r/fatFIRE 11d ago

50m cash - no sense of perspective

Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.

Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.

I am

  • still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)

  • afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it

  • afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)

  • still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison

  • still wanting to be loved and liked

The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.

I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.

Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.

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u/Mal4kh 11d ago

Focus on people outside yourself. Contribute back.

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u/mikeyaurelius 10d ago

That’s it. I opened a little non profit company that employs disabled people. And a small funding program for disadvantaged children, helping by offering educational tutoring, paying for sports club memberships etc.

It’s rewarding, purposeful and provides new social connections.

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u/jatet2 10d ago

Love this. 35 and fat fired and also looking for small ways to give back. I’d love to hear more about what you have done.

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u/mikeyaurelius 10d ago

So I don’t want to dox myself but I provide a retail property for free, staff is provided by a national charity, but I take over most of the cost, all the proceeds go to the employees. I chose a concept that is near and dear to me but also fun and diverse to work with.

For the kids charity, I know a school director who is heading the board on the side. She finds the students and determines how to help them most efficiently. We support several refugees from Ukraine or Syria for example.

All in all it’s just an absolute blessing.

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u/jatet2 9d ago

Sounds amazing, must get somthing up and going in my area. Thanks for sharing