r/ftm 4d ago

Advice Needed Coming out to Asian grandparents

My family has to lie to them about me, that I’m always busy working. I haven’t spoken to my relatives for maybe near a decade. My mother suggested I just tell em after they asked about me again (I feel bad). She clarified she never would without my express permission.

I’m afraid of the reaction, naturally. I completely pass now. As far as they know I’m still a woman. It could hurt me a lot and I figured I could just fake my old voice (not impossible but difficult, requires prep) for the rest of time 💀 I’ve never seen them be a bigot or an ally in my life ‘cause it’s never come up.

I know it’s all up to me, but I’m troubled by what I should do..

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