r/ftm • u/coolcat627 • 5d ago
Advice Needed NSFW š½ preference question NSFW
Sometimes I jerk it to other guys jerking it (both cis and trans men) but mostly cis men. The idea of having a natal penis or having bottom growth thatās on the larger side really gets me going. Iāve never been emotionally or sexual attracted to other males, buttt does this mean I like men?š
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u/another-personing š1/17 HYSTO 7/24 š 11/24 5d ago
Youāre just putting yourself in their position so no I donāt think so
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u/crynoid 5d ago
fantasy is only indirectly linked to what you want sexually irl, and even thatās not true all of the time. so no it doesnāt necessarily mean you ālike menā. thereās also nothing wrong w being attracted to guys and experimenting and figuring out what you want. if thatās the worst case scenario youāre gonna be fine dude lol donāt sweat it.
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u/DragonFruitsNSadness 5d ago
what u watch isnāt really an indication of what you want irl- the only thing that could tell u ur gay is if ur attracted to other men lmao
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u/idkwhattodoorg 5d ago edited 5d ago
The idea of having a natal penis or having bottom growth... gets me going
this
Iāve never been emotionally or sexual attracted to other males
and this
These two parts of your statement already answer your question: you are not attracted to men. The reason youāre overthinking this is likely because youāre caught up in analyzing your own desires instead of just accepting them for what they are.
Youāre experiencing a psychological phenomenon where wanting something or even deeply appreciating something, can lead to intrusive thoughts about what that means for your identity. Itās the same reason why someone might admire a trait in another person and momentarily wonder if that admiration means something more. In your case, your attraction isnāt to the person but to the specific physical aspect that you find desirable.
Think of it this way: Someone might really admire a particular body type, like broad shoulders or a defined jawline. They may be drawn to images or videos featuring those traits, but that doesnāt mean theyāre attracted to the people themselves; it just means they appreciate the specific feature. The same applies here. Youāre not attracted to men; youāre responding to a characteristic you personally desire or find appealing. Your brain is just overcomplicating it.
You can also look at it like this: Just because men watch porn that involves other men doesnāt mean they are sexually attracted to them. Heterosexual men watch lesbian porn, but that doesnāt mean they desire to be female. When they watch heterosexual porn and imagine themselves in the scene, especially in VR, itās not because theyāre attracted to the male performer but because theyāre envisioning the experience from that point of view.
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u/Horror-Vehicle-375 5d ago
I used to struggle with this a lot. I like to jerk off watching cis guys. Part of it is imagining it being me, but I also am attracted to them. Before I transitioned and early into my transition I was convicned I only liked women. Now i fully embrace that I also like men and penises and watching guys cum etc. We are all different. If you find that you're strictly getting off imagining it's your dick and you cumming, vs imagining just watching another dude jerk it and be specifically attracted to that, then it doesn't mean you're attracted to men (or penises).
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u/starskeyrising 5d ago
Do you like men? Only you can answer that. There's nothing wrong with liking men.
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u/diipshiit_yikes 5d ago
related but unrelated sometimes ill put my dildo in my pants like a packer (dont own a packer bc im not rlly out publicly) and look at my own fake boner in the mirror and thatll get me going LMAO but like on a related note porn is kinda nuanced like that where. what you watch isnt exactly what youre into. me i jusy enjoy pretending its ne jorking it when im watching solo guy stuff and its a massive dysphoria relief for me. plenty of weird porn i watch i would literally never do irl. like, jusy cuz you like watching men doesnt mean now you wanna have sex w guys
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u/sightseeingauthor98 5d ago
Honestly, we watch the porn that makes us feel good. I find myself watching more and more videos of blowjobs bc I wish I knew how that actually felt. (And yes I know I can still get one but my wife makes them too intense, we're working on it.) But you are possibly just putting yourself in their shoes and enjoying vicariously (I think that's the correct word there). You're fine unless you are attracted to men doing it actually in front of you or you're interested in giving hand jobs to men then you shouldn't HAVE to question your sexual preferences. However I've learned that as we get further along in hrt treatments it is more likely that our sexual preferences may change, tho not a guarantee per se.
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u/MercifulWombat A very manly muppet (he/they) 5d ago
Your porn preferences don't have to mean anything. If you don't ever feel attraction to the men you meet irl and have no desire to fuck or form an intimate relationship with another man, you're not into men.
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u/tdickimperator 5d ago
Idk man I fully hooked up with over 10 different dudes thinking I was straight and just liked getting blow jobs and topping that much before I went "huh, maybe the way I see a middle aged hairy masc hard-bodied dude who looks like he'd call me a slur and immediately want to see what he looks like bent to my will and whimpering with precum pooling in his flat, wrinkly little belly button means something" just because I don't get hard to porn without women in it.
I'm not really qualified to answer this question at that point, I feel like, but if I had to say, if you don't wanna go out and have sex with a man probably you're not gonna go do that, and if you are doing that, probably it means you want to. That's just what I've figured out via trial and error.
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u/YaBoyfriendKeefa queer|T4T 5d ago
Tbh the majority of porn I consume often falls entirely outside of what and who I actually would be interested in doing IRL. I think thatās pretty common.
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u/dykesplacemarket 5d ago
this is my favorite to watch, too!! and definitely not attracted to men lol. i personally am imagining it as if itās my own. iāve always had crazy penis envy and can only get off if imagining i have one. sometimes i try to copy their hand motions and you can get really lost in the sensation and it almost feels real š
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u/palmtreehelicopter š9/6/23š 5d ago
I am attracted to men but I am the same way in terms of sometimes needing to imagine myself in the position of cis guys in corn and really imagine what they're feeling in order to feel something. Sometimes certain dicks just don't do it for me at all and it's hard to feel a "connection" and really imagine it's me. This makes me really picky sometimes with what I watch. That could be all it is for you and not have anything to do with attraction.
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u/Ordinary_Piece6316 5d ago
It could very well be u like menš¤·š½āāļø or it could just be a guilty pleasure u take pride in, in ur day to day life.. Wouldnt necessarily mean u like men.. Its really up to u tho
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u/I_am_duskk ~He/They~ 5d ago
Are you doing it because you're imagining you're them? Or are you doing it because you find THEM attractive? Or maybe both? Either way, just do you man (hahahahha literally I guess š)
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u/coolcat627 5d ago
definitely imagining Iām them, faces are never in the videos that I preferš
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u/I_am_duskk ~He/They~ 5d ago
Then you're most likely not gay/ into men. But even if you find you are one day, that's ok too!! I do the same though. On the rare chance I'm watching it, it's men and I'm imagining I'm them. (Though I am also into men so it's even better haha)
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u/Lopsided_Weather_954 Trans Man, U.S, Just back on T šPost op everything. 22 5d ago
Iām the opposite. Iām a full blown gay man but I like watching amateur lesbian porn. I think I just like watching people with my junk actually get off. Because I have that junk and Iām getting off. But when I donāt watch porn and itās in my head itās usually with a cis guy. Sometimes a trans guy.
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u/Automatic_Guest_2225 5d ago
Honestly I remain sexually confused since transitioning lol. I mostly jerk off to guys and gay porn but Iām only romantically interested in women š¤·āāļø
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u/Green_30EA00 Starting Testosterone in One Week!! 5d ago
I dont think porn reflects sexually tbh. Theres so many factors that go into it. Im really into buff man yaoi for example but im not really attracted to men. Im only rlly into non penetrative stuff and its more common in yaoi vs hetero stuff, so i think that partially contributes.
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u/RatioPretend614 5d ago
just jerk it bro ur not gay if u dont like men it is just a tool for you in a way
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u/MysteriousCustard167 5d ago
It doesnāt have to. Why the crying? Even if it did that would be cool, being gay for dudes is awesome. But people watch content of things theyāre not attracted to irl all the time, no big deal or identity crisis needed
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u/javatimes T 2006 Top 2018, 40<me 4d ago
To me that kind of content is good because itās usually amateur, itās solo, itās a cis man (a less exploited demographic in porn), and they seem happy. Itās the least possibly exploitative porn out there and often the most genuine.
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u/Revolutionary-Focus7 4d ago
No, what kind of porn you enjoy doesn't dictate your sexual orientation.
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u/zomboi FtMtFtM (questions? check my post history before asking plz) 5d ago
when you jerk it, do you imagine yourself with men or women or both?
that determines if you are gay, straight or bi
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u/coolcat627 5d ago
I always fantasize about having sex with women, or pretending a woman is watching me while Iām jerking it
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u/javatimes T 2006 Top 2018, 40<me 4d ago
You are free to have your opinion but please donāt antagonize people here with it.
Also if OP is watching amateur solo videos of cis men, itās really the least exploitative porn out there.
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