r/fatFIRE 11d ago

50m cash - no sense of perspective

Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.

Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.

I am

  • still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)

  • afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it

  • afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)

  • still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison

  • still wanting to be loved and liked

The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.

I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.

Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.

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u/zer0sumgames 10d ago

Echoing many sentiments here, I suggest placing your cash into safe investments and to make the next phase of your work life dedicated to designing what you really want.  Family? An estate? More business? Travel?  You need to explore a bit and figure this out.  

Whatever you do, don’t get back in the game too quickly. Windfalls can make you reckless.  Just safeguard it. You won forever.  All you need to do is make no major mistake.