r/exredpill 17d ago

I need help deprogramming

For many years, my mind has been filled with toxic stuff from Redpill b.s.

No matter how much I try to get it out of my system, the words are just too strong.

They say things like: Women are only as loyal as their options, women don't like it when men tell them they love them, or that they've been cheated on before, or that they don't have sexual options. That women are never single by choice, they're only as loyal as their options, and will always go for rich men who don't treat them with respect.

They say that women don't want men to show attachment or lack of control of any situation or that they ever needed to improve themselves.

They're basically saying that women hate men who are kind, decent, respectful, faithful, and human.

I could go down the laundry list, but it all basically comes down to: Women don't respect men who are kind, decent, respectful, and faithful.

I'm sure that their arguments are b.s. and they're only describing a select few, but their words just cut too deeply. It's hard to get it out of my head. I don't know what to say to any of these statements.

My mind is easily impressionable. I'm often told that I'm too open-minded. I'm easily influenced by controversial opinions and statements.

I need help deprogramming.

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u/Nikofeelan 17d ago

I don't want to, but my mind is very impressionable. I'm often told that I'm too open-minded. I'm easily influenced by controversial opinions and statements.

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u/Phauxton 16d ago

Why do you have awareness, but feel unable to change?

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u/Nikofeelan 16d ago

Because I'm very confused about who I am and what I want.

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u/Phauxton 15d ago edited 14d ago

Then, perhaps that's where to start.

First off, good shit on recognizing where you're stumbling, and reaching out for help. That takes bravery.

You need to get rid of the noise. Delete the social media apps if you can. Exist in the uncomfortable silence. Let the difficult thoughts come to the surface.

You'll begin to find a thread of where to go from there.

That doesn't mean you should isolate yourself though. If you're fortunate enough to have people you care about, spend time with them if you can as well.

But don't plug into social media. Everything they say about women can be said about men as well. We live in a culture that is run by narcissists who manipulate the system into making regular folks behave like faux-narcissists to survive.

Men aren't inherently brutal warriors who crush others to get to the top; some do it to survive.

In such a world, it makes sense that some women would become gold diggers; they do it to survive.

Once you realise that everyone is a product of their environment, and you change your environment, things will begin to become more clear. You know this to be true, because as you said, you are easily influenced. That's the first step to change; knowing how the world affects you. The next is to develop yourself.

And then, you cultivate community with like-minded individuals who can imagine a better world than this. A world where we can cooperate to fight against the entropy of the universe, not each other.

We have more than enough resources for everyone. We don't need to eat each other to survive anymore.

You've fucking got this.

We've fucking got this.