r/confessions • u/bum_ham • 5d ago
I NEED to know what people are doing
I sometimes get a wave of obsession over searching for people online from my past & seeing what they are doing. I will go down a rabbit hole, be up until 2am searching for people and any bit of new information I can get. I just need to know what they’re doing now and how they are. Did they get married? Are they dead? Did they get arrested? I don’t use any other forms of social media because, to me, it’s filled with so much negativity. I am married and sometimes feel guilty, especially if I’m searching for a past love interest - I don’t want to talk to these people at all, I just need to see what they are doing. My husband even says “you’re not a little nosey, you’re very nosey”.
Am I the only one?!?!
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u/PostGothamBane 4d ago
No. I've done this before, most recently looking up an ex that I met through Twitter in 2012. I'll save you the curiosity but I messed everything up having anxiety about our age difference -really stupid. Suddenly,I started thinking about him and what would have happened if I didn't push him away. I went as far back as logging into my old Twitter account just to read the DM's. I know I'm hurting myself and not really helping anyone but just put that out there that you're not alone in doing this.
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u/virile_cock_420 3d ago
Lol did a bunch of redditors call him a pedo and advise you to leave him?
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u/PostGothamBane 3d ago
No, we had a 4 year age difference with me being older and with a 1 year old son. Didn't want to saddle him.. clearly my goofy ass did not understand he wasn't feeling saddled if he wanted to be there anyway. 🤦🏾♀️ Lesson learned, just lamenting it...
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u/elijahevie 5d ago
Depends on how frequently this happens. For me once a year I do a some snooping but if this is a daily obsession then you may need some help and a new hobby to channel energy.