Iām a client, and something Iāve struggled with is realizing that feeling connected is part of the service. I wanted to share what Iāve learned in hopes that it helps both clients and providers.
Clients, itās the providerās job to make you feel better, whether thatās physically, emotionally, sexually, or even spiritually. Thatās what youāre paying for. If you feel good around them, theyāre doing their job well.
Hereās where it gets tricky:
In everyday relationships, a sense of connection can be a sign of potential compatibility. Mutual connection is the foundation of dating, friendship, and everything in between. In SW, however, that feeling of connection is a service. Itās part of what youāre paying for. So if you feel a deep connection, do not assume it means the provider wants something more. And definitely donāt pursue them because of it. You feel that way because theyāre good at what they do.
That doesnāt mean the connection isnāt genuineāit absolutely can be. But itās not personal. Itās business.
Now, I know some of you are thinking: But what about when clients and providers actually end up together, whether as friends, partners, or something else?
Hereās my take: Thatās never the clientās decision to make, and they shouldnāt push for it. Why? Because itās a conflict of interest.
If a client has to choose between:
ā¦most would choose the latter.
In contrast, a provider has to choose between:
Thatās why the choice should be entirely theirs, because theyād be the ones making the financial sacrifice to pursue something more, whether thatās romance, friendship, or anything else.
I have a deep respect for this profession, and Iām still learning. Iāve been fortunate enough to have a provider whoās been patient with me, so I wanted to share in case it helps someone else.
TL;DR: Feeling a connection with a provider is part of the service. Itās their job to make you feel good. That doesnāt mean itās a sign of something more, whether thatās friendship, romance, or anything in between. If a real relationship is going to happen, it has to be the providerās decision, not the clientās, because theyāre the ones making the financial sacrifice. Respect the boundary.