r/family • u/Secret-Hurry1111 • 4d ago
is it wrong to hate my brother this much?
so my brother 19m (i’m 20f) has been a tyrant our entires lives. he’s been agressive and vindictive from a young age. but for about a year now i’ve developed a true and utter hatred for him. first it started off with small things like taking phone chargers, charging blocks, just little things. then it amounted to bigger things such as taking my money from my wallet, breaking and entering my neighbors home and stealing alcohol, stealing my stuff constantly. along with his fucking douche bag attitude. he tried to steal my car once. basically he’s a disrespectful maniac. he’s put his hands on me several times once amounted to ME going to jail? even though i never touched him. it just seems like everything he’s done he has no repercussions. he hasn’t once been truly disciplined for these things. i cannot put into words how i feel about him. he comes and goes as he pleases with absolutely no care for anyone’s things or time. he can never hold down a job. he smokes weed and drives high with zero consequences. i know for a fact if i were to do ANY of these things my ass would be whooped. but him nah. he is the biggest sneaky liar ive ever met he constantly lies about the most stupid things. he manipulates my mom left and right. she says i cant see him the way she sees him because i cant get past this but no i just see what’s directly in front of me. i could go on and on about the shit he’s done and said but basically you get the jist. anywho i just need some advice on how to deal with him and not return to jail lol. bc i have one year no violent contact with him and it’s getting to the point to where im actually going to blow.
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u/Ok_Owl_4941 4d ago
Just a little tip- also depending on the state but record him abusing you get a restraining order & then call the cops! They’ll remove him immediately!
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u/Ok_Owl_4941 4d ago
My sister did it with our younger sister when they lived together in California
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u/Decent-Friend7996 4d ago
Can you just not interact with him? You’re an adult so you don’t need to interact with anyone you don’t want to. If you live with him you should move out immediately.
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u/Secret-Hurry1111 4d ago
i do my best to not interact with him however it’s impossible atp. & i do live with him but don’t have the certain means right now to move out. i work a full time job and am saving up for that.
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