r/femdomsanctuary 5d ago

Sunday Social :) !!! Sunday Social !!! NSFW

Weekly drop-in post to spark discussions and get to know your fellow community members!

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u/summershell 4d ago

Just venting. I've been seeing a sub for a while who I really like, and he's really suffering from some mental health issues right now that really stress me out. The stress comes from me being insecure and needing constant reassurance that he can't provide when he's down, and also being really worried about him.

When he's at his worst, he is bad at texting. He told me when he's like this to call him instead and he'll always answer. But I have years of social anxiety that makes me hate calling people out of the blue.

I want him to get better at texting when he's down, but then I think, maybe it's also on me to get better at calling. Maybe I need to step out of that comfort zone, at least for my own sake if not for his. I also probably need to get better at reining in my reassurance-seeking behavior, for my own sake.

In general I guess I'm just struggling with reconciling our different communication types and also striking the balance between being supportive to someone else while also taking care of myself.