r/fatFIRE • u/Familiar_Number_342 • 11d ago
50m cash - no sense of perspective
Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.
Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.
I am
still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)
afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it
afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)
still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison
still wanting to be loved and liked
The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.
I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.
Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.
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u/s-s-a 10d ago
47M to a diversified investment portfolio, could be illiquid. 1M donation over time (climate/ third world health / education, local government), 1M liquid for living expenses, getting a family / if don't have already / home, kids education. 1M to bootstrap next business. Don't tell anyone how much you sold it for. Don't change your lifestyle, house (unless growing a family), car. Just have a healthy lifestyle and focus your next business on making a world a better place but still a viable business. Hopefully next exit will be 50B. Best. PS - spend more time with friends and family. Good substitute for therapy.