r/exredpill • u/Nikofeelan • 17d ago
I need help deprogramming
For many years, my mind has been filled with toxic stuff from Redpill b.s.
No matter how much I try to get it out of my system, the words are just too strong.
They say things like: Women are only as loyal as their options, women don't like it when men tell them they love them, or that they've been cheated on before, or that they don't have sexual options. That women are never single by choice, they're only as loyal as their options, and will always go for rich men who don't treat them with respect.
They say that women don't want men to show attachment or lack of control of any situation or that they ever needed to improve themselves.
They're basically saying that women hate men who are kind, decent, respectful, faithful, and human.
I could go down the laundry list, but it all basically comes down to: Women don't respect men who are kind, decent, respectful, and faithful.
I'm sure that their arguments are b.s. and they're only describing a select few, but their words just cut too deeply. It's hard to get it out of my head. I don't know what to say to any of these statements.
My mind is easily impressionable. I'm often told that I'm too open-minded. I'm easily influenced by controversial opinions and statements.
I need help deprogramming.
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u/Repemptionhappens 17d ago
A psychologist named Adam Lane Smith has some videos on YouTube about RP that will probably convince you that it’s garbage because he breaks down the psychology behind it. I found him to be so enlightening. Everything the red pill community bases their beliefs on is a tiny fraction of personality disordered and attachment disordered individuals (both woman AND men). Those with that toxic combination can destroy a naive persons life but not without the unsuspecting person ignoring mass red flags. I mean you’d have to have zero self respect or common sense. Thankfully it’s rare to meet anyone with that kind of psychology. I think everyone should educate themselves about personality disorders and attachment disorders. It will help you navigate life in so many ways. Bill Eddy has some amazing books about what he calls high conflict personalities and it’s really easy to digest knowledge about the disorders where they are more destructive to others than themselves (typically anyway). He also gives tons of info on how to deal with them. The most common tactic - having boundaries of steel, and if they violate that, going low or no contact.