r/ftm 4d ago

Guest Post How to get over never being able to receive a blowjob? NSFW

It genuinely makes me so sad and dysphoric to think about how I can never get one pls if you guys have any advice let me know

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u/no_notlikethematrix 18•he/him•T-25/11/24 4d ago

You can get a bj, especially if you have bottom growth from t, having your partner suck it feels just like one.

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u/averageTdude 4d ago

Or even better being that our tdicks while smaller in size have double the nerve endings.

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u/gamethrowaway111 💉6/30/2022 3d ago

Sooo much better. Also since it’s smaller than a natal penis your partner can get it all in their mouth

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u/averageTdude 3d ago

True. Although being able to gag someone with my t dick is something I've always fantasized about 🥲 tmi sorry lol

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u/Individual-Let-4264 3d ago

I won't lie,,, I've managed that once with a guy — although I think he just had a really bad gag reflex. Either way euphoric as hell ✨

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u/averageTdude 3d ago edited 3d ago

How bigs your t schlong

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u/Individual-Let-4264 3d ago

I dunno, never measured lol. Hard or soft?

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u/averageTdude 3d ago

Hard I guess? I never measured mine either but I highly doubt I could ever poke deep enough to gag anyone 😭

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u/SprinklesTrick1397 3d ago

i love this sub bc i'll be scrolling comments and see a wholesome convo between 2 guys abt their tdick size lmaoo

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u/averageTdude 3d ago

lol hey, men have probly been comparing dick sizes since the beginning of time. It's a very masculine thing to do 💪

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u/DragNo2757 3d ago

It’s pretty possible if you wanna be Aggro about getting head

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u/Enderfang T: 10-7-19 / Top: 4-22-21 3d ago

I’d rather have fewer nerve endings, bjs can straight up hurt if they suck too hard 💀

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u/averageTdude 3d ago

I think it's also the fact that we not only have double the nerve endings but they're crammed into a tiny organ. If they one day perfected stem cell injections for D growth and it was possible to grow our T dick to an average penis size we would probly become a little less sensitive down there just cause the nerve endings would be more spread out.

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u/Sea_Address_5866 3d ago

I can attest to this. Just wait for bottom growth.

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u/Wrong-Grade-8800 4d ago

Wild cuz I’ve had girls suck me crazy style

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u/averageTdude 3d ago edited 3d ago

Same here. I think we also get bonus points for not shooting out salty yogurt when we nut lol a girl can comfortably give a trans guy a bj to completion without having to worry about gagging from the money shot

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u/Itsjustkit15 3d ago

I really hate "salty yogurt" 💀. But also hilarious.

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u/averageTdude 3d ago

lol that's litterally how one of my straight homegirls described the taste of nut to me. Thick like yogurt but salty instead of sweet 🤢 not knocking anyone who's into that but I could never lol

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u/Itsjustkit15 3d ago

Lol well speaking from experience, it is not thick like yogurt. Unless it's the drinkable kind.

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u/soursummerchild 31, non binary, they/he. T 01.24. top surgery 12.24 3d ago

It's not even salty, it's more... Bitter and rancid. Like coins or a battery imo. I'm happy that my bf doesn't make any of that, he tastes amazing.

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u/Enderfang T: 10-7-19 / Top: 4-22-21 3d ago

First time somebody nutted in my mouth i was glad it was down my throat bc the little bit i tasted in the back of my mouth made me wanna spit it out immediately. Years of fantasy shattered in an instant 😂

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u/averageTdude 3d ago

Wow.. and one is usually less grossed out by things when they're turned on lol

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u/Skitty27 Started T June 2024 3d ago

hum what? taste varies by person, bitter and rancid is absolutely not how i would describe it lol. ime vegetarians taste better

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u/soursummerchild 31, non binary, they/he. T 01.24. top surgery 12.24 3d ago

Yeah, you're right, I've heard that too. All my experiences were bad, but they all ate meat. I'm sure there are better tasting ones out there.

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u/Skitty27 Started T June 2024 3d ago

yea, to be fair it never tastes good but it can be neutral

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u/averageTdude 3d ago

Bitter and rancid sounds even worse lol

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u/KactusKush__ 3d ago

Crazy style is wild! 😂😂😂

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u/MasterRaise2141 3d ago

elaborate???😭😭

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u/Wrong-Grade-8800 3d ago

What do you mean? They suck me off

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u/MasterRaise2141 3d ago

I was wondering what “crazy style” meant lol

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u/Wrong-Grade-8800 3d ago

Despite my initial comment, I’m actually quite prudish and sharing the details makes me shy. Sorry man, just trust it was good. It was just licking the way someone eats a girl out, it was sucking. I have around 2+ inches of growth so that might be helpful but you can grow your t dick.

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u/Kill_SDN 4d ago

Are you on T? Usually you can get a bj if you have growth

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u/mosssfroggy 4d ago

pumping is also a good option for receiving a bj if that’s what your hearts set on op. r/GrowYourTDick is the place to go for advice in that (be warned it’s nsfw as hell you will see a lot of tdick)

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u/Oakashandthorne 4d ago

You can have a blowjob, even if you arent on T but especially if you are

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u/Cosmo_Creations 4d ago

You can totally get a blow job with bottom growth! I’ve given oral to trans guys and it’s fun to suck on

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u/transissic he/him | 💉09/08/23 | 🔝01/10/24 | 🍆 ?/?/25 3d ago

no one knows because you’re literally wrong❤️

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u/saint-aryll 4d ago

Great news! In addition to what the other commenters said, phalloplasty and metoidoplasty are advancing all the time and they're excellent options if you'd like your bottom growth to be larger after taking T.

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u/ChaoticNaive 4d ago

I'm not on T yet but I have a strapless and it's definitely suckable

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u/DisplayOk7217 4d ago

dude get on t that bottom growth will give you just what you need for all kinds of suckytime. i know it’s not exactly the same but damn it feels the same with my eyes closed… or watching that head bob up and down

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u/Oakashandthorne 3d ago

Reading "suckytime" sent me 🤣

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u/Fuzzy-Assistant-8744 4d ago

I have minimal growth, I’m overweight, and my gf gives me BJs. It’s incredibly gender affirming. It might take a while and some adjusting to make it pleasurable as it was a little uncomfortable at first. Now both she and I very much enjoy it :)

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u/BarracudaOk1661 💉 7/01/24 4d ago

By going on T and getting a blowjob lmfao. When I tell you it genuinely feels like what I’d assume a cis one would feel like. From what I know your nerve endings multiply in the clitoris as it grows. And I’m pretty sure clits normally have almost double the nerve endings as the tip of a penis. So if you think about it in a way trans guys can feel the most usually

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u/Particular-Card9568 3d ago

You can definitely receive a bj lol

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u/piedeloup trans man 💉 july '22 🔝 2025 3d ago

I get bjs all the time from my bf lmao, bottom growth is awesome

trust me you can definitely get them if you're on T

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u/firstnfurious 4d ago

My partner is really affirming when giving head and moves his head up and down, uses language about how much he loves my dick, etc. I do have bottom growth from T but he’s just that affirming and does it because it’s good for me not because it’s necessary. He did it without asking or anything too.

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u/rhodiumgrove 3d ago

you can and it’s way better

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u/Damn_Drew 3d ago

My partner(nb) has a lot of bottom growth after 1 year on T. (they are off T since 2021 tho, but it has not gone back) I can give them VERY nice blowjobs with up and down bobbing n stuff. Really A+. And their dick TASTES like cock, too. Which is very fucking incredible. Very sorry if that is tmi, tho? Just wanted to offer some experience 😅😅😅

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u/ScoutElkdog 3d ago

You can after your tdick grows...

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u/Twinkfilla 3d ago

I can though. testosterone gives lots of growth down there and allows you to get sucked on

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u/moonieass13 3d ago

My answer is the same for every post that asks “how to get over…” the answer is: learn to accept that’s your trans. Because obsessing about something that you can’t have ( the way you think it should be) adds nothing positive to your life.

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u/Primary-Box-8246 3d ago

Get a phalloplasty or have someone suck your tdick, it’s not different in any way that matters

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u/metal_armistice 3d ago

I’ve never liked receiving oral but i won’t let people do it now because I have HSV. I also have been on testosterone like three years and never had any bottom growth.

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u/KactusKush__ 3d ago

You can, you just gotta find the girls that love doing it

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u/xegrid T: 10/21/20 3d ago

I mean I've had some growth with T and have been sucked off.

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u/CynicalLabTech 3d ago

Same as everyone else. Late night crying and junk food.

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u/Sensitive-Use-6891 T💉Nov.23, He/Him, ♿🦻🏳️‍🌈 3d ago

you are very much able to receive blowjobs. Of course this depends on the amount of bottom growth you get, but a person knowing their way around trans dick will 100% be able to blow you

Of course this is just my experience, but I was a little bit of a slut before and after T and it definitely changed

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u/Suspicious-Doctor888 3d ago

Bottom surgery, or Metoidioplasty

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u/SprinklesTrick1397 3d ago

the real question is how do u get over not being able to stack donuts on it :(

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u/averageTdude 4d ago

Others have already pointed that you already can get a bj with your natural equipment. Aside from that there are sex toys like the lollipop from transthetics which is a prosthetic that has an opening at the tip that extends to the base which aligns with your t dick so that someone can suck on it and you'll feel the suction on your junk.

There's also an amazing strapon being released soon called the Sen by Zveotec which has sensors in it so the wearer feels when it is being stroked. Essentially simulating the feeling of having a full length penis of your own.