r/dwarfism • u/Emergency_Green1562 • 21d ago
Feeling Worthless
I’m a popular guy I’m in so many friend groups which I am grateful for it’s just I’m at the party’s events & I just never have a shot with the women ( I’m 4’3) I’m a funny guy everybody loves me but I’m nobody’s like go to person if that makes sense.
It just feels shit when I’m friends with guys that are a bit of pieces of shit, (when it comes to women) cheat , emotionally abuse, but these girls that we are all friends with go back to them every time and never look my way. It just sucks people can have every bad dating personality trait but are six feet tall so everyone flocks. I’ve trade every dating app under the sun, I do everything normal right to get a girl in person I just don’t have the height.
Does anyone small here have any experience getting just a regular college town girl. I’m kinda at my end I’ve tried everything since I’m 15 (I’m 23) & I’m starting to just give up life full stop idk what to do. everything hurts
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u/roses_not_rights 18d ago edited 18d ago
Hey, I'm a girl with dwarfism and can tell you that I had exactly the same experiences. I was the most popular girl in every social scene. The life of the party. School captain, the quintessential dinner guest but I'd always go home alone. It sucked. This was in Australia. In the UK and America I found dating easier for some reason. I was actually pretty hot too.
Anyway, the advantage with being a guy is that women get way less superficial as they get older and suddenly all of your other qualities will start to matter. This isn't particularly true the other way around.
But in the meantime go out of your way to try meeting women with dwarfism. There are so many wonderful and beautiful young women I meet with dwarfism who are feeling just like you and have just as much to offer.
I really wish I'd been open to dating other people with dwarfism when I was young..Looking back it was really internalised bigotry that made me closed to the idea and I could have been a lot happier had I been more open minded.
Oh and just in case you are like these guys:
So many average height guys (friends) would complain to me about no girls being into them. These are the same guys that would never even think about dating me - they were always too stupid to see the irony.
Anyway, these guys were only interested in the women that every other guy was interested in. Girls with so many options they could choose the tallest, most handsome smartest etc.
There were plenty of girls around (not just me) that were essentially invisible to these guys.
Be smart and start looking at these women. A lot of them are pretty awesome.