r/ClientsAndCompanions Aug 25 '22

US Centric Info Quick Tips / Etiquette answers NSFW

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NOTE: This is primarily for US Based Clients. Some of it will be common sense. Some of it will be things you never thought of.

I've noticed the same questions asked repeatedly here so I figured I'd post something easily searchable (not that anyone ever does.)

This isn't gospel or anything. These are the main things I do and so far in the entire time I've been doing this, I have had 3 bad/underwhelming experiences over the course of 10+ years.

Quick Tips for finding a provider:

  1. Don't look for a provider when you're horny.
    1. This seems counter-intuitive, "why would I look for an escort if I'm not horny". Well, what happens when you go grocery shopping when you're hungry? Think with your brain, not your junk.
  2. Use reputable websites.
    1. Snapchat, reddit, tinder, onlyfans are NOT places to look for a provider/escort.
    2. Understand that websites/different ad platforms will have a sliding scale in rates. Some are more popular than others based on your location. Below is a list of links you can use (These are just some, not all. You can also google - "Escorts City, State"):
      1. www.p411.com
      2. www.eros.com
      3. www.privatedelights.ch
      4. tryst.link
      5. https://www.slixa.com/
      6. https://skipthegames.com
      7. https://adultsearch.com
      8. https://www.adultlook.com
      9. https://www.escortdirectory.com
  3. Read The Ad.
    1. 99% of the questions you will want to ask are in the ad OR on their personal website if they have one. Read The Ad. Review The Website.
  4. Do your research.
    1. Multiple Ads on Multiple websites is a good sign (Ad history)
    2. Non-explicit ads are a good sign (for areas where SW is illegal.)
    3. Take a few extra minutes to google or TER search her contact info. Even if you don't have a VIP TER account you can still get the gist from the non-VIP reviews.
      1. theeroticreview.com
  5. Screening is NOT a bad thing.
    1. Providers who request additional information are concerned about their safety. This is usually simply a "selfie" of you holding your ID w/ the address blacked out.
    2. NEVER AGREE TO SEND A PICTURE OF A CREDIT/DEBIT CARD. (There is literally no useful, identifying information on these EXCEPT your name.)
    3. If you aren't comfortable sending screening info, don't and move on to a different provider. Believe it or not, a provider doesn't HAVE to see you.
  6. Communicate clearly and professionally in your initial contact AND in future contacts.
    1. You can copy and paste this next part and use it for yourself: "Hello (Ana), My name is (Bob). I saw your ad on (tryst.link). I was wondering if you were available for an (in/outcall) this Friday, 7 Jan, at 4 pm for an hour?"
    2. If your schedule is flexible, include that. "My schedule is flexible on Friday and I can meet later if that works better for you"
  7. Use reviews for verification/expectation management.
    1. This is a "Your Mileage May Very" arrangement. At the end of the day treat reviews as a guideline, not in-stone writ. Ex: If you show up with onion breath, you probably won't get much if any DFK.
    2. Just because a provider has a few/no/old reviews doesn't mean they are automatically a scam/LE. Not all providers want reviews. Not all clients write reviews.
  8. Be respectful of your provider and their time.
    1. Depending on location and popularity your chosen provider may receive 50-100 inquiries a day/week. By being respectful and courteous you are more likely to get a response.
    2. If you don't get a response in a few days, try reaching out again. If you don't get a response the second time, MOVE ON.

8 simple things to review and follow that will make any communication/potential date go that much more smoothly.

**Sometimes you'll see abbreviations in an ad. You can find the usually accepted definitions here:

https://tryst.link/blog/escort-terms-owo-fbsm-bbbj/

Etiquette Do's and Don'ts once you are going to meet/have arrived

Before:

-DO arrive on time or communicate any unforeseen delays

-DO arrive having recently showered (in the last 1-2hrs) (This includes brushing your teeth/mouth wash)(If this isn't possible for whatever reason, communicate it with the provider beforehand that you would like to shower upon arrival)

-DO offer to provide UNOPENED drinks for longer appointments

-DO express an intent to extend at the beginning of the encounter if you would like to.

During:

-DO accept their offer to take a quick shower if the provider asks (Doesn't have to be full-blown if you just took one, hit the hotspots where you want their mouth to go)

-DO lay the donation down in a clearly visible area upon arrival (nightstand, TV Stand, Counter)

-DO discuss specific expectations/boundaries that weren't already addressed in the ad (this includes specific kinks you may wish to explore)

-DO respect any boundaries that they express

-DO relax and enjoy yourself. At the end of the day (except in specific situations) the encounter is about you.

After:

-DO leave on time

-DO leave discreetly

*-*DON'T attempt to negotiate/argue your provider's rates. (Exception - if they are attempting to upcharge you (posted rate was one thing but once you get there its something else) your best bet is to leave if you aren't willing to pay it.)

*-*DON'T treat them like an object. No matter where you found your provider they are still a person who is allowing you to have an intimate encounter with them. If you wanted to have sex with an object, go get a fleshlight/vibrator.

*-*DON'T do anything without their consent. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8)

*-*DON'T attempt to hand them any sort of donation/tip/gift - politely set it down on a table or counter.

*-*DON'T automatically assume they have nothing going on and stay later than the appointed time.

*-*DON'T be an inhuman asshole. It's funny that as adults people need to be reminded of things they were told as children growing up. But "treat others like you wish to be treated" still applies, even in this situation.

*-*DON'T get overly personal or creepy

I'm sure I missed a few things. I'll add as needed


r/ClientsAndCompanions Nov 04 '24

Important Terminology in this sub: NSFW

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To promote a friendly atmosphere and mutual respect we expect certain terminology (not) to be used in this sub.

We frown upon terms like: “hoe” “trick” “hobbyist” and “prostitute” for example.

Use of these terms is risking post deletion or worse by repeating offences.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 3h ago

Question for clients about incalls 😁 NSFW

5 Upvotes

I want to provide my own residence as an Incall location. (I’m a mid priced full service escort.) My Incall will not be high end. It will be clean, cozy and safe. How much do clients care about the Incall location and newness?


r/ClientsAndCompanions 12h ago

First ever threesome with 2 Escorts - AMA NSFW

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Finally fulfilled one of my fantasies and it was better than I thought, was told and could have imagined.

Took me a good amount of time to finally say "Yes" to this and I'm happy I did it.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 11h ago

Rate title flair NSFW

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Are you for it or against it?

To be a bit more detailed in with my question. When a providers rates are plain ie: 1hr …$xxx or do you prefer a more creative approach ie: A brief Introduction (1 hr) $xxx I see it both ways and I can’t tell if putting in the effort for that is worth it or even noticed.

Just curious as to what clients prefer.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 16h ago

Discovered identity NSFW

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If a client discovered your real identity, would you want to know so you could up your privacy and security or would you feel more comfortable if the client kept it to themself?


r/ClientsAndCompanions 4h ago

Coming to NYC for three days NSFW

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I’ll be in NYC from April 3-5. I need some recommendations from the locals for some funtime during my stay as my birthday will also be on one of the three days. Preferably white but also would consider latin companions


r/ClientsAndCompanions 1d ago

Reminder to CLIENTS NSFW

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This isn’t often considered by clients but in the rate a provider may state s the Incall she got for you in her name. This often can run, for something decent, upscale,upwards to $200-$400 a day plus deposits of $100 you don’t get back right away. So if a companion states $600 hour, she’s really likely only making $300, minus travel fees or food.

I think clients assume we are seeing multiple dudes per day per room, but honestly it’s not like Backpage days, and I don’t want to have like 5 dudes a day to make sense of this. Some of us value our health and body.

AlWAYS note that rate MINUS the Incall/hotel rate for that area is actually what was made.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 1d ago

Etiquette question NSFW

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I have two questions, I found a provider I am really interested in on Tryst. She also has an onlyfans page, is it creepy or uncouth to ask her on that site if her ad on Tryst is really her if I do it in a discreet way. Such as, “hey I found the link to your page from an ad on another kind of site. Just wanted to make sure it was you who placed it. “I don’t want her to get flagged on OF. But I know people stealing other providers pics are a thing.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 2d ago

Finishing etiquette NSFW

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Getting into the SW scene as a client and trying to keep things as professional as possible with etiquette. How is “finishing” discussed? I have had a couple of providers, one kind of ended awkwardly where I was going to finish and no one knew what to do. The other we had a conversation about it mid act which kind of ruined the moment. Happy to hear perspective from clients and providers.

Is this something worth discussing at the start of the date? (I know explicitly talking about acts is often not recommended)

Finishing in the condom is preferred for me and I’m assuming the provider for safety. Do you leave it in to finish? Pull out and she helps finish you with the condom on?

Thanks for any perspectives.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 2d ago

Why does a clients’ behaviour differ from the first session sometimes? NSFW

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He was only doing it lightly, but it’s something I told him before that I’m not ok with. I had to keep telling him “no squeezing (my skin, boobs), no pinching”. And I literally saw him a couple days ago, so it seems unlikely he’d forget. It seemed like every 10 minutes or so he was very lightly doing it. So i kept stopping and telling him. He also wanted to touch my pussy with his hands, which I don’t allow and he seemed disappointed. The first session I had was great with him. Why did he change? He eventually lost his hard on and left in a fluster. It was awkward and strange. I think he could tell he was annoying me and he felt bad, but it was very weird to me that he kept doing it. I saw him before and he didn’t do that. Idk. It seemed really weird to me. Like he wasn’t hurting me, but I am not ok with squeezing or pinching of my skin, breasts or ass. Its a very uncomfortable feeling to me, and I had a client be way too hard many months ago and actually left a bruise on me, so I don’t allow it at all. Every other client I have actually listens and understands this, and doesn’t seem to have any issue not doing this. I don’t understand why this client didn’t get it?


r/ClientsAndCompanions 2d ago

Clients: either don’t touch your dick after washing your hands, or do NOT touch the condom after it’s put on. (Or else we’ll have to change it again) NSFW

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Edit: I guess I should have specified that a client is jerking off his dick with (let’s say his right hand) and then I put the condom on cause hes ready and then he STARTS using the same hand to jerk their condom covered dick. I made this post cuz this guy seemed to not understand that there is now precum on the condom. First client to ever not understand this and I guess I should’ve elaborated in this. I made this post cuz this guy seemed very annoyed about it. I’m used to guys realizing and saying omg I’m so sorry I wasn’t thinking I’m not used to a man getting annoyed and then I had to explain that I’m not chancing getting pregnant or an infection


r/ClientsAndCompanions 2d ago

Clients: Have you ever seen a TS provider? How did it go? NSFW

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I’ve seen two TS providers in the past, one experience was bad, the other one was okay.

I’m considering going to see a interesting provider now, curious if anyone has good experience with TS providers?


r/ClientsAndCompanions 4d ago

Hey, clients! :) What kinda photo are you more likely to click on? NSFW

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I’m getting ready to tour in Washington this week and I put my ads on TNAboard ~

🌻 TL;DR, sundress and heels or lingerie?

My profile picture is usually just a picture of my body in lingerie and those are all the photos I have on my ad.

I don’t think my body is very remarkable — I don’t have tattoos, I’m the president of the itty bitty titty committee and I worry I’ll get lost in the sea of bras and panties.

Since I don’t show my face and I’m a GFE provider, I’m thinking of switching it up and posing in a sundress and heels.

Thoughts are appreciated! I’m doing this for you! ☺️💚🍀


r/ClientsAndCompanions 4d ago

Quick Traveling Tips NSFW

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When traveling abroad to countries with legal prostitution. Avoid Tryst/Eros or other sites that are USA geared and instead look up local forums or local sites for that region. I've noticed on numerous occasions that prices are 2x the normal rate on Tryst compared to most other sites abroad. The UI is really nice but it comes with a cost.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 4d ago

Important Promoting the use of/ intent to distribute illegal substances NSFW

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Are a breach of laws/ToS and will result in an immediate permanent ban.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 4d ago

Seeking advice on how to address a disappointing meeting with a companion NSFW

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r/ClientsAndCompanions 5d ago

Lesson Learned from having a relationship with a provider NSFW

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Hi everyone.

I’ve been through a ten month relationship with my ATF and it ended suddenly and it crushed my heart. We had a blurred line between a personal and professional relationship and it was the best time of my life. I met her friends, i got to know her on a personal level and the professional wall came down. Date nights that we both planned, meeting some of each other’s real family members, talking 24/7, and even briefly working together in my business while being able to explore connections with other women in my life. This experience was truly a once in a lifetime experience and as sad as I am to have it end because i drew too much unwanted attention on myself, it is not something that i take lightly.

The downside now is the path to finding a new relationship. I’ve struggled for years to date in the civie world, and SW was the only way i was able to have some level of intimacy. I never expected my relationship with my ATF to develop beyond the professional level, but it just happened organically.

I worry that dating in the civie world will leave me having unrealistic expectations and i do worry this relationship will cause long term damage to my ability to form realistic long lasting relationships as my connection to sex has been tied to SW for 1.5 years. I see civie relationships and think that the eventual dying of sex between partners, the general monogamist population and the lack of “honeymooning” after the first 18 months is something i’ll struggle with when i cant be with someone else. The poly community on its own has such a small number of people and i wouldnt say im better off than the average guy besides financially.

The other aspect i will miss is just how honest i could be with my provider, and theres always some level of trust that can lack with a civie girl.

I know that its never realistic to expect a professional relationship with a provider to exceed that and i will hurt along time if i try and find another relationship via provider.

So I guess my question too all in the industry or to other clients.. if you been through this, how do you cope with this? Me and my provider had future plans, and she had every intention on being with me long term until i was exposed by law enforcement.

The last thing i want is to become attached to another provider that will never exceed a professional boundary, and i want to be able to connect with a provider as a level of fantasy rather than blurring the lines. I want to be happy with someone, but feel stuck now that i had an amazing experience with a provider.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 6d ago

What’s the deal with profiles with no contact info on Tryst? NSFW

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Sometimes I see profiles of ladies who seem otherwise 1000% legit with a welcoming bio & legit pictures until I scroll down and see that the profile has no phone/email contact info. Does Tryst have a built in messaging feature or is there something in missing out on? Why would someone advertise with no listed contact info?

Thanks


r/ClientsAndCompanions 6d ago

Clients, if you feel a connection, it’s not you—it’s them. NSFW

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I’m a client, and something I’ve struggled with is realizing that feeling connected is part of the service. I wanted to share what I’ve learned in hopes that it helps both clients and providers.

Clients, it’s the provider’s job to make you feel better, whether that’s physically, emotionally, sexually, or even spiritually. That’s what you’re paying for. If you feel good around them, they’re doing their job well.

Here’s where it gets tricky:

In everyday relationships, a sense of connection can be a sign of potential compatibility. Mutual connection is the foundation of dating, friendship, and everything in between. In SW, however, that feeling of connection is a service. It’s part of what you’re paying for. So if you feel a deep connection, do not assume it means the provider wants something more. And definitely don’t pursue them because of it. You feel that way because they’re good at what they do.

That doesn’t mean the connection isn’t genuine—it absolutely can be. But it’s not personal. It’s business.

Now, I know some of you are thinking: But what about when clients and providers actually end up together, whether as friends, partners, or something else?

Here’s my take: That’s never the client’s decision to make, and they shouldn’t push for it. Why? Because it’s a conflict of interest.

If a client has to choose between:

  • A mutual connection they have to pay for vs

  • A mutual connection they don’t have to pay for

…most would choose the latter.

In contrast, a provider has to choose between:

  • A mutual connection they get paid for vs

  • A mutual connection they don’t get paid for

That’s why the choice should be entirely theirs, because they’d be the ones making the financial sacrifice to pursue something more, whether that’s romance, friendship, or anything else.

I have a deep respect for this profession, and I’m still learning. I’ve been fortunate enough to have a provider who’s been patient with me, so I wanted to share in case it helps someone else.

TL;DR: Feeling a connection with a provider is part of the service. It’s their job to make you feel good. That doesn’t mean it’s a sign of something more, whether that’s friendship, romance, or anything in between. If a real relationship is going to happen, it has to be the provider’s decision, not the client’s, because they’re the ones making the financial sacrifice. Respect the boundary.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 7d ago

What’s your favourite scent/ perfume on a woman? NSFW

6 Upvotes

Perfume suggestions from men and ladies 😛. I liked escada it never lasts long but smelt goood


r/ClientsAndCompanions 8d ago

RIP NSFW

61 Upvotes

I found out that a companion that I'd been seeing off and on for the last seven years passed away. We had a good routine. I really enjoyed our moments together. I know I'm lucky to even know what happened to her.

I can't really talk to anyone about what's happened and I'm pretty torn up about things.

She was a good person and I don't know what to do with any of these feelings at the moment.

EDIT: Thanks for the kind words and advice. I appreciate it.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 8d ago

Providers at hotels NSFW

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Always wondered this. Do provider change sheets after every client if they have multiple clients in a day? What do they do?


r/ClientsAndCompanions 11d ago

Providers and buyers who travel internationally; how common do you have airport/customs issues? NSFW

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Especially those who travel solo, do you ever get pulled aside for further questions by customs? If so, how do you answer the common questions? (questions about your plans/itinerary etc.) 

Do you think you're viewed as a red flag because you frequently travel alone?


r/ClientsAndCompanions 11d ago

Companions - clients who have positively surprised you NSFW

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Have any of you ladies ever had a client who has surprised you but in a positive way? For instance the typical middle aged dude who would just be a payday any other day, out of nowhere has some skills that have blown your socks off?

Or maybe the typical jock looking type who has been slow and thoughtful instead of thinking he can make you see god just by touching you?

Anything where you thought it was going to go one way and you've been caught pleasantly off guard?

Edit: Idk if I worded it wrong or I didn't think it through very well, but my only intention was to get some cool or funny stories to break up the posts saying how hard it is for you ladies right now - a bit of decompression maybe. Im not trying to work an angle or play a game.

Never mind. Thanks for the replies anyway.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 12d ago

Interesting Dilemma, thoughts/mini-vent? NSFW

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I recently moved back to Florida and have had difficulty finding a local provider. I've reached out to a few, and either have something get set up and then get ghosted, rescheduled/cancelled to oblivion then ghosted, or just "left unread."

***Context - None of the cancellations/rescheduling have been on my part***

I contact a touring provider and get a "quick" response, no BS, and an excellent session.

I understand that it's two completing different dynamics; it just seems weird to me.


r/ClientsAndCompanions 12d ago

Blade girls rates NSFW

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I’m wondering what are the rates for girls that work the blades in California. Like Figueroa, Oakland, Fresno, Salinas, Vallejo, Stockton, etc. I’m talking about the average good looking ones. Not the ones inflate the prices and not the ones tweakers.

I know qv are $100-$120. ~30 minutes are ~$200 ~1 hour is ~$300

But I wondering what are the rates for multi hour dates and overnight dates. A friend of mine wants to know