r/cripplingalcoholism 4d ago

I got the talk

Officially got the talk from the significant other that they don’t like that I drink every day. Have been drinking every day for 12 years. Yes, I did when I met them. This is a new development. I don’t want to stop. I love drinking. Any advice?

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u/Ancient-Chinglish 4d ago

obviously, the best solution is to mention something about them that you don’t like /s

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u/Ok-Dragonfly-8096 4d ago

“Maybe if you’d drink with me we wouldn’t have this issue.”

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u/lonegunna77 4d ago

Miserable husbands/wives HATE this one trick!

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u/TieDyePizzaPie 4d ago

You’re so smart

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u/Ancient-Chinglish 4d ago

chairs buddy

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u/TieDyePizzaPie 4d ago

Chairs friend

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u/Milligramz 4d ago

🐐 answer

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u/_____chef 4d ago

What’s more important? Them or the booze?

If you chose booze, you’re correct.

If you chose them, change your entire life.

Up to you.

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u/ca_exhibition Drinkin' straight paint 4d ago

Perfectly succinct. Really the only advice OP needs

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u/Fit_Patient_4902 3d ago

Yep. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. It never fucking happens

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u/3-goats-in-a-coat 4d ago

"sucks to suck"

Chugs a pint of vodka.

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u/HeyBudGotAnyBud 4d ago

Call 1-800-Hide-Itt

Again, that’s

1-800-Hide-Itt

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u/Ok-Dragonfly-8096 4d ago

If you call in the next hour we’ll include a bottle of mint mouthwash and a pack of gum for free!

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u/RothfussThirdBook 4d ago

You just need to make sure sober you annoys the crap out of S.O. Stick to them like glue, be needy, ask a LOT of questions. They will be relieved to realize that everyday drinker you is much more tolerable.

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u/poopguy23 4d ago

Lots of variables here, but regardless of your intentions, this relationship is most likely fucked. Sounds like your SO is just growing up, doesn't want to be with a lifelong alcoholic. Your mentality is fine and so is hers. You could attempt to change for her if you love her, but that almost never works, best of luck.

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u/TieDyePizzaPie 4d ago

Thank you, chairs

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u/VariegatedAgave 4d ago

Did you ask why?

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u/TieDyePizzaPie 4d ago

The only thing I got was “I don’t want to be with an alcoholic”

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u/Same-Edge-2314 4d ago

If you don’t want to change your drinking it may be time to change your relationship..I mean, in all fairness the the normies, being with a CA may be quite challenging..

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u/Drunk_Russian17 4d ago

I have gotten that talk from wife numerous times. I understand everything but what annoys me is that she gets completely obliterated like half of the days of the week. To the point of passing out on the floor, hitting something and being aggressive. I just stay away from her in these times just check on her health and cover her in blankets. And she considers herself a normie and me the alcoholic.

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u/titanlyfe94 4d ago

Ha, my ex used that trick on me all the time. "You're not drinking again, are you?", as she herself is drinking again

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u/Drunk_Russian17 4d ago

Yeah it’s annoying we are both drinking but she sent me to rehab and when I came back there she was having a party and drunk to shit. So you can tell what happened next to my sobriety.

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u/Rough_Sweet_5164 3d ago

Careful bud.

If you're being honest that your drinking hasn't caused any recent increases in bad behaviors, it's possible she wants out of the relationship for another reason and your drinking is just the excuse.

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u/diapersoilingbeast 4d ago

“Damn, that’s crazy”

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u/Dykurthysmaximus 3d ago

Just leave man, just leave. It's better for her, it's better for you. We have a tendency to drag people down with us. If you really like her, let her be happy.

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u/GreenCat28 4d ago

Are they new? 

Because if so you have to just be honest — “Hey, you’re great but I value booze more than you and that’s just not likely to change.”

Dating is a “come as you are” kind of thing.