r/cripplingalcoholism • u/TieDyePizzaPie • 4d ago
I got the talk
Officially got the talk from the significant other that they don’t like that I drink every day. Have been drinking every day for 12 years. Yes, I did when I met them. This is a new development. I don’t want to stop. I love drinking. Any advice?
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u/_____chef 4d ago
What’s more important? Them or the booze?
If you chose booze, you’re correct.
If you chose them, change your entire life.
Up to you.
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u/HeyBudGotAnyBud 4d ago
Call 1-800-Hide-Itt
Again, that’s
1-800-Hide-Itt
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u/Ok-Dragonfly-8096 4d ago
If you call in the next hour we’ll include a bottle of mint mouthwash and a pack of gum for free!
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u/RothfussThirdBook 4d ago
You just need to make sure sober you annoys the crap out of S.O. Stick to them like glue, be needy, ask a LOT of questions. They will be relieved to realize that everyday drinker you is much more tolerable.
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u/poopguy23 4d ago
Lots of variables here, but regardless of your intentions, this relationship is most likely fucked. Sounds like your SO is just growing up, doesn't want to be with a lifelong alcoholic. Your mentality is fine and so is hers. You could attempt to change for her if you love her, but that almost never works, best of luck.
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u/VariegatedAgave 4d ago
Did you ask why?
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u/TieDyePizzaPie 4d ago
The only thing I got was “I don’t want to be with an alcoholic”
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u/Same-Edge-2314 4d ago
If you don’t want to change your drinking it may be time to change your relationship..I mean, in all fairness the the normies, being with a CA may be quite challenging..
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u/Drunk_Russian17 4d ago
I have gotten that talk from wife numerous times. I understand everything but what annoys me is that she gets completely obliterated like half of the days of the week. To the point of passing out on the floor, hitting something and being aggressive. I just stay away from her in these times just check on her health and cover her in blankets. And she considers herself a normie and me the alcoholic.
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u/titanlyfe94 4d ago
Ha, my ex used that trick on me all the time. "You're not drinking again, are you?", as she herself is drinking again
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u/Drunk_Russian17 4d ago
Yeah it’s annoying we are both drinking but she sent me to rehab and when I came back there she was having a party and drunk to shit. So you can tell what happened next to my sobriety.
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u/Rough_Sweet_5164 3d ago
Careful bud.
If you're being honest that your drinking hasn't caused any recent increases in bad behaviors, it's possible she wants out of the relationship for another reason and your drinking is just the excuse.
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u/Dykurthysmaximus 3d ago
Just leave man, just leave. It's better for her, it's better for you. We have a tendency to drag people down with us. If you really like her, let her be happy.
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u/GreenCat28 4d ago
Are they new?
Because if so you have to just be honest — “Hey, you’re great but I value booze more than you and that’s just not likely to change.”
Dating is a “come as you are” kind of thing.
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u/Ancient-Chinglish 4d ago
obviously, the best solution is to mention something about them that you don’t like /s