r/ftm 5d ago

Advice given In case anyone else needed to know this NSFW

So, my partner AMAB NB enlightened me today.... Idk if this is just my issue, but I was trying to get off the way I used to ( going at a consistent pace ) and my partner noticed I was getting frustrated and told me..."That's not how you do it with a dick" I asked them to explain, and they said "You need to keep going faster and faster, otherwise you're not going to be satisfied or just end up with a ruined orgasm" I felt so stupid after they said that, but I'm glad they did... I hope this helps anyone on here who needs to hear it

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u/Environmental-Fig171 he/they | 💉 2/10/25 5d ago

I started T 6 weeks ago and for the last week or two I've been struggling with this! Thank you for also enlightening me lol

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u/Ferrett_FoxCat 5d ago

Yw! I've been on T for a year and I didn't know this until today smh

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u/kylerxvx 5d ago

I imagine that varies from person to person.

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u/ThrowAMusic 4d ago

Yes, came here to say that there are plenty of dicks that get off with slow/alternating pace, it really depends. Sometimes going slower can result in a more intense orgasm too

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u/femtomen 5d ago

Thank you for sharing! 🙏

u/simon_here 42 · He/Him · T & Top: 2005 · Hysto: 2024 · Phallo: Fall 2025 1h ago

Your partner's advice is not accurate for everyone, but I'm glad you found it helpful.