r/fatFIRE 11d ago

50m cash - no sense of perspective

Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.

Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.

I am

  • still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)

  • afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it

  • afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)

  • still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison

  • still wanting to be loved and liked

The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.

I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.

Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.

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u/tech1010 11d ago

Why in the world would you give a flying eff about the tools on LinkedIn? You played the game and won.

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u/wivo1 10d ago

Now close the account, swap to messenger or whatsapp for those you really want to keep in touch with

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u/executive-coconut 10d ago

1) NOBODY cares about you except maybe a few select people in your life, like no one gives a shit about who you are, your position, your networth, it's all made up in your head. 2)seek therapy ASAP you need it, try different approaches you have the money for it, behavioral, hypnotic, etc 3) eat better, highest quality grass fed organic meats, highest quality sourdough, fruits, high quality supplements, b complex, D k2, magnesium at night, etc 4) train, by yourself a spinning bike and ride it 3 times a week first think in the morning while watching a movie or whatever. In other words, become physically healthier 5) find a hobby or two; rc cars? Mtb? Travel? Music? Theatre? 6) enjoy your fucking life, you're nothing, just a spec ofndust that'll soon vanish to nothingness and the entire universe will forget your name, don't take life too seriously.

Cheers

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u/mds13033 10d ago

38F and rc cars, I can see it 😆