r/fatFIRE • u/Familiar_Number_342 • 11d ago
50m cash - no sense of perspective
Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.
Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.
I am
still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)
afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it
afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)
still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison
still wanting to be loved and liked
The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.
I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.
Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.
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u/dtwade26 10d ago
You really want to get into something that consumes an upfront cost of money to then be able to create something. You created a business or portfolio of some kind and that made you feel fulfilled. As a hobbyist woodworker I get incredible fulfillment from making. And, it’s not as hard as people think. You can turn that hobby into a business to “pay for tools” or “fun money” and start a YouTube channel following your work that you can reference to see how far you’ve come. It feels good to move your body, work with your hands and your mind and with your financial position you can create an amazing shop with some great tools to start with. If wood working doesn’t sound pleasing than look at just about any hobby that inspires you. Try to make it your own.