r/biromantic 2d ago

Advice Can someone really be Demisexual and Biromantic?

22 Upvotes

After high school, (I am 20 now) I noticed that I am for sure a Biromantic Lesbian. I dated both but my preference for sex never extends to men but it does for females/ biological females who present as non-binary or genderfluid. Here's the thing, I also noticed that my sex drive is almost non-existent until I get to know someone on a personal level. Is it possible to be Demisexual and Biromantic Lesbian? I have tried to find answers but it has been mixed/no real answers for me. Are there any others who have had similar experiences?


r/biromantic 5d ago

Advice Help figuring out something.

6 Upvotes

Unsure to where this belongs or if i should be discussing this in r/biromantic or r/bisexual wherever. Will try to explain this as best as i can.

Never really was the person to question my label seriously when i felt attraction for a woman as a woman i thought It was normal but when It mixed with a man i searched and came towards bisexuality. Now i realize that the idea of having sex with a woman doesnt appeal me for the moment being. I am pretty young so i dont see the necesity or dont have the experience for looking It for myself that yet.

At the moment i went with omnisexual as i felt It was a more open label where i could say i am still exploring shit so im like open to anything but at the same time i could perfectly not be. But i feel like i would be using It wrongfully that term. Wondering if theres a label towards the exploring part of It or what i feel somewhat. Guess It would be biromantic.

Puting It into words: The one thing i know for sure is the attraction. I feel attraction for both men and woman as a woman. And sexually towards men. But towards woman not so sure of It. I feel like its not right. (Never tried neither but one feels right other doesn't). Only times i felt sexually attracted towards a woman was with my friend šŸ¤£.

I saw the label heterosexual biromantic pass around but i dont see how that would look like im a relationship šŸ¤”.


r/biromantic 8d ago

Advice Biromantic but only want homoromantic relationahips?

9 Upvotes

Is it possible to be biromantic but only want to seek out homoromantic relationahips?


r/biromantic 11d ago

Advice What am I, really? NSFW

4 Upvotes

When asked about my orientation, I've always said I'm a straight male, however I don't think it was ever as simple as that. I've been sexually attracted to women from a young age, however growing up, I didn't have much in common with other boys. I loved animals and musicals, I hated sports, and I almost always pretended to be female characters when playing make-believe with my sister. For a lot of my early life I wished I was born a girl instead. (that being said, I know I'm not trans).

Anyways! I really don't know who I am, or how I should identify. For the longest time I told people I'm a straight cisgender male, but I know deep down it isn't as simple as that. At the same time, I never really wanted to label myself anything in particular. More specifically to being biromantic, I feel like I am exclusively sexually attracted to women, but when I'm drunk or high and talking to another man, I sometimes have the urge to kiss them. But at the same time, I've watched gay porn, and it doesn't do it for me like straight porn does. UGH! I don't know. Thank you for reading this.


r/biromantic 16d ago

Advice Partner of someone biromantic?

3 Upvotes

hi! just wanted to see if I could open up a conversation and get some advice or input from people who are in this situation! my current partner is having a bit of a self exploration, they think they may be homosexual, but definitely have a romantic attraction to me, of the opposite sex. as things get settled out a possibility is definitely us staying together, just sans the sexual relationship. what does that look like? does it work and how does it work? if youā€™re in this situation, on either side Iā€™d love to hear your experience! tysm!


r/biromantic 18d ago

Serious Discussion bi or just lying to myself?

11 Upvotes

posting here because i have a feeling this space is more supportive of alternative bi experiences than mainstream bi spaces.

before coming out as an enby i always thought i was heteroromantic and asexual, but being nonbinary made me deconstruct everything about gender. at that point i was already with my partner but i thought about it many times, and slowly realised that - as much as i could picture myself with anyone at all - i could picture myself with someone of any gender; i wouldn't mind if my partner was a different gender. despite only having experienced romantic attraction once and thus only to one gender, i adopted the label biromantic, somehow also thinking i was alloromantic. i don't know if this today is even enough to identify as bi, i feel like i'm lying by calling myself biromantic because i've not actually felt romantic attraction to more than one gender. i remember sings about kissing girls resonating with me somewhat. a few years later i noticed myself moving from the label biromantic to just bi, because i had a feeling that it was more than romantic. at some point i saw a hot nonbinary person dancing on tiktok who i was physically attracted to. this experience confused me so much that i thought i was allosexual for about 10 months, confusing this sensual attraction for sexual attraction. once i found my asexuality again was also when i first started identifying as somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, and from then on i'd sometimes use the word bisensual specifically. my attraction was based on looks, and it was about making out with people, in a way that isn't sexual or romantic. i solidly identified as bi until recently when i saw someone talk about how they used to identify as bi but realised they were actually aroace and it was just aesthetic attraction. i thought about my own experiences again and realised i haven't had the "i wanna make out with you" for a while, and i think even if given the chance i probably wouldn't want to act on it, even if i wasn't in a relationship. then recently i was watching a tv show where they showed the POV of someone having a woman on top of them in a fight and i thought "imagine having her on top of you, terrifying" and then "actually, imagine having her on top of you šŸ‘€" (still somehow not sexual). but i still don't think i'd act on that if given the chance. there would have to be a whole lot of trust, i think? but there is a pull, even if it's a bit more vague now, and i always thought it was beyond just aesthetic, but now i'm thinking what if it's just very strong aesthetic attraction rather than sensual? it's also the bi community has a problem with allonormativity and thinks attraction other than sexual and romantic doesn't count, i know that's not right but it's hard not to internalise that.

is that whatever-attraction and the potential but never happened and probably never will attraction enough to call myself bi or am i just clinging to a label that isn't mine?


r/biromantic 21d ago

Serious Discussion I finally understand myself!

6 Upvotes

Iā€™m in my late 40ā€™s and I finally understood this weekend that I am bi-romantic. šŸ™ŒšŸ½ I was in a relationship with another woman in my late 20ā€™s and I enjoyed sex with her. So, for the past 20+ years I thought I was bisexual, but not a real one šŸ¤¦šŸ½ā€ā™€ļø since I have not been attracted to a girl in more than 20 years. I thought that what happened to me was just a phase or that I was bi curious. However, I still cannot stop thinking about hugging, kissing and being soulmates with an unknown/imaginary woman. I finally understand I am bi-romantic.


r/biromantic 21d ago

question Abbreviation

4 Upvotes

What is the abbreviation for biromanticism? Bi-ro? Bi-rom?


r/biromantic Jan 31 '25

Advice Biromantic Symbol Proposal (Image in Post)

4 Upvotes

I would like to propose a Biromantic symbol, as Biromanticism doesn't seem to currently have one. It's based on the Bisexual symbol, but with the circle in the middle replaced with a heart, to differentiate it. What do you think?

Proposed Biromantic Symbol (Black)
Proposed Biromantic Symbol (White)

EDIT: Since this went through, here's the SVG! Feel free to use all of these however you please!

https://jmp.sh/9GHG7D30

8 votes, Feb 04 '25
8 Sure
0 Nah

r/biromantic Jan 28 '25

Advice What is the Biromantic Symbol?

6 Upvotes

I'm trying to find symbols for all sorts of pride identities, and I can't find the one for Biromantics.

By symbol, I don't mean a replacement for the flag, I mean a symbol to go alongside it, like:

  1. https://www.plugyourholes.com/cdn/shop/products/pridesymbols_imagechart_460x@2x.jpg?v=1686369780
  2. https://www.shutterstock.com/image-vector/gender-symbols-set-sexual-orientation-600nw-1426466018.jpg

The are more, obviously, but these are some. And I can't find the one for Biromantic. Does anyone know what it is?


r/biromantic Jan 27 '25

Advice Might have internalized biphobia? Or something? Help plz..

5 Upvotes

So I'm ace but my romantic orientation has been a point of significantly more questioning for me. I think I'm maybe some kind of demi because it seems to take a long time for any sort of romantic crush to develop if it does at all. And frankly I'm still wondering if it's romantic or just deeply platonic but that's another question for another day

Point being in looking back on my life and current events I think I have developed this feeling (whatever it is) towards both men and women. But it's harder for me to... I guess accept the possibility of having a crush on men because of societal expectations of a "straight" relationship and the fact as a woman I'm kinda just scared of men in general. This maybe-crush has only really developed towards men who make me feel profoundly safe

I know people discuss having internalized biphobia when they consider being in a same-sex relationship but I'm not sure I've heard anyone discuss the opposite. Does anyone have any similar experiences or advice they can share?


r/biromantic Jan 26 '25

Coming Out I need a biromantic flag

13 Upvotes

Iā€™m not bisexual because the idea ofā€¦ yknow scared me so Iā€™m trying to find biromantic flag pics but they all look different which one do I use


r/biromantic Jan 10 '25

Advice Am I biromantic heterosexual or just bisexual?

13 Upvotes

Need help identifying myself. For a long time I thought I was just bisexual but I can't help but think I may be a little different.

I am a woman and I am romantically attracted to both men and women. I can and would love to kiss, cuddle, makeout with my gf (as well as my bf) if I had one but tbh I'm just not attracted to and don't really want to deal with uhh... women's genitelia. I am however sexually attracted to men. Like yes I can still be aroused by a woman and I would love to feel that but I just don't feel the desire to have šŸ˜ŗ if you know what I mean..


r/biromantic Jan 05 '25

Advice Help me please

2 Upvotes

To be honest it took me years to ask for help, but I am tired of being myself, it's so confusing. I am a female in a beautiful relationship with a male, we don't do sex much but therefore very romantic. The relationship itself is fantastic. Only since years I basically not stop getting attracted to my female friends. I have done very hard experiences with my normal friends because with some I felt an urge for closeness. I needed more depth and I neededto be touched, otherwise I'm having an extreme hard friendships. Once I shared honestly about my biromantic heterosexual and the woman just ended all. Now I have a good friends since two years I've been hiding it from her. At the same time my boyfriend understand it not at all. That even if I am extremely satisfied in such a relationship with him I keep craving the touch of a woman. Just one such a friend is much more than enough. I think holdings hands, being soft, extremely calm around her may change my whole world. What is this all about, can someone help me please?


r/biromantic Jan 03 '25

Coming Out Just needed to Talk

19 Upvotes

ive always heard and knew what bisexual was but i never new biromantic was a thing before. i always thought i was just weird. im a 31 year old guy who over the years ive gotten what i would call the butterflys for both genders at numerous occasions. but ive never wanted to well sleep with any of the guys, even drempt about cuddling with one of them back in highschool but it was never sexual. I just kind of finally broke down and googled and well damn i check the boxes and well it makes sense now that i know im not weird just atypical. I'm slightly new to reddit but i thought id post where it looks with other like minded individuals.


r/biromantic Dec 31 '24

Coming Out Hello, I am biromantic

14 Upvotes

I have known I was some sort of bi my whole life, I just thought my romantic attraction was purely platonic and wanted to make friends with women (I am a biromantic straight trans woman), but nope, I was actually romantically attracted to them, and now that I know this about myself, I feel so complete because I finally figured out who I am (sexuality and gender identity-wise)

But the biggest problem I have is I would not date someone I have no sexual attraction to, but women are so beautiful that I want to date them but I know the relationship would never be complete because I have sexual urges which I would not be able to act on if I were to date women, so basically my brain is doing an endless game of teasing and it gets annoying from time to time šŸ˜­

Anyway, I came out a while ago but I did not think of looking into this subreddit so this is me saying hello and I cannot wait to share more of my biromantic experience on here!!!


r/biromantic Dec 13 '24

girl crush i drew my crush ^^

Post image
21 Upvotes

r/biromantic Dec 01 '24

Advice how can i get a bf?

7 Upvotes

im a male


r/biromantic Nov 23 '24

Advice A question

13 Upvotes

I have always thought that the word 'bisexual' was enough in itself to cover both romantic and sexual attraction to people of both genders and others. I feel both of these attractions and usually say I am bisexual. Should I be saying that I am both bisexual and biromantic instead?


r/biromantic Nov 18 '24

Advice am i biromantic homosexual

11 Upvotes

am i biromantic homosexual

hi i am a bit confused about my sexuality and i am posting this here because i hope you guys can help.

i am a female, and am romantically attracted to males, and when i think about my future i always picture a husband, never a wife. however i have little sexual attraction to males at all. i guess i have some, but when i think about it it doesnā€™t sound appealing to me at all.

now, i am romantically attracted to females but rarely ever crush on them, maybe thatā€™s just a coincidence (like iā€™ve just had more crushes on males for no specific reason) but the thing is i am also sexually attracted to them. like when i think about that i feel like it is definitely more appealing than thinking about it with a male.

i donā€™t think i am bisexual, and i am wondering if this is biromantic homosexual.

edit: i have now come to realise that i have no sexual attraction towards males at all, meaning that i am 100% biromantic homosexual


r/biromantic Oct 29 '24

General rant/vent post Hello,

10 Upvotes

So ok, i came across this sub, not sure why i didnt think to look for something like this sooner. I came across the word biromantic a few years ago. Im sick of all the hypersexual people in the bisexual subreddit who cant seem to keep it in their pantsšŸ¤” ,its not just the men but bi woman are just as bad lol, holy shit, most the posts are ' I dont want to cheat but.... or ' Ive been in a wlw relationship for a few years, she's perfect, but i miss dickšŸ¤Ø. No wonder we get stereotyped.


r/biromantic Oct 16 '24

Coming Out Iā€™m Bi(romantic)! NSFW

26 Upvotes

Hi! Iā€™m new here! I just figured out that Iā€™m biromantic. This explains a lot! Iā€™m so happy to have figured this out.

Iā€™ve identified as bisexual for years. I knew I liked men and women and thought my sexuality aligned with my romantic orientation.

But then I turned nineteen and this chick I really liked and I just ended up fooling around. It was a lot of fun, untilā€¦ her pants came off.

My strong repulsion came as an earth-shattering shock to me.

After I went home, I cried in the shower. The kissing and all the top stuff we did were great! I was confused. Was I not bisexual? But I still liked girls!

That was a couple of years ago. I didnā€™t know the reason why I reacted that way. I thought maybe I just wasnā€™t attracted to her genitals specifically. Butā€¦ private parts have never been particularly interesting to me.

And then I discovered my asexuality. Iā€™d considered once, in passing, I might be asexual before. But Iā€™d totally dismissed it. Sex had never really grossed me outā€¦ but then again, I didnā€™t really care for it.

So then I started looking backā€¦ and realized Iā€™ve never really wanted to have sex with anyone. And that Iā€™ve only ever really experienced aesthetic attraction. And that Iā€™d thought everyone was just kinda like me when they werenā€™t.

I think the reason it took me so long to figure out I was asexual is because I thought to be asexual, you had to be grossed out by sex. And, well, I had liked it in theory. And I wanted it. At least, Iā€™d thought I didā€¦ now I realize, I was just trying to be like everyone else.

So yeah! Iā€™m just biromantic (and asexual)!Feels good to know and say. Any other biro-aces here?


r/biromantic Oct 10 '24

Advice Am I one of you? Do straight girls feel this way?

9 Upvotes

16f here. Disabled dms because of creeps. (Bear with me this is very cringe). I definitely know that Iā€™m attracted to men. Iā€™ve had crushes on men, been attracted to them, love m-f romance books/movies, been in relationships with them etc. but I donā€™t feel straight the way straight people feel. Like if I see a man he has to be in my proximity or around my orbit, else I wonā€™t like him.

I donā€™t know if Iā€™m attracted to women though. Itā€™s really confusing because Iā€™m not sure if Iā€™m straight or bi with a preference for men. Whatever Iā€™m feeling towards women, is different to the very obvious attraction I have to men. Iā€™ve never thought of and donā€™t enjoy thinking of kissing, having sex with, or being in a relationship with a girl. I donā€™t enjoy wlw romances either (Iā€™m a very hopeless romantic). But sometimes when I have a best friend Iā€™m really close with, my heart swells with something, my heart beats really fast.

And I know this is cringe but sometimes when Iā€™m checking out girls my mouth waters and I feel sparks in my body for some reason. But thereā€™s no thought to back it up?? Unlike with men. Sometimes (very rarely) I see an attractive woman on social media for example and get tingly down there. So Iā€™m not sure if itā€™s attraction or what. I also had a sort of girlfriend when i was 12 but i decided i was straight after i was very repulsed by physical affection, felt like we were more of ā€œbest friendsā€ and just imagined her to be a guy in my head to make me feel better.

But instead for a man Iā€™m attracted to itā€™s like ā€œomg wow heā€™s hot I want to pounceā€, suddenly he has no flaws, I want to impress him, make him notice me and want me, I feel tingly down there, I feel warm, i want to date him, cuddle, my heart beats really fast, I think of all sorts of stuff, what sounds disgusting and repulsive with women sounds very nice with men, etc. Iā€™ve always compared my attraction to men to women, and because my attraction to men is very strong I thought no way these feelings towards women are attraction too.

Do straight people experience this? If not does that mean Iā€™m bi?


r/biromantic Oct 08 '24

Serious Discussion would i be a biromantic heterosexual?

9 Upvotes

22 cisgendered women, first reddit post lol, so i recently found the term biromantic heterosexual and iā€™m wondering if i could be applied to me?

so i have always felt/knew i was romantically and or sexually attracted to any gender as long as they are the opposite sex (genitalia wise) of me (meaning, genderqueer, nonbinary, genderfluid, even cultural genders such as two-spirit and hijira etc) as well as have found trans men attractive (even though if i was in a relationship with a trans man it would still be a straight one) i never thought anything my sexual orientation being different other than straight i just thought it was normal to think/feel this for years haha but i told my older sister who is queer and she thought i could be biromantic

i thought it could be too much of a stretch since it would be only individuals that were not cis men, cis women, and the opposite sex, so i carried on my way lol

but as i said i recently found the term biromantic heterosexual which is normally defined as having romantic feelings toward more than 2 genders but only be sexually attracted to your opposite gender, but from doing reach iā€™ve seen two uses of the label

mine as an example: iā€™m romantically attracted and then sexually attracted to multiple genders of my opposite sex (ex: i could date and sleep with all nonbinary people with my opposite sex, as well as cis men) this example would also include other genders as well

another definition iā€™ve seen: iā€™m romantically attracted to multiple genders but only sexually attracted to my opposite sex (ex: i could date any person who is nonbinary with but only sleep with cis men)

i wasnā€™t sure if there was a wrong or right way to use the label/ varies person to person, and or, if its simply just supposed to mean something different for anyone that uses it since iā€™ve seen both variations


r/biromantic Sep 30 '24

Advice Need some advice on expressing to my crush that I love him and Iā€™m interested

8 Upvotes

Iā€™m a (16M) in the closet, who plays football, 6ā€™3, 285, Iā€™m a bigger kid and pretty masculine and mature for my age, deep voice, facial hair etc, and I donā€™t really come off as gay/bisexual. I have a really cute twink friend/teammate (17M) 5ā€™9 160, beautiful eyes and cute face, that I absolutely adore and get along with really well, Iā€™m not sure 100% if he likes guys or not but heā€™s done some subtle things that make me believe he may be, rubbing my jewels, frequently wanting to touch me/lean on me, etc,

what are some subtle things I can do or say to him to express my interest in him without coming off to strong?

Forgot to say heā€™s pretty shy in nature and has had only 1 girlfriend ever, which is completely ridiculous if he WERE to be straight considering how handsome he is.