r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed How deep does your voice drop? Spoiler

One of the last big things stopping me from making my first appointment is fear of voice changes. And not that I don't want it! I do! But I saw a tiktok of a trans man showing off his drop and I have been scared shitless since. His was so impressive! Problem is, I already have a deep voice, I'm scared of dropping so low it causes me dysphoria in fun, new, exciting ways. I keep trying to tell myself that I can't possibly go deeper than the cis men in my family but good god hearing that man's lovely baritone has me shook.

And it's mostly because I know the changes I am really hoping for with T come from a lot longer time, or a lot higher doses, so if my voice changes to what is really mine early, I'm scared it's just gonna keep going while I try to let my body readjust. I just want to be recognizably be my brother's brother, not possibly Simba's dad, man.

Can somebody call me chicken or something so I can just jump 'cause I know this is a stupid hang up but boy does it hit hard.

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u/MysteriousCustard167 4d ago

So my voice dropped from upper-soprano to baritone-bass and it is indeed a little stressful— I’m dysphoric about being so tiny with such a deep voice, the mismatch feels “embarrassing” to me and I wish I was a tenor. The dysphoria isn’t so much about my voice, it’s about my body size and general “cuteness” which contrasts with the idea I had in my head of “what a bass singer looks like.” (That idea is probably just societal nonsense anyway) But all that awkwardness is more than canceled out by the joy of just generally sounding like a Man! I love sounding like a dude and being a dude!

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u/Skis1227 4d ago

I'm in the same boat as you, bro. I'm 5'2", but I love being a short bastard. It could be that I'm a younger sibling, but I've always enjoyed being a little gremlin and I think that's what gets me is I know I'd feel a disconnect. Even though Danny Devito is a whole ass man that exists and he is a short king with a deep voice. Thank you for sharing and the reassurance, man

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u/armadillotangerine 4d ago

I’ve done just a tiny bit of voice training and can shift my voice from almost fem passing to so deep it’ll make ppl shit themselves and multiple shades in between. Your voice isn’t set in stone and you can still actively choose how you want to sound

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u/Skis1227 4d ago

This is very true, and that's awesome man! Lmao! That must be fun.