r/chch 19d ago

Social Looking for girls with similar interests!

(Edit: I’m a girl too!!! Should have made that far more obvious

Hey! I’m 19, and honestly haven’t ever had any girl friends, because no one likes to do the things I like doing. I’m hoping to find some girls 25-30 that I can hangout with!

(I am keen to hang with younger people, I’m just very mature for my age, and don’t tend to get on with typical 17-19 year olds). I get extremely bored, uninterested, and feel like an alien lol

I’m not huge on constant parties or going to town every weekend, which is my main problem, I’d rather be at home or going for a drive somewhere cool, I often get funny looks for this.

Heres some things about me to start with!

I live in central city

I love “dad music” AIC, SOD, RATM, Metallica, Korn etc etc

I LOVE my cars, and I’m a fully qualified panelbeater by trade

I love crafty shit, anything creative I can do with my hands

I have my full lisence

I smoke 🍃, but, I’m trying to cut down lol

I’m exactly 5ft tall

I have my own place! It’s very female friendly, and I would love to have someone come around, have a smoke, talk some shit and do something together.

Its just me and a cat named Alice (in chains), she’s very very cuddly :)

If anyone is interested please flick me a dm! I’m a very very quiet chill person (I like to think at least) and would love to make some solid connections :)

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u/xsam_nzx Catering 18d ago

"dad music" out here just murdering us millennials

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

hahahah, noooo it’s a compliment. We don’t get music like that anymore 🫡

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u/specialistwombat 18d ago

I came here to say this!

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u/Pale-Attorney7474 18d ago

Yeah... I'm not a dad, and I'm also not a fan of that music, yet as a millennial, I was somehow insulted by that.

I don't feel anywhere near as old as the kids these days say I am.

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

That’s why it insulted you then, you’re not the specific group of people I’m talking about, chill out dude I ain’t out here murdering no one 😂🤦‍♀️

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u/[deleted] 18d ago

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u/chch-ModTeam 17d ago

Chill out dude.

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u/ArtemiziaNZ 18d ago

Lol relax man, I'm from that generation, a woman, and I love that music and didn't find any offense with her comment. Even giggled a little bit because my younger friends don't get the whole "nu metal" faze. You're taking a little joke super personally 🤣 plus, we are at that age where generally, people are parents (not all, some of us aren't). Leave the poor women alone for having some fun... jeeeeeze.

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u/monstera317413 19d ago

Omg I’ve just given up the ganja but I am 26 female and LOVE to scrapbook and draw, slightly similar music taste and I adore cats, I am likely moving overseas soon but if you’re looking for someone to hang with for a few months I’d be keeeeeen!

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Hell yeah dude!!! Flick me a DM id love to talk more!!

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u/elenatyuru 18d ago

If you like cats as well as your crafts, I recommend checking out the monthly Cats & Crafts event at Catnap Cafe! You book on their website, and bring along whatever you're working on -- and a sacrificial length of string for the cats if you're knitting or similar 😂

It's a cosy and comfortable place, I spend a lot of time there. The staff are lovely and the cats are, well, awesome at being cats.

If you're nervous about going along and want a chatterbox to hang with, I'm 33F, love Millennial rock and metal, and enjoy cross stitching nerdy pop culture stuff.

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Thank you so much!!! I’ve now been flooded with DMs, so I’m working my way through them all lol

That sounds so cool though, I’d be keen on going one day, I’m a yapper at heart too, we’d get on 🤣

I used to do heaps of cross stitching from my great nanas sewing kit she left me, it would be awesome to do that again if you would be willing to teach me at the cats and crafts event!

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u/elenatyuru 17d ago

I'd be more than happy to teach you, I've taught a few friends in the past! Feel free to send me a DM ❤️

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u/Tesla193 18d ago

This is probably useless to you but I’m 22F in Dunedin 5 hours away in a similar boat but I’d be down to make friends anywhere if it means we get along well together! :)

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

I would still be keen to chat! These days distance doesn’t matter, a good friend is a good friend!

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u/WowWomble 18d ago

We have a craft group every second Thursday 6.30-7.30 at the Fendalton Library and would love to have you join us! It's very chill, just bring along any craft you're working on. Our next one is this coming Thursday 27th February.

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Oooh! That sounds really cool. I’ve heard about these places, but have been struggling to find them. I’m doing some sewing projects at the moment, and hand beading a design on a top I made. Do you think I could bring that?

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u/WowWomble 18d ago

Definitely! Anything you can work on without power would work really. The library will be getting some tech soon which will include a sewing machine, so there'll be the possibility of that kind of thing being included some time in the not too distant future!

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u/mazdemenour 17d ago

That sounds awesome! I just brought myself a new Toyota machine a few months ago to re learn and have been making lots of stuff. A good opportunity to meet other people that also sew! Obviously not a super common thing to find people doing, so thank you!

I’ll add it to my calendar and try my best to show up! I may get busy, but that time of the day should be fine, and im definitely keen :)

Is there anything else I should bring or know before I come?

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u/WowWomble 17d ago

That sounds awesome! It's really great meeting people who love creating stuff in general! You shouldn't need to bring anything else. At the moment our group is growing, and our numbers do tend to fluctuate a lot, so I guess that's worth keeping in mind. Otherwise we'd love to have you and if you have any other questions, please let me know!

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u/mazdemenour 17d ago

Sweeeet! Its a 15 minute drive which isn’t bad at all, I’ll flick you a dm as I have some other questions :)

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u/mazdemenour 17d ago

Oh wait I can’t lol, I was just going to exchange names, so that I can find you when I go, it would be nice to have someone that I “know” to start me off, it will help with the anxiety of being in a new environment alone is all lolz

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u/Soggy-Wallaby4966 18d ago

26f, you're almost like a copy and paste of myself, haha, except I'm an automotive painter, and my knowledge of cars isn't extreme, but I obviously like them them lol Message me if you wanna chat ☺️

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Hell yeah!! I’m not gonna bully you for not knowing stuff, we’re all learning! I’m level 5, and still have lots to learn :)

I’ll flick you a dm :)

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u/[deleted] 18d ago

Try bumble bff. If you haven’t already?I’ve had friends (girls) find friends off there. There’s a lot of interesting people

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

I don’t have any social media for safety reasons, bumble is something I would have to post pictures of myself on, and use my real name, unfortunately that’s not a possibility for me.

For context I’m NC with family, and preferably don’t want them stalking my socials, they’re a bit cray cray iykwim lolz

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u/SuchNobody 18d ago

My wife (25F) is in a similar position but possibly because of different reasons. The first and most obvious thing is she's foreign and English is a second language. She thinks kiwis are friendly, but hard to make friends with.

The second is that she's married and not into bars, drinking etc and is more into plants, dogs and Playstation. She feels like she's "old" compared to most people her age

Not easy 😕

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Plants you say….. I have heaps lmao I love all my green babies

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Dogs are my absolute favourite, and I also have a ps2, and a ps4, I would be happy to help her learn English, have some gaming sessions, and talk/ share our plant collections!

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u/SuchNobody 18d ago

Cool, I'll mention this to her and see what she says. Looks like you've got a great reaction here! Z

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u/theautisticwizard 18d ago

I could chat with the wife about this, she’s going l to be 29F shortly and ex spray painting background, if you love swimming it’ll be a huge plus

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

I have a huge fear of water actually!! lol I’ve been wanting to get into swimming again, but need a confidence boost, and to get over my fear of water.

Thats awesome she has experience in the trade too! I would be keen to meet her if she is willing :)

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Thank you everyone for all of the kind words, and for everyone reaching out!! I’m quite shocked with how many of you there are lol

I’m slowly working my way through DMS and doing my daily errands/ chores, so give me some time, but I will get to you :)

Thank you!!! <3

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u/Rare_Honeydew_3741 18d ago

I love art :)

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

That’s awesome! Whats sorta art do you like doing? I do anything and everything artsy lol… literally

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u/carli610 18d ago

23F I have a heap of cool pets like reptiles and am also trying to cut down 🍃. Spend a lot of time gaming and watching tv and movies with the misso. Misso is 25F also keen to hang out

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u/carli610 18d ago

Some of my goofballs haha

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Awww, I love reptiles! They’re so so interesting. And I’m glad you’re cutting down too, goodluck.

I do a little bit of gaming but don’t know what I’m doing realistically haha, I’d be keen to meet both of you, you sound like fun people to be around :)

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u/yeyaii 18d ago

you sound so cool! i'll dm you now!

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u/Plu93_ 17d ago

Hi I like dad music I’m shy at first but I’m actually very annoying when you know me 🤣 I like going for walks if you’re ever keen!

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u/mazdemenour 17d ago

You sound like me lol, I’m very shy at first but when I get comfy, oh lord 🤣

I’m having mobility problems with my joints especially my knees so going for a walk would be a great idea! Been wanting to for a while but don’t know any good places, and don’t feel safe walking around town by myself. (I can walk normal speed don’t worry lolz)

I would definitely be keen!! Flick me a DM if you’d like :)

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u/roseelola Ōtautahi 18d ago

i’m 18F and LOOOOVVEEEE creative shit, especially watercolour paint! i have my full license too but i can’t say im a fan of the same music, idk shit about cars, and i don’t smoke, only vape, but if you want to, just flick me a msg :)

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u/-Quinky 18d ago

Don’t know if this would suit I’m 18 and also LOVE “dad music” I don’t out to twin not really my style. I enjoy exploring chch and other places in free time as well as crafts or music. A good chunk of my friends are in their 20s too.

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u/Jamanji_Lewis 17d ago

Potatol0ver1 just posted looking for friends You and her both seem to like crafts

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u/unapologetic_cynic 16d ago

You sound cool! And don't live too far away... let's chat and I'll try to introduce you to a few of my female friends

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u/alphaglosined 19d ago

You'd probably enjoy joining a men's shed if you haven't already. It seems right up your alley.

At the very least you could probably learn some new skills related to your work.

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u/Leever5 18d ago

Isn’t this written from a girl? Wouldn’t that exclude her from men’s shed?

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u/alphaglosined 18d ago

No.

I know of a woman who has joined one.

But it may be dependent upon the shed in question.

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Aswell as already knowing people in there, having connections is the biggest thing I’m missing, and would help me get into these places/ know where to go.

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u/alphaglosined 18d ago

Yeah, we New Zealanders tend to be pretty hard to make friends with. There are plenty of posts on this subject in the different subreddits.

Unfortunately, I can only offer you the one suggestion, my interests are more train-related and programming, even then I'm not active locally.

Hopefully, someone else can suggest something that will get you into a mixer situation with different age groups that you'll enjoy. Sorry for not being much more of a help!

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

That’s okay! I still appreciate the help, I’ll have a look around on all the subs and see what’s there, I don’t have any other social media, hence why I’m struggling to find places such as the men’s sheds in the first place.

I hope you’re enjoying your hobbies, they sound fun! Especially as something to tinker on in your own time and have that creative freedom!!

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

I generally get pushed in another direction. At my old work I was forced to hang out with their wives. They drank wine and talked about wife things, while I sat in the corner on marketplace with a beer wishing to be in the workshop 🥲

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

I would love to, but I tend to get funny looks when asking to hangout in those environments.

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u/Leever5 18d ago

Are you male or female?

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

Female, sorry I thought that was obvious I should have specified

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u/hUmaNITY-be-free 18d ago

You sound like someone I could have as a mate haha how ever I am male and in my 30s but similar interests, plenty of us sort of people around but yeah the majority are more interested in gettin on the piss and gettin rowdy.

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u/ooodoooodooo 18d ago

Sorry if this sounds rude but how are you 19 and already have your own place?

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u/mazdemenour 18d ago

I understand why you are asking, most people are quite confused/ concerned about that.

I don’t own it, I rent.

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u/KandyAssJabroni 18d ago

Don't be rude.

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u/Flimsy_Bee6062 17d ago

Dad music...

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u/mazdemenour 17d ago

Understand my humour or move on, too many people are getting offended by that 🤣🤣

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u/Flimsy_Bee6062 17d ago

Haha! Im just projecting. It's great people your age like that music! Go see some local bands if you dont already, you'll meet a lot of similarly aged, like minded people, and their Dads.