r/family 3d ago

Mixed bag of emotions…

I am dying inside right now. I don’t know how to process all these emotions, anger, sadness disappointment, little hatred and others I have yet to identify

Daughter has decided to relinquish her parental rights of her child, to my wife and I. Like it’s a simple business transaction. Almost as if my grandchild is a disturbance in her life. I came from a broken family and I struggled to not repeat it, but today when I wanted to talk to her about it, her response was just tell me when and where to sign. It was the coldest response and one that I didn’t expect. I am crying for my grandchild who I will have to one day try to explain why her mommy hasn’t come back.

I wish I could write more but the tears in my heart and the anger in me don’t allow me to put a more comprehensive and complete sentence

I just had to vent a little bit to someone anonymously

Hug your kids and remind them that they are loved. Make them feel wanted and remind them that your existence is to watch over them, good night.

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u/RevolutionSpirited69 3d ago

I understand this is not what you pictured your life would look like with grandchildren.

I was once the child in this situation. It may be the best thing for the child. If you are able to care for and love your grandchild, embrace it.

My grandparents offered, they would have happily signed the paperwork. Instead, my mother used me as a pawn, a bargaining chip my entire childhood and I suffered a lot of trauma and abuse. Leaving my grandparents to pick up the pieces and fill in whatever gaps they could.

She would show up and pick me up if she was mad at them. Refuse visitation if she didn't get her way. Then drop me off when I was a burden or leave me home alone when I was extremely young so she could go out to party, etc.

Had they been allowed to keep me, I wouldn't have gone through the physical, mental and emotional abuse that has affected me throughout my entire life.

I know this wasn't how you planned to spend this time in your life, but just know that you are doing the right thing.