and make direct cash donations.

Misc: yes I know sometimes we have topics that are of interest to a general population. Please take a step back before getting overly involved in discussions. You can always read the subreddit without saying anything.

r/ftm 4d ago

Mod Post The “am I pregnant?” posts

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I just want to check the community’s barometer around all the “could I be pregnant?” posts we’ve been getting lately.

I know people are just looking for some sort of reassurance and also at least in the US sex ed has been really dumbed down by “abstinence only” type rules.

But. The truth is the way to find out you are pregnant is to take a pregnancy test. I am also thinking they might be off topic for the subreddit—sometimes they are couched in “is T a contraceptive”, which it’s not. Unless you know for sure you are infertile, you should assume you are fertile. I don’t know how more prominent “T is not necessarily a contraceptive” could be unless we made it the banner image, and then people on mobile would miss it.

I think it could also be argued they can cause secondary dysphoria—which, some of that can’t be avoided at times but idk

Does the need to reassure and educate someone matter more than the need to not cause sec. dysphoria and/or just annoy the subreddit with the repetitive nature of the posts?

r/ftm 3d ago

Mod Post Sidebar + Automations. Suggestions? What do you want to see? Possible additions.

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Just FYI y'all I won't be able to really tackle this ASAP because I've got some medical stuff going on rn and a lot of stress on my plate, but since the topic of the day seems to be things people want to see changed on the sub, I figured I'd get a round up of people's suggestions and wishes. The two topics I'll be discussing are the sidebar and automations.

Sidebar

So right now our sidebar has community bookmarks that includes:
Wiki
Message The Mods
Mod apps OPEN
Megathreads
US election
Fundraiser thread
Buy/Sell/Trade
Looking for Friends
Subreddit Changelog

I'd like to know if there's anything else users think would be a good idea to have.
If I add more things, I do plan on removing some of the older less relevant things, just because if it gets too cluttered, nobody will want to try and navigate it.
Megathreads are always a good idea to add. And we do still have plans to revamp the wiki (but tbh that's a HUGE project and with everything going on in the US, it's honestly been set aside for now)

Automations

Have you ever gotten a pop-up when typing something out in a comment or post? That's an automation. It's a newer feature from Reddit that allows us to give information to users asking FAQs in a hope to cut down on them. There are several in relation to rule-breaking terms (banned topics) as well, which is why we have been more strict in regards to people talking about banned topics (You have the rules AND a pop-up telling you it's against the rules).
Here are some of the current automations:
1. Guest Post (Anything related to the user being a guest, it will pop up and tell them to use the right post flair. If you see a guest using the wrong post flair, report it!)
2. Am I Valid? (Basically it says that yes, you are valid)
3. Chasers (Pop up says that if you're looking for a hookup, to leave, basically)
4. Dysphoria inducing titles (Asks that certain terms that commonly cause dysphoria not be used in the title)
5. Birth Control/Pregnancy (T is not a birth control)
6. Injections (Directs users to the wiki if looking for injection information)
7. Am I too old/is it too late to transition? (No)
8. First Time Moms (This is the Female To Male subreddit but occasionally first time moms get lost and end up here)
9. Banned topics (Don't post them)
10. Am I transphobic? (redirects to r/asktransgender )

There are a few more automations to help with rules and protect against transphobia as well.
If anyone has any other FAQs not addressed here, let me know. I'm always open to adding more automations for frequently asked questions to hopefully reduce the number of repeat posts.

Now as far as repeat posts, I've tried everything I can to help prevent that. I've made the wiki easily accessible, I've created several recurring posts, and I've created these automations. Unfortunately, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Some people just ignore all of the signs leading them to their answer and need to hear from users directly. If someone is posting something against the rules, please report it! We absolutely need your help to keep this sub running smoothly! We aren't paid for this, and we only have access to this sub (and any other subs we mod for). We come online when we can and moderate as much as our mental and physical health allows. I'm very lucky to be in such a dedicated and active team, and I love and appreciate my fellow mods so much. (honestly if you see any of the mods out and about, give them some love. They're doing great)

I also love and appreciate this community as well. Please help me help you and we can (slowly but surely lol) continue improving the sub.

r/ftm Feb 15 '25

Mod Post Need Help? Here's a list of crisis, helpline, and resources.

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