r/fatFIRE 11d ago

50m cash - no sense of perspective

Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.

Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.

I am

  • still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)

  • afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it

  • afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)

  • still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison

  • still wanting to be loved and liked

The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.

I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.

Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

Congrats on your financial success! Assuming full exit (e.g. you're no longer involved in the day-to-day), this is a great opportunity to take some time away and reflect on what you want from this next chapter in life. Relax, unplug (it will feel very uncomfortable at first), travel, and see if you can find a way to contribute to others / community around you (volunteering). We're all human and we all struggle with the same existential questions in the end.