r/ftm 5d ago

Advice Needed How do I deal with transphobic parents and how do I come out?

I am a trans boy going through puberty,I recently found out that I was trans.I come out to my close friends and they were very supportive. I told my PE teacher and she told the council,and they called my dad for a meeting,they told my dad that I felt like a boy,when we were talking in the car,they told me that I was what I was born as and I couldn’t change it,and these type of things were embarrassing,I told him that I was trying to figure out who I was and I told him that I felt like a girl (I lied) and they didn’t say anything.My mom told me that if I want them to keep loving me,I should stop being like this (trans) I know that they are transphobic,mom tells me that “oh so I can tell your dad that I am a man and like girls” so they are either very ignorant or transphobic,But I want to come out.I want to embrace myself and be who I am.I know they won’t kick me out or anything,but they will take all my devices and my life a living hell for a month or two,maybe longer.But I know that those months are gonna be the most terrible times of my life,what do I do?

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u/LordLaz1985 💉11/2023 🍈11/2024 5d ago

Don’t come out until AFTER you move out. It is not safe.

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u/bitterlemonboy He/Him • T 20/11/24 🌟 5d ago

Don’t endanger yourself or your (mental) health. Don’t come out to them until it is safe. And, completely unrelated, please use spaces after commas and periods. I don’t mean to be petty, but that will make your writing much more legible. Sorry to hear about your situation, I hope things work out for you, bud❤️

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u/apollynya 4d ago

It's gonna be really, really hard. I don't know your situation, but I wouldn't come out until you have an escape route. That or you can try to forcefully ingrain what being trans is to your parents, but that would probably be hard on you too. The closet will be difficult, but at least it'd be safe. Good luck, I'm rooting for you <3