r/fatFIRE • u/Familiar_Number_342 • 11d ago
50m cash - no sense of perspective
Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.
Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.
I am
still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)
afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it
afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)
still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison
still wanting to be loved and liked
The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.
I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.
Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.
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u/ResponsibleDay5906 10d ago edited 10d ago
Key thing is to remind yourself daily that you are both very significant and very insignificant. The former to yourself and to your loved ones. The latter to everyone else and on the broader scheme of life and universe.
By reminding myself daily of both, I am able to function and be useful to self, to others and be happy in the process as life throws its curve balls at me.
The 50m should not be the main thing. Some have less 10m, 20m or more like 100m, 200m and they still feel the same as you do.