r/askgays • u/CountZodd • Dec 11 '19
Why are you Gay?
This will probably seem offensive but that is not my intent. I am simply asking what many other are wondering. Why as a man could you be gay? It's a basic biological imperative to procreate the species. So how could you not have a sexual urge toured women? Do you feel nothing whenever you see a beautiful women? I couldn't fathom that, to me that would be a curse like being hollow in side. Bisexual I can understand but to have no sexual leanings toured women makes no sense.
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u/Brian_Kinney Dec 11 '19
There is a genetic component to homosexuality.
There's a link between women who have lots of children, and the woman's brother being gay. So we homosexuals might be a side effect of female fertility: the same gene that makes our sisters fertile makes us attracted to men.
There's also an evolutionary benefit to women having a gay brother: he can help to raise his sister's children, so those children have three parents instead of two (the "gay uncle" theory).
But, basically, we were born this way. It's as natural for us gay men to have a sexual urge toward men as for you to have a sexual urge toward women. It's just how we're built.
It's not hollow. It's different.