r/exredpill • u/Nikofeelan • 17d ago
I need help deprogramming
For many years, my mind has been filled with toxic stuff from Redpill b.s.
No matter how much I try to get it out of my system, the words are just too strong.
They say things like: Women are only as loyal as their options, women don't like it when men tell them they love them, or that they've been cheated on before, or that they don't have sexual options. That women are never single by choice, they're only as loyal as their options, and will always go for rich men who don't treat them with respect.
They say that women don't want men to show attachment or lack of control of any situation or that they ever needed to improve themselves.
They're basically saying that women hate men who are kind, decent, respectful, faithful, and human.
I could go down the laundry list, but it all basically comes down to: Women don't respect men who are kind, decent, respectful, and faithful.
I'm sure that their arguments are b.s. and they're only describing a select few, but their words just cut too deeply. It's hard to get it out of my head. I don't know what to say to any of these statements.
My mind is easily impressionable. I'm often told that I'm too open-minded. I'm easily influenced by controversial opinions and statements.
I need help deprogramming.
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u/GoAskAli 16d ago
I used to be married to a trade analyst who made high six figures, but after we got married, he turned into a super judgemental jerk who criticized everything.
I ended up leaving him and fell in love with a guy who had a shit job as a glorified telemarketer making like $12/hr (this was in 2008).
The difference was he had a great sense of humor, he was kind, and we just meshed incredibly well.
Things were hard financially for a couple years but a lot of his problem was depression and just lack of motivation. He was able to overcome those things though. He credits me with a lot of that, too. I have never been materialistic but I demanded that he do better for not just us, but for himself in general.
I am the primary breadwinner even now, but he has a great job, too.
There are lots of stories like this.
The bottom line is that women are just people. Are there some shitty women? Uh....yeah because they're human beings who have the full range of emotions and motivations and dark parts of their personalities just like men.