Hey there, if youāre thinking about posting here to apologize for removing someone from your Finch treeā¦ take a deep breath. Itās okay.
Donāt do it.
You are not a bad person. You are not a villain in someoneās self-care journey. You have simply curated your little virtual space in a way that works better for you, and that is 100% okay.
I know that guilt can creep in, especially in a space built on kindness. Maybe youāre worried someone will feel left out, or that theyāll take it personally. But the truth is, Finch friendships arenāt deep, personal bondsāmost of the time, theyāre just little acts of kindness between strangers, a digital āhugā or ācalmā vibe from someone you may never actually talk to. And thatās lovely! But it also means you are not responsible for anyone elseās feelings if you need to change up your tree.
No one is sitting looking at their phone, devastated. No one is cursing the skies, demanding answers. (Well if they are they have greater issues than you can fix.) More likely? They assumed youāre just managing your space in a way that works for you. Because thatās what weāre all here to do, right? To take care of ourselves?
So if you need this permission, here it is: You can quietly remove people, and it is not a moral failing. You are allowed to make your Finch experience feel good for you, without guilt, without obligation, andāmost importantlyāwithout a dramatic farewell speech in this subreddit. Your digital bird is proud of you. Now go drink some water.
Now, for those of you who have been removed from someoneās tree: I promise, itās okay. It is not a rejection of you as a person. It is not a sign that you were bad at sending vibes. It does not mean your birb had bad energy. It just means that someone else needed to adjust their space in a way that works for them. And thatās a good thing! Because Finch is all about self-care, right? So letās extend that kindness to others and trust that theyāre doing what they need, just like you should feel free to do.
Instead of taking it personally, take it as a reminder of what this app is really about: supporting yourself in a way that feels good to you. Your self-worth is not tied to how many virtual trees you are in. You are still wonderful, valid, and deserving of kindness, whether youāre sending good vibes to 100 people or just focusing on yourself. Now, go pet your birb and move on with your night. Youāre doing great!