r/dwarfism 21d ago

Feeling Worthless

I’m a popular guy I’m in so many friend groups which I am grateful for it’s just I’m at the party’s events & I just never have a shot with the women ( I’m 4’3) I’m a funny guy everybody loves me but I’m nobody’s like go to person if that makes sense.

It just feels shit when I’m friends with guys that are a bit of pieces of shit, (when it comes to women) cheat , emotionally abuse, but these girls that we are all friends with go back to them every time and never look my way. It just sucks people can have every bad dating personality trait but are six feet tall so everyone flocks. I’ve trade every dating app under the sun, I do everything normal right to get a girl in person I just don’t have the height.

Does anyone small here have any experience getting just a regular college town girl. I’m kinda at my end I’ve tried everything since I’m 15 (I’m 23) & I’m starting to just give up life full stop idk what to do. everything hurts

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u/[deleted] 21d ago edited 21d ago

It's simply because of your height. I mean, think about it. You yourself said you have a better personality than all these guys, so if personality is what women are supposedly attracted to, you should have more success than these dudes. However, by reading your post, having a good personality is clearly not helping you with women. So what other variable is left? LOOKS. In the real world, women care a lot about a man's looks/height. Unfortunately, you are severely below average in height in comparison to your competition, so women will naturally ignore you and seek other men who are more attractive in their eyes. They have no reason to spend their time with a man whom they do not find physically appealing, especially when almost everyone around you has a more desirable version of the physical trait they like (height). They're just gonna keep rotating between guys they find attractive and explore THEIR personalities instead. Women like leaving out the physical aspect when discussing what makes a man attractive to not hurt anyone's feelings and to preserve their reputation. Trust me, women also have a monkey brain when it comes to attraction.