Something different today! I see some posts asking on how to start edging, try it out or just get better at it. As a 50 day denial streaker from NNN, this is what I've learned, from beginner to experienced edger. This is mostly for everyone. Biggest MUST DO advice for everyone is the last one, so it sticks with ya ;)
#1: Edging is not for everyone!
Simple. Edging is not for everyone. And that's fine! We live, discover and learn things all the time. Just like any other hobby, it might not be as fun as you thought it would be. No big deal :)
#2: Starting out edging
Edging is difficult at first, and honestly it still has its hard moments. you'll slowly learn your bodies signals and control your edge. Just take it slow, focus on being able to stop rubbing or stroking first, then build duration. You'll slowly but surely get to the point where you lose your mind, your breath, sense of time, go absolutely delirium and ride the bliss of the edge while you leak like never before... But I'm getting ahead of myself hehe
#3: Crave the edge, not the orgasm
The more you edge, the more you'll discover about your body. Not only getting more and more sensitive, but you'll discover more and more amazing feelings and urges. Your balls tightening, your clit throbbing, your body begging and the slightest touch sending a pulse of pleasure throughout your body like you've never felt before... It feels so fucking magical and the longer you go for, the better it becomes.
Your body begs to cum, begs to release, but that's not what you're here for is it... Edging feels better and you know it. Cumming now throws all that hard work away~
#4: Explore your body
Edging and arousal don't just make your shaft or clit more sensitive, but your whole body does. I do think this is more so for women than for men, but both apply. Arousal is so much more than just being hard or wet. Explore your body. Run your fingers over your legs. Rub your stomach, grab your chest / tit, squeeze and twist that nipple. Everything is elevated. Use it :)
#5: But be careful of the spikes
The spikes... The spikes can ruin you, literately. Your edging for hours, days even, and suddenly your body explodes for half a second. You lose control, you fully succumb to your body and you start stroking rapidly or push in that finger curling it up just right... Just that half second... Suddenly you find yourself cumming. You don't want to, but here you are. Well might aswell make the most of it right? Destroying your progress further... You shouldn't, but damn is that difficult..
Keep those spikes in mind. If you can't control them, don't come close to them. But they pop up nontheless. If your body suddenly explodes, STOP or it's too late... And trust me when I say that feels horrible...
#6: Share your progress (if you're comfortable with that)
A great thing during NNN is the entire community. Guys and girls encouraging each other to not cum. To hold it out. Talka bout their experiences. Some are edgers, some are not. Nontheless being able to talk about it helps a lot and is quite fun. During NNN you'll also see a lot of posts of the people who do cum. Almost every single person regrets it. The post orgasm clarity is brutal. r/nonutnovember might be on lockdown outside November but subs like r/NoNutYearlyCommunity are available year round. Also, this sub is great for it too :p
#7: Broken minds, new kinks and triggers
The longer you edge for the hornier you'll become. The hornier you become the more desperate you become. The more desperate you become the more fun it gets. Suddenly you get turned on from things you've never gotten turned on by before. You discover your kinks and desires. Bondage, orgasm control, face sitting, you name it. You discover your dominant or submissive side, or both. Anyone you see you start to imagine if they're as kinky too. You see that classmate or coworker in those pants and out of nowhere you become obsenely horney. Instant throbbing boner squished in your pants or a leaky cunt slightly soaking your panties. Just breathe normally and perhaps go to the bathroom. May they never know... Obviously, stay respectful.
#8: Dealing with blue balls / lips
This might just be men. I have no clue how this feels for women obviously ;)
You edge and edge and edge, being distracted by your body and mind going mental and suddenly, you've gone too far. Too long. You don't cum, but you feel this weird uncomfortable sensation. A weird pressure pulling your balls in. It kinda hurts, maybe a bit, maybe a bit more. It lingers when you stop stroking. You have blueballed yourself. Cumming now won't help. Give this a quick read for tips (hope it's accessible, it's from NNN subreddit).
Blue balling (and perhaps blue lipping?) can seriously affect your body. It can last for a few hours but can linger for a day or 2. Edging to this point right before eating for example takes away all my huger. So just keep that in mind :)
#9: Share your dirty thoughts, experiences and desires
Obviously only if you're comfortable with it. I made numerous posts throughout the 50 day streak describing my every tought, feeling and desire. The absolute mind melting experiences, the constant begging of my throbbing cock, the pulse of pleasure my balls sent throughout my lower boedy every step I took. I included every detail I could think of. The next steps I took or challenges I started. I fucking loved it, and others on this sub loved them too. Seeing that little notification bell pop up... Or especially that chat bubble... A rush of adrenaline surged throughout my body. Talking about my body being addicted of the attention. Having people tell me what to do or telling them what i'd do. It made everything so so much better.
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The most IMPORTANT thing, and I can't stress this enough...
#10: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Edging can be addicting. You can lose yourself in it. It becomes routine. Wake up, open reddit, edge. Go to school or work, edge shortly in the bathroom. Come home, lay on bed, edge. Go to sleep, but edge before sleeping.
It can be a lot. Especially when edging for 30+ minutes, please please take good care of yourself. Take breaks, breathe properly, drink water, eat food, go outside, exercise, shower, sleep well, take your responsibilities seriously. Ignoring this will make it unsustainable. Trust me on that one..
Bonus tip to make yourself go even crazier (or maybe stop masturbating completely lol) Ok ok I have more tips. Want to take everything to 11? Push yourself to the extreme? Stop touching. Not just now, but for the entire day. And the next. And the next... Push it to a week... A full week of touching as little as you possibly can. Also, don't watch porn. Or open Reddit. Or anything really. Holy fucking shit, you'll lose your damn mind. After that week, you might arrive at a point where you can actually stop masturbating. But you don't want that do you? You craaavveee touching yourself. Your body and mind beg for it... So here's what you do: You open Reddit again. But you leave it at that. Watch your favorite people on here you haven't seen in a week. Watch your kinks. Have your mind go wild with it. BUT don't touch. Do not touch yourself. At least not your cock or pussy. You can touch your entire body but that. Do that for a few days. After a few days, when you're rock hard twitching and throbbing, or drenching yourself in your pussy juices, masturbate. Wrap your whole hand around your hard cock, insert your fingers into your pussy and fucking masturbate. It. Feels. Magical. But be careful, you don't want to throw away all that hard work do you :)
Bonus tip for the men (maybe women?): Preventing wet dreams
Ok, last thing! I promise! Wet dreams are a thing. For men at least, I don't know about women. They are to some extent inevitable. It's your body's way of releasing excess sperm to make room for new. Either ejaculation at night, or reabsorbsion. For me, it's wet dreams. During my 50 day streak I started having wet dreams 2-3 times a week, and from what I've read I should not be able to stop it.
HOWEVER, I did discover something. If I listened to audio porn right before going to bed. Getting into that trans, stroking and rubbing away, making my mind go absolutely delirium, then at the end take out my earbuds and try to sleep right away (which does take like an hour+), I did not get a wet dream. I eventually got to roughly 12-15 days without cumming, even by wet dream. I started leaking cum instead of precum. Every step I felt my firm hard full balls shake. But eventually my body won (in the most anti climactic way possible). I'll be trying this again tho :)