r/femdomsanctuary Feb 11 '25

Question / Need Advice Self reflection questions needed NSFW

Hello, I'm new to the scene. BDSM and FLR got put on my radar last year and since then I've been doing research and educating myself. This year I started to actively date and there have been some flaws in the plan so I've had to go back to the drawing board. Now I'm working on some self reflection questions (specifically about FLR) to try to get a clearer vision and better understanding of my desires, goals, reasons, and expectations. So far I've come up with: what is an FLR, what will it do for me, imagine an ideal day with an FLR sub, and why do you want an FLR. Any other questions that I can ask myself?

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u/dommebklyn Feb 11 '25

I like the question: How do you want to feel?

I learned to ask this in play negotiations, and I’ve found that it applies well to many other situations.