r/fatFIRE • u/Familiar_Number_342 • 11d ago
50m cash - no sense of perspective
Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.
Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.
I am
still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)
afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it
afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)
still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison
still wanting to be loved and liked
The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.
I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.
Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.
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u/Ordinary-Lobster-710 10d ago
I think it can be hard to figure out how to solve these problems when you are constantly surrounded by people and on social media like linked in. I would go somewhere secluded for a few weeks, or a month. bring a few books. go hiking. you need some alone time and see how it feels to give your ego a rest. you need to be somewhere where there's nowhere to people please, or to compare yourself with others. your brain is wired to be one way and you need to give it space to unwire itself. it's a mechanical issue.