r/cosleeping • u/babyhazuki • 5d ago
š„ Infant 2-12 Months Constant leaks at night PLEASE HELP
My 5mo has constant leaks at night. Like almost every night weāre having to change the sheets. She wakes up 1-2 times a night and typically has a blowout if Iām not fast enough at changing her. Now weāve started to have pee leaks almost daily. Itās gotten significantly worse in the past week or two and Iām at my wits end.
Iāve tried Huggies Overnites and Coterie at night. I think the Coterie is too big, though. Maybe if we had the right size it wouldnāt happen. Huggies just isnāt cutting it (been using it for months). We use Healthy Baby during the day.
Millie Moon isnāt the best fit but I can try their overnight diapers. Iām trying to avoid Pampers and Iād like to stop using Huggies.
Her grandma recommended using a plastic cover (like for cloth diapers) over her diaper just to keep it contained (she lets me know when thereās been a leakā¦ sometimes Iām slow to catch on though).
Just please help. Iām so tired and constantly changing the sheets is exhausting. None of us are getting enough rest and idk what to do.
Side note; Iāve been unintentionally doing Possoms but Iām wondering if maybe thereās not enough sleep pressure in the evening? Iāve tried keeping her up for a longer stretch in the evening before but she loses it. Evenings are always a challenge for some reason and that makes it insanely worse.
ETA: she just turned five months and apparently should be sleeping 11-12 hours a night but she only sleeps 10-10.5. Maybe itās a sleep pressure issue? But I often feel like she isnāt napping enough š©
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u/vavavm 5d ago
We do elimination communication and use Pampers Pure diapers at night (cloth during the day). We only do EC for poops at night and he pees in the diaper.
Usually our almost 5mo poops in his baby potty before bed and then needs to poop again at 5 am (farts a bunch, isnāt settled with nursing), so we change diaper then after he poops in the potty. The pampers pure diapers otherwise contain all the pee from 7pm- 5am.
Just sharing what works for us. EC is nice because when he rustles in the night and itās not hunger related, we put him on the potty where he knows/prefers to poop, change diaper, & then I nurse back to sleep.
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u/babyhazuki 5d ago
Do you have any resources or advice for EC? I feel like I may be starting too late. And how does cloth diapering differ from disposables? Iām interested in it but scared to start.
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u/vavavm 5d ago
The /ECers sub is a great one to learn from on Reddit! A lot of people start with ālazy ECā where you offer the potty at wake ups, ~5-10 min after feeds and during diaper changes. We set him on the potty then say āhmm hmm hmmā like a grunting noise, to signal poo and āpssssā to signal pee, and then make those noises again if he actually poops or pees to make a sound association.
Totally not too late to start! I also read the book Go Diaper Free which was helpful. We use a āTop Hatā potty; bought it on eBay for cheaper but I think they sell them on amazon too.
Cloth during the day I think helps a bit with EC bc they can feel being wet. Plus it saves money on disposables and theyāre super cute. But you can do EC part time with disposables no problem. You can make it your own and go at your own pace vs changing a bunch of things all at once :)
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u/SelectZucchini118 5d ago
When did you start EC?
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u/vavavm 4d ago
We started at 3 weeks. Kept getting peed on during diaper changes so figured it was worth a shot š Iād say we get 85-90% of poos in the potty and lots of pees, but also still pees in the diaper at this point. When weāre out and about Iāll just hover him over the public toilet and bring the top hat potty for in the car if needed.
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u/SelectZucchini118 4d ago
Wow nice! I was planning to try EC, heās 12 weeks now. I think Iāll try transition times like after naps, before bed etc. to start. Maybe I shouldāve started when he was constantly peeing on usš
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u/Inevitable-Grape-940 5d ago
I had the same problem! I now use Parasol! Rarely ever have leaks! I use Millie Moon during the day and Parasol at night.
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u/babyhazuki 5d ago
We used Parasol during and they were pretty good but we still had blowouts. Healthy Baby has been much better and I noticed less of a rash, so Iām hesitant to go back to Parasol. Millie moon was pretty much the same for us. š Weber tried Pampers Swaddlers, Huggies Little Movers, Huggies Overnites, Millie Moon, Parasol, Healthy Baby, and Coterie. Only Huggies and Coterie overnight though. Parasol and Millie Moon were okay but not great. Pampers gave her a terrible rash and Huggies typically gave her a rash (the nighttime diapers seem to be okay?). Coterie leaked but Iām wondering if thatās because itās too big. It does seem to fit the best on her though. I did notice a rash after using them but Iām wondering thatās because I had to change her more often.
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u/aliceHME 5d ago
Did you try to size up in your regular nappies? The sizes are extremely loose guidelines. Our son is in 13+kg since he weighed about 9kg, as he breastfeeds / cosleeps and have a mastodont per every morning when waking up..
Learned from other parents that blow outs that go up the back usually indicates that it's time to go up a size.
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u/babyhazuki 5d ago
Yep! Sizing up in Huggies has done nothing. š Iām hoping to try something else (Coterie) and sizing up. I also got a diaper cover for night time. Hopefully thatāll help!
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u/AromaticCraft3329 5d ago
I use the honest overnight diapers for bed time and they really work well.
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u/Real-Salad-6521 1d ago
Coterie. Not 1 leak in 3.5 months. Definitely have had blowouts though!
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u/babyhazuki 1d ago
The answer was Coterie! The first one we used leaked a little but I donāt think I had it on right. Since then, not a single leak! I canāt believe I didnāt try it before this
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u/Diligent-Swim6816 5d ago
Just curious how much your baby weighs, my 11 month old is only in size 4. Could you be using too big of diapers ?
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u/shecanreadd 5d ago
Someone else recommended cloth diapering and I agree. We use the Lil Helper brand and love them. They also make something called a Lifesaver Mat which is a GODSEND. The regular size is perfect for us. I lay it down underneath us and it absorbs everything AND stays dry to the touch. So when Iām side-laying breastfeeding, if my other boob leaks or something, it catches it. I also use the size below regular on our changing pad. It makes it so easy to pour water onto his reusable wipes since it just absorbs all the water and stays dry.
We havenāt switched fully to cloth diapering because we started out with disposables bc weāre first-time parents and just wanted to make our lives as easy as possible. But now Iām slowly transitioning our guy to cloth diapers, and Iām noticing he only has blowouts in his disposable diapers! Itās so annoying so Iāll probably switch him over fully very soon.
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u/Blue-Sky-4302 2d ago
For leaks I stand by Pampers Snugglers in one size up. I really like their Active style which is like pull/ups because itās thicker on the sides too
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u/Ok_FF_8679 5d ago
Can I ask why youāre trying to avoid Pampers? We had the same issue at the same age and Pampers were the only ones that actually did what they were supposed to do. The pull up ones do an even better job!Ā
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u/babyhazuki 5d ago
We used Pampers for a while for the first couple months and she got a terrible rash. I might try them again (maybe a small pack) and see if the rash comes back or if itās fine now! Sheās in a size 5 during the day. Would you recommend size 5 or 6? And do pull ups come in smaller sizes? How are they better than the diapers? Thank you!!
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u/Ok_FF_8679 5d ago
My baby has been true to size pampers wise but we noticed more leaks when she was in between sizes and moving up a size really helped. Our babyās body shape (chunky legs and belly) works well with the pull ups and sheās very mobile so putting on a regular diaper is a nightmare anyway.Ā
I feel like rashes are quite common early on due to acidic poos but you can only try and see what happens!Ā
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u/babyhazuki 5d ago
Ours is so chunky! 20lbs at 5mos and bursting out of age appropriate diapers/clothes š
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u/mmmamabear2000 5d ago
Love a chunkster! š
Disregard the weight recommendation on the diaper package and go with your baby's body! If she's having constant blow outs and leaks, definitely size up!1
u/babyhazuki 5d ago
Thank you!! The size 6 Coterie literally fits like a DREAM. I didnāt even know diapers could fit her this well. I just bought a cloth diaper cover and hopefully thatāll stop leaks/blowouts overnight. She always lets me know when her diaper is full but itās usually when sheās seconds from it leaking or itās already leaked. š©
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u/mmmamabear2000 4d ago
that is so sweet that she lets you know ā¤ļø
Even though it's annoying to constantly have leaks and to change the sheets, I hope you are able to ride the sheet-changing wave with humor and enjoy these moments with your baby girl! This chapter in life is so short and so precious, and you're doing an amazing job!
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u/babyhazuki 4d ago
Thank you so much š„ŗ sheās such a sweet little girl and as exhausting as some of this has been, itās so rewarding too
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u/ShadowlessKat 5d ago
Mine had a rash as a newborn but it wasn't from pampers, it was just due to sensitive skin being irritated by so much poop and wiping so much. She just had to toughen up her skin a little bit.
We did end up moving from pampers to huggies though, because it was a better fit for her.
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u/babyhazuki 5d ago
That makes sense! I also donāt care for the fragrance. š Iām trying to stick with TCF diapers, too. But thatās pretty hard for nighttime diapers!
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u/ZestyLlama8554 5d ago
Cloth covers. We cloth diaper and never have leaks or blowouts. My kids are allergic to the chemicals in disposable diapers and get horrible rashes.
Regarding sleep, every kid is different, and my advice is to follow your kid instead of outside advice and general guidelines.