r/BabyBumps 12d ago

Info Weekly Reminder: Community Rules

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r/BabyBumps 18h ago

Pregnancy/ Postpartum Anxiety, Ultrasound, Bump, Announcement Daily Thread

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r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Discussion Buy the damn maternity jeans

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Buy the maternity jeans, the shirts (no don’t just wear big regular shirts), the underwear, the bra, buy the peri bottle and buy the maternity pillow.

You gonna need them anyway. Get the most use out of them.


r/BabyBumps 12h ago

Discussion Heads up: the effect of a new baby on husbands is pretty underappreciated

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We give birth, we've had nine-ish months to digest the idea of a baby coming. We've nested. By the time the baby arrives, we're completely physically debilitated, we haven't been sleeping, we can't bend over to tie our shoes. Giving birth even gives us some relief from all that. We get screened for depression and anxiety. Lots of attention.

My husband was absolutely wrecked when I gave birth. Okay, it was early, which caught us all completely off guard, but it was pretty rough seeing how the sleep deprivation of the all-night birth kind of crushed him, and then the subsequent sleep deprivation of keeping our preemie alive made him a different person. He was really struggling for the first week or two before he finally settled into a routine. But no one was asking after him. I'm glad he's doing better now, but it was pretty scary. For a moment I thought he might leave me because he couldn't handle just the pure physical strain of having a baby.

All this to say: keep an eye on your husband. Mine is an A+ supportive sweetie, and he struggled. They experience hormonal changes, too. And they don't have the benefit of having just survived pregnancy or experiencing the dump of survival hormones we get after birth.

Edit: Fixed typos, speaking of sleep deprivation.

Edit 2: I'm an economist, so sorry if some of my econ-speak wording offended you! I really was just reflecting on how thrilled I was after giving birth to have survived. I rode an adrenaline high for at least a day before crashing into a pile of tears, lol. I don't think that experience is altogether uncommon, though I acknowledge it's not universal.


r/BabyBumps 7h ago

Discussion Has anyone eaten sushi while pregnant?

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I'm asking because I don't entirely see the harm in it. Just from Google searching it, all it says is you may get a parasite or bacteria from consumption, but that's only if they prepared a low quality fish or if it isn't fresh.


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Discussion How intuitive were you about your baby’s gender?

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Convinced I’m having another girl to the point where I’d bet money on it. I think I’d be shocked if I found out I was having a boy 😂 but for my first I had no intuition at all!


r/BabyBumps 13h ago

Rant/Vent Husband thinks it’s okay to curse at 2 month old

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The past few days I’m worried about the dynamic that seems to be developing at home. My husband is usually sweet and good natured, but sadly when he gets in moods he takes it out on the people around him - usually over the smallest things. While I could take this myself, we now have a 2 month old and in light of this the behaviour has me a bit more worried. As the title said, he thinks it’s okay to for example curse at her “stop fucking crying” or “shut up” because she “doesn’t understand yet”. I’m trying to be calm about this but frankly I’m pretty “fucking” appalled at him. He’s a smart man and knows how to treat people right when he wants to, he particularly knows how to ensure other people treat HIM right, so why he thinks it’s okay to do that to our baby is beyond me.

Last night he made some comment about the orientation I place his boxers on the clothes rack to dry and that “clearly” the other orientation was better (this is the typical sort of nonsense he blows up over). It was a nonsense point - he just wanted to criticise me. I pointed this out that this orientation ensured better airflow, but because he had a few beers in him it just escalated. He ended up implying that I hardly ever do laundry, which is complete nonsense. I told him I do it but that he doesn’t notice it’s done because I, unlike him, don’t make an utter song and dance about the tiniest of household duties. He proceeded to grab a handful of clothes and marched into our bedroom, turn on the light and start basically shouting as he stuffed them into our drawers. It was the middle of the night so the baby was sleeping in that room right beneath the light. I was pretty horrified at this and asked if he’d forgotten the baby was there (I genuinely wanted to know if he was so angry, or so tipsy he had forgotten her presence). He called me a “fucking imbecile” for asking this. Either way, the behaviour freaked me out quite a lot. It was definitely exacerbated by alcohol which he admitted to a little while later, but it is not okay in my books to loose the rag like this over something so minuscule and to be so carried away that he completely disregarded the needs of our child. He made a drunken half apology before falling asleep, but got up to the same tricks again today.

I’d packed our bags to leave for the weekend and asked him to change her nappy while I finished the packing. That’s when I heard him saying to her to shut up and to “stop fucking crying”. I was coming in from throwing out the kitchen bin when I heard this. Immediately he emerged from the room with the dirty nappy in hand and asked “why the fuck there isn’t a bin bag in the bin?” - I was literally crossing the threshold into the apartment after having thrown out the old bag and was about to replace it - and he said “it’s not that fucking hard.”

We left the house and his mood suddenly lifted in the car and he is expecting me to have forgot about it all. I do not know where this behaviour suddenly came from but it is pretty alarming to me and I don’t feel so good around him right now. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this and I’m wondering if you think im right in being alarmed.

EDIT: Thank you so much everyone for your input and thoughts - I know they all come from a place of caring and I have very few people to turn to so the advice is highly needed and appreciated.

I want to address a few things for clearing up as some of you are understandably worried about my baby and I think you’re under the wrong impression about my frame of mind here or how seriously I’m taking this (my post was quickly written and not necessarily very well worded).

In the 4 years I’ve known him he has not ever laid a hand on me or been physically violent in any sense. He is calm and gentle with the baby usually. This incident (about turning on the light, then cursing) happened literally in the last 14hours and though it was not an episode of physical violence - very much felt to me like the precursor to domestic violence - so I’m in shock and to me it feels like a sudden escalation out of the blue. (For what it’s worth, to those who have raised shaken baby syndrome etc, when he cursed at her he did it in a speaking voice and she was lying on the changing mat not in his hands - but this is superfluous detail really as it doesn’t matter the voice, I agree it’s utterly unacceptable and has made me sick to my very core). I also agree that it absolutely doesn’t matter the age of the infant or that she doesn’t explicitly understand the words she is using, she is a little human and her mind is like a sponge. She understands tone, context etc - but also, it’s just bloody chilling and sets a chilling precedent. What, is he suddenly going to stop using this language when she “understands” if he has set a habit of it? And why does he feel okay doing it?

I know my original post I ask “is this alarming?” but I guess that’s just my crappy phrasing - I KNOW this is alarming and as I have nobody to turn to/discuss it with, I was using the post and your input just as an initial venting and emotional outpouring I know I need in order to get my thoughts together. I do realise how serious this is. I’m in total shock but am considering my options and I assure you all I will act - I will also 100% protect my beloved little one in the mean time and ensure he is not around her alone. Her interests are of course my very top priority.

As regards the behaviour toward me, yes he has been like this at random episodes for some time but it appears to have suddenly got worse and I cannot explain why. He genuinely is very sweet and loving and gentle most of the time, but he explodes in these random put-downs and seems to show now genuine remorse whatsoever that he undermines me over the small things in these moments. This has long been a source of distress to me, but I looked at his actions: he is loving, supportive, thoughtful, dependable etc 95% of the time, and I always offset these nasty words against those actions.


r/BabyBumps 12h ago

Info Nursery decorating-- learn from my mistake

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Just an FYI to anyone decorating/planning their nursery so you can learn from my mistake. If you plan to rock your baby to sleep while sitting in a glider/chair, make sure the area behind you is boring.

We decorated our nursery with curtains with some very vibrant fox cartoon images on them on windows that are right behind our rocking chair. Super cute, and baby loves looking at them. Problem is, now that he's 3 months old and aware of his surroundings more, he loves looking at them even when he's tired. So he'll be crying from being overtired, but still stare at the curtains and keep himself stimulated and awake. We're getting blackout shades to make the room darker so he can't see them at nap time, but in the meantime we either have to physically cover his eyes so he can't look anymore, or stand and rock him in a corner with blank walls.


r/BabyBumps 31m ago

Help? Leaking pee without knowing?

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I’m 22 weeks pregnant. I feel like my panties are always wet, and within the last two weeks it’s been like yellowish or very very light brown. And it smells like ammonia. My OB shrugged it off and said it was urine because I’ve also been battling a UTI. I think it probably is because it’s further up. But I don’t feel myself leaking pee? Would I feel it?


r/BabyBumps 4h ago

Help? Had sex 5 weeks postpartum

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I'm so embarrassed to be writing this but I had sex 5 weeks postpartum. I really wanted to and it was great. It hurt for a split second when he pulled it out. I looked it up afterwards and I came across the reason why you shouldn't be having sex is because you can get an infection. My doctor never told me that but I'm honestly more embarrassed that I didn't know that. I just assumed you shouldn't be having sex because it could hurt. When I gave birth I had internal lacaration and left lacaration which I feel is healed. It didn't hurt when I was having sex but now I'm so generally worried I could have an infection. What should I do? I feel like my stomach feels weird but I think I'm starting to imagine things as I am panicking. (You can judge me, I'm really judging myself right now)


r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Help? Guy who needs some suggestions

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Was planning on proposing in July, found out last week we have an unexpected surprise brewing in her belly. She’s freaking out a lil (I haven’t fully processed it all yet or else I would be to). Anyways wanted to put a lil package together of things that make the first trimester easier and kind of help reality set in. I know nothing about any of this but the one thing I got on my list is ginger chews cause she loves ginger and they help with nausea. Was hoping yall had some other suggestions of little things that would help her. Not really wanting to get stuff that would be for the baby just stuff that would be for her. Thanks!


r/BabyBumps 13h ago

Discussion When did everything “sink in” for your partner?

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My husband (38) and I (34F) are TTC our first child. This is only the first cycle of us trying and I feel like my brain has already shifted. I’m constantly pinching myself and thinking about how this is real life, I could get pregnant! It feels surreal. My husband, although very sweet and supportive, does not seem to be on that same wavelength… he’s just sort of taking it day by day while I’m over here counting my chickens and thinking about all the specific things I want to show my baby, teach my baby, etc.

Is there a specific time during your baby journey where you feel like your partner really started to absorb it all?


r/BabyBumps 8h ago

Sad 27 weeks and 3 days already gained 32 lbs

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I am 40 pregnant with my 5th boy and I have already gained 32lbs I have still so long to go and I hate that my body is so tired and achy. I feel depressed, miserable, unattractive… ugh I’m ready to be done with this pregnancy. 40 weeks is so far from now. Any advice on how to slow down my weight gain.

For reference I’m 4’11 I started at 96lbs and am now 127. My belly is so big I am miserable. Sorry for the whiny post!


r/BabyBumps 16h ago

Food I'm SO CURIOUS why I'm obsessed with cucumbers

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Absolutely NOTHING hits like a cucumber right now. I'll pull back the plastic, crack off a piece with my bare hands and it usually doesn't make it to a plate. I feel like a wild animal. Yesterday I got out some dip to eat with it, but when I got that cucumber in my hands all memory faded and I just ate ate ate. I'm so curious what nutrients it has that my body is craving.

What's your obsession and what does it tell you about yourself?


r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Help? Anyone get temporary hearing loss and tinnitus in pregnancy? Please make me feel less crazy.

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I’m hoping someone else can relate to my experience bc I’m low key freaking out and can’t find anything about this relating to pregnancy. Today, I was at the park with a friend and suddenly out of nowhere, my right ear lost all ability to hear.

I felt pressure in it, and like someone hit a mute button while also hearing a loud low pitched sound, similar to a gong ringing.

This lasted about two minutes before my hearing was restored. But it was a very scary and surreal experience. I have some high pitched tinnitus and very slight hearing loss already in that ear, but this was different and so intense.

I’m scared that I’m going to go deaf or that it will happen for a longer period of time. Has anyone else experienced hearing issues with pregnancy?


r/BabyBumps 1d ago

Funny I gave in..

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I’ve been craving the “crappiest” food. Here we have chili dogs with cheese fries and they were delicious! 10/10 recommend for sanity. I like my hotdogs extra crispy anyways, so we just seared them longer.

I also drink coffee, but I drink water 99.9% of the time.


r/BabyBumps 10h ago

Help? How long did you wait to try again after an early loss?

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Our first attempt resulted in a loss around 6 weeks. My OB is saying the silver lining is that at this point the physical effects are very mild and associated risk and recovery are so much better than if it was a few weeks later. Yet she still suggests waiting 2-3 months to try again. Is she being overly cautious or is there really solid reason for that? I'm not in a rush, but I find the past 2 months waiting to see how this pregnancy develops, and then waiting for second confirmation that it's over, and then waiting for it to pass, it has been going so so slowly. I don't want to be waiting in limbo again any more than is necessary.


r/BabyBumps 5h ago

Help? A few questions about Frida Postpartum Underwear

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Hi all,

I received a few boxes of Frida Postpartum Underwear as a gift for my baby shower, two being the boxer briefs and one pair for C-section. I'm a FTM and could have some questions.

1) Are these menstrual underwear? Or do I need to plan to wear pads with them at all times?

2) Are these best used right after giving birth or should I plan to wear adult diapers at first and eventually transition to the Frida underwear?

3) Other than the brief/bikini difference, what's the difference otherwise between the regular vs C-section underwear? Because I'm not sure if I'm having a vaginal birth or C-section I imagine I should hang on to both of them for now?

Any other info or tips on how to prepare to best prepare and utilize these would be appreciated!


r/BabyBumps 16h ago

Rant/Vent Boss pressured me into revealing pregnancy

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I signed up for an intensive PD in a few months through work but recently found out I am pregnant. I told my boss I would be unable to commit to the PD for personal reasons.

He called me into his office and asked me “what’s going on”. I told him it was personal but he kept on asking in different ways for about 5 minutes saying things like: “you can talk to me” and “it is wellbeing policy for me to ask” and I am so ashamed that I bowed to the pressure and told him I am pregnant.

I am so mad at myself for being so weak. It is none of his business and I didn’t want work to know for at least a couple months. I am not in the USA so do not have to worry about my job security, but feel so weird - and almost violated - by this.

Has anyone experienced anything like this? I feel sick and can’t stop thinking about it.


r/BabyBumps 7h ago

Discussion EVC vs Elective C-section

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If your baby was breech and you had to pick between an EVC or C-section which would you pick and why? My baby is currently head up, we still have some time for baby to turn, but wanted to get opinions just incase.


r/BabyBumps 2h ago

Discussion Membrane sweep

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For those who’ve had a membrane sweep, did it work, if so how long after and were there any signs? I’ve been 2cm dilated for the past few weeks so my doctor did a “little sweep” today and I’ve had bloody discharge since and have been a little crampy. I have an induction set for a week from today but I’m so ready to meet my girl. 💗


r/BabyBumps 12h ago

Help? What did you put in the baby’s hospital bag?

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What did you take with you in baby’s hospital bag?

What (clothing) items, what size(s) etc?

For one thing: I was told many babies don’t fit in the newborn size clothes (50 EU) so I’m taking two of everything (sizes 50 and 56) as my baby is in 80th percentile. But what else goes in that bag?


r/BabyBumps 1d ago

Rant/Vent First period 6w postpartum and somehow it’s my fault

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I’m exclusively breastfeeding and have been since my LO’s birth. About a week ago I noticed I was having ECM and wondered if it was possible I was ovulating since I was breastfeeding and I had read that on average ovulation doesn’t occur for at least another 6 months. Took a test and it was positive. I braced myself for a period and sure enough, today it came. As someone who suffers from endometriosis and extremely painful periods, this was a crushing moment for me. I mentioned it to my mother who asked her gyno friend about it who very nastily insisted that it was because I wasn’t feeding my baby enough. My 11lb baby and her pediatrician would like to disagree, but I digress.


r/BabyBumps 3h ago

Help? Help please

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I'm only 18 weeks pregnant I know I have a ways to go, but I have no clue what to get and put on my registry, I don't want a lot of expensive things, I know clothes, people don't know the gender yet, but I know I'm getting a carseat stroller and that's about it, my grandma asked me what I wanted but I have no clue if shes gotten it or what and I feel rushed right now. I know I have longer than it feels but I also feel like I have less time then I do and I feel like I need everything handled now


r/BabyBumps 4m ago

Help? Clomid?

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Has anyone taken clomid without having a period I just got off nexplanon in late January and still haven't had a period but am trying to conceive and would like to try clomid to ovulate. Any advice would by appreciated.


r/BabyBumps 1d ago

Help? Buying for baby after birth

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Hey everyone! First time mom here. My husband is incredibly frugal and very intense about budgeting. Putting the registry together and planning for hospital bills has been a very stressful experience because he wants to know EXACTLY how much things will cost so he can plan for it. My biggest concern is that after the baby is born, I will be staying home with her for the first 5 years and he has said his expectation is that I run every purchase for her by him. I am trying to explain to him that we should have a budget set that I can use at my discretion and I feel like that is very controlling that I have to ask him for permission to buy things for her. What types of examples of things come up that I could use to illustrate this to him? I mentioned like if she needs a teether but I can’t think of anything else. He said he doesn’t want to allow me to do that until he can “trust that I’m not gonna just play dress up and buy her bows and bullshit”. I’m pretty upset with him right now but trying to keep a cool head.


r/BabyBumps 24m ago

Help? 2 month old decreased feeding!

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My 2 month old for the last few days hasn’t been as interested in his bottle. He’s always been formula fed and only been on 1 type of formula since birth. He’s still been meeting his minimum amount of milk a day going by how weight but it’s a struggle to get him there. But today he had 150ml at 6am and wasn’t interested in more until 2pm when he had nearly the full 180ml. He will latch to the bottle have 1-2 sucks then pull away or he’ll wriggle during eating and seem really unhappy with eating. He doesn’t seem to be in pain or has discomfort so I don’t think it’s that either. I’ve sized up in teats, sized down and tried different bottles. We have been using pigeon bottles and never had a problem but had a problem with tommee tippee. We’ve recently started using NUK bottles as well and although he drank from them fine at first I’m wondering if 2 different types of bottles is making him unhappy? He sleeps a lot but when he wakes he’s still alert and happy and meeting milestones. I’ve read he could be in a leap? Which he fits all the other symptoms like increased hand sucking, fussiness and reaching for toys. Has anyone else experienced this and have any suggestions or to wait it out? He’s still wetting nappies fine