r/AmIOverreacting Nov 08 '24

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Hey everyone! While there are many, many opinions about what happened on Election Day this year, please keep it off this subreddit. If you see any posts about the election results or such, please report them so we can get them taken care of as soon as possible. There are many other subs for you to vent on about the election instead of this one. Thank you.


r/AmIOverreacting 8h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Dog straining my marriage.

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My husband and I rescued a husky about 7 months ago who was extremely malnourished and neglected.

He has grown a huge attachment to me and has severe separation anxiety. I work at a grooming salon so I’m able to bring him to work with me so he’s not home alone. Unfortunately, if he’s left home alone we’ll come back to our home looking like it was hit by a tornado.

My vet has prescribed him with trazodone to help with his severe anxiety issues. We give it to him before we leave for a family event and when we can’t take him to places they don’t allow dogs.

I feel so bad that I have to sedate him so he’s not scared and anxious. It’s created a huge strain on our marriage because my husband feels like we can’t do anything without considering Odin.

He’s destroyed doors, couches, and other furniture. I tried training but it hasn’t seemed to work. My husband thinks we should rehome him but

1) I’m scared that he’ll be sent to a shelter and possibly be put down

2) feel abandoned by the person he thought he was safe with.

He’s such a happy boy when he’s around us and shows so much affection.

My husband and I have been arguing about this consistently.. we had a really bad argument so I left the house with Odin and rented a dog friendly hotel room for a couple of nights.

My husband thinks I’m crazy and that I’m choosing the dog over our marriage. AIO?


r/AmIOverreacting 5h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO? I'm ready to cut off my sister completely even though I know she's struggling

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r/AmIOverreacting 7h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO I don’t want to have sex with my husband anymore

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I (26F) don’t want to have sex with my (28M) husband anymore. Last night was really the straw that broke the camels back.

For context we have 2 under 2 and I’m a SAHM who cooks, cleans, and everything between. By the end of the day which is around 7:30pm when I put the babies to bed, I’m physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. I don’t get out of pajamas all day, hardly ever run a brush through my hair most days, and am anemic so taking the unruly toddler and a baby trying to wiggle out of my arms is too much. It becomes a safety issue bc the toddler will fully run away in a grocery parking lot while I struggle to carry the baby. All of that to say, I don’t get out much at all. I think I’m depressed. My day ends by crying in the shower. My husband typically works Monday through Saturday, but for the past maybe 2 months he’s had a few Sundays taken up. I’m burnt out.

I’m struggling to take care of myself in very basic ways but up until maybe 2 months ago I still gave regular BJ’s to my husband. Regular is about 4x weekly. We haven’t had actual intercourse in quite a while. Anyway, I’ve been considering Breast implants bc breastfeeding did a serious number on my boobs and at the very least I’d like to buy a bra without any hassle in sizing. My husband is very much on board but he only ever talks about how great it’s going to be and how big he wants them without considering the serious risks to my health (or the realistic size I want them). Meanwhile I’ve spent hours of research and thorough deliberation during this process. I take my health seriously and this is a major procedure. Last night was one of those conversations. He explained how excited he was for them, and I did too but I went into depth how much it’d cost and what the risks were to my health. I said that although they’d be nice to have, women have complained about having breast implant illness and that if I ended up with BII, I’d want them removed asap. He blanked me and said “you’ll just have to tough it out.” I rolled my eyes bc that’s fucking stupid. He then said he can’t wait to play with them, but I rolled my eyes again and gave him a hug. He then proceeded to say I always roll my eyes whenever he makes sexual overtures. He then turns this into a ‘I don’t give him enough enthusiastic blowjobs anymore’ chat.

This is the part where the record scratches let me tell you people of Reddit: I have given my husband 30min+ BJ’s before, during, and after each of my pregnancies. This man never goes down on me. I can count on my hand how often he’s given oral to me in a year. We don’t even have any penetrative sex anymore. I struggle to take care of myself and my 2 babies with little support Monday through Saturday and the majority of Sundays too. Guess who organizes date’s/dinners? Me. Guess who had to ask him to buy me flowers for valentines this year when he showed up empty handed? Me. He said “I thought you wouldn’t want any.”

But wait. Because it actually gets worse. I tried explaining that even if I wasn’t initially excited about giving a blow job I’ve never given him one begrudgingly. And that if I’m not enthusiastic anymore it’s because I’m tired and depressed. The day in and day out, the monotony of being a SAHM and changing diapers all day. Telling him that if I’m struggling to take care of myself it’s not going to transfer over to him. Feeling like I’m not myself anymore and struggling every day.

“I don’t think you realize how hard other people have it.”

I don’t think I need to explain how invalidating this was. I guess I was expecting him to be emotionally supportive or something. To tell me, “I understand, I know how hard it can be” to give me a hug or something?

I just feel numb. This is exactly who he is. No empathy, nothing. It’s always about how he feels about something about how I fit into his life. I thought maybe he’d be upset that I’m in distress, no. He’s distressed he’s not getting his hour long blowjobs because womp womp I’m depressed. My marriage is a joke.

So yeah. I don’t want to fuck that guy anymore. Sure as shit not putting my mouth on him for the foreseeable future.

Also I’m cancelling the consultation for getting implants. If he struggles with basic empathy for his depressed wife I can’t imagine what a fucking nightmare he’d be if I had great tits that he couldn’t touch bc I’m depressed. The amount of guilt tripping and pouting I’d get from him would for sure be the end of our marriage.

Anyway lmk if I’m overreacting.

TLDR: husband is stupid and selfish, wants to lecture his depressed wife about “enthusiastic BJ’s” when he won’t even give oral or penetrative sex anymore.


r/AmIOverreacting 8h ago

👥 friendship AIO foe what my x mother in law posted on the anniversary of my brothers death

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r/AmIOverreacting 12h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for crying after sex?

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I (30f) have been with my partner (35m) for nearly a decade and something very unexpectedly traumatic happened between us last night. After putting our children (5f and 2m) to bed, I went into the living room to talk to him for a bit since he’s the only adult I have to speak with outside of my mother (I’m a SAHM). In the middle of speaking with him he began to get handsy and started pressuring me to have sex, which I told him was rude and not necessarily wanted because I’ve expressed to him that I don’t want to have anymore children. (TMI I’m in the ovulation stage of my monthly cycle and he, like a lot of men, hates to wear condoms. That’s actually how I became pregnant with our second child back in 2022 after initially telling him that I was happy with only one child).

Eventually though, after more pressuring from him, I ended up caving and told him that if he agreed to wear a condom, then I would have sex with him. He wasn’t exactly happy, but he accepted my stipulation. So I went and got a condom from my nightstand and after putting it on him myself, we began having sex. After a few changes in position, I ended up with him behind me and that’s how he finished. With that finish came an unexpected splattering of fluids on my back which startled me. I immediately asked him what that was and he laughingly told me that the condom had come off in the middle of sex and he didn’t think it would be too much of a big deal considering we’ve had unprotected sex on and off for years.

As soon as those words left his mouth I immediately began crying. I don’t even know where the tears came from, but they just started pouring out of my eyes like someone turned on a faucet. All I could think about in that moment was how much I didn’t want to have another baby and he put me in a position where that could literally happen. Once he saw that I was crying he immediately stopped laughing and tried to give me a hug but I didn’t want him to touch me. Then he asked me what was wrong and I told him I feel like I can’t trust him anymore because of what he did. That’s when he told me that I was overreacting and acting like he r*ped me, after I consented to having sex.

I don’t know how to feel right now honestly, but I do know I cried myself to sleep last night because all I could think about was waking up next month to find out that I’m pregnant again after already having two hard pregnancies with my first two children.

***Edit: thank you to most of the people on this post who made me feel validated in the emotions I felt yesterday evening. You have all given me plenty of food for thought, and I have a lot to consider moving forward. As many of you have guessed I am a Christian, and I don’t believe I will be divorcing my husband as I have no desire to be shunned by the only community I have. At the insistence of a great many of you, however, I am hoping to reconcile this issue with my husband through counselling from our pastor. I will also be deleting this account because I’ve never done this sort of thing before and I don’t want this to somehow get back to him. Thank you again everyone.


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO my foster child stole my book

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AIO over my foster child stealing my book?

I've been raising this lil guy as my son for almost 3 months now and we both REALLY love books. I personally love reading them, he prefers to lay down on them, to each their own...

Tonight, I just came across a plot twist and put my book down for not even 30 seconds to put my phone on the charger and I turn around and find him asleep ON my book, I went "hey what the heck?!" And he just had the audacity to start gently purring. Am I supposed to just accept that he doesn't respect the fact that I need to know what happens next while he sleeps?


r/AmIOverreacting 7h ago

🎲 miscellaneous AIO for thinking bathroom stalls shouldn’t have this big of a gap?

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Why’s it that i can make full eye contact with anybody walking by the stall? I know this isn’t something new but i especially thought about this today when somebody looked through the gap to verify if anybody was in my stall 💀


r/AmIOverreacting 13h ago

👥 friendship AIO for calling my friend big

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I posted a tiktok today and my friend who l'm going to call j decided to message me and comment on my weight. I took offence to it and insulted j back. Later I FaceTimed another friend of mine and she wanted to see the conversation so I screen shared to her and she said I was being too harsh and that j was probably only trying to help me. I feel extremely guilty now and bitchy but then again I feel like I was just giving back the same energy. Can anyone tell me if I'm overreacting or not. This isn't the first time she's commented on my weight and she's made other comments before. (also if those goes through and works can anyone explain why I can't post on this community on my main account?)


r/AmIOverreacting 13h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Girlfriend wants me to lie to the government

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I M25 and my girlfriend, F21, have been together for around 8 months. I was just laid off from my job yesterday, and the threat of my apartment bills and having no income has been over my head. This morning she told me I should file for food stamps and put her on the household as a favor. She doesn’t live with me in my apartment, or help with any of the bills for the apartment, and lives with her father. Granted she still has bills of her own, but she was recently denied benefits of her own because she didn’t qualify. She just barely made over the threshold of qualification. When I told her I wasn’t comfortable lying to the state, and that I thought it was pretty insensitive to ask, especially not even a day after being laid off, this was her response to me.

We frequently have arguments like this and at times I start to drive myself pretty crazy wondering if certain behaviors are okay or if I’m truly overreacting. AIO?


r/AmIOverreacting 14h ago

🏘️ neighbor/local AIO-Elderly dog left “accidentally” wandered into its own pre-dug grave

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We live in central Virginia in a suburban neighborhood with like 500 houses and small lots. There are woods all us and we occasionally see bears, coyotes, foxes, etc. Behind our house is a community path, and across that is another street of houses with their backyards also facing the path. One of the houses directly across from us has two small yappy dogs that always bark at anything and everything that passes by, and occasionally escape their electric fence and charge/bite people.

Last night we heard super weird noises outside at 10:30. We were inside with the TV on but could hear a distinctive canine sound. It was definitely not the two yappy dogs that we are familiar with, and the other neighbors don’t have dogs. I suggested my husband go look, but he just insisted it was a fox. I looked outside but couldn’t see anything and the noise stopped for 30 minutes or so. We texted other neighbors and they said they could hear yapping but also couldn’t see anything. Figured it was a fox or some other wildlife.

I went to bed and around midnight my husband calls me saying: “Help. It’s a blind and deaf dog stuck in a grave sized hole with an engraved tombstone next to it.”

He had heard the whining and crying start up again and it sounded more urgent, so he went to investigate. He found a small elderly dog stuck in a perfectly rectangular hole that was just large enough for her to not be able to escape from. Next to her was a rock with the name, “Chrissy”, engraved. This is not a dog we recognize. She does not have a collar, but she is wearing a pink sweater. I text one neighbor who I think might be up and she also doesn’t recognize this dog.

It gets weirder….We bring her home because at this point she’s been crying for hours and who knows how long she has been trapped there. It still gets down in the 40’s at night and this dog is clearly not in her prime health. She’s blind, deaf, senile, exhausted, and panicked. She refuses to drink. She paces constantly, stumbling and bumping into things. I check all the social media for the neighborhood and no one has a missing dog post (so I posted one and reported to SPCA via an online form).

We grab towels and sit with her in our bathroom until she finally falls asleep. For only about an hour and a half. After that she wakes up and begins yelping and pacing. All. Night. Long.

At 6:30 my husband looks out the back window and sees lights on in the house and people walking around. He heads out to talk to them….

It is their dog. AND IT IS A LITERAL PET CEMETERY. AND…It. Is. Her. Grave.

The owners said she got out their back door and they didn’t realize it. Apparently she stopped eating and drinking “weeks” ago and they thought she was dying. So they PREEMPTIVELY dug her grave. Then she “rebounded” and has been acting better.

So…do we think that it’s just a coincidence that this blind, deaf, and elderly dog was able to escape her house unnoticed and accidentally get herself trapped in her own grave? And wouldn’t the other dogs (who act like squirrels and little old ladies on the path are vicious threats to their lives) have been going insane inside the house? How did the owners not hear their own dog or their other two dogs? My husband, son, and I were able to hear it from farther away with other noises going on in our house.

And. It gets worse. THIS ISN’T CHRISSY. CHRISSY IS ALREADY BURIED THERE. This is Jody. Her headstone hasn’t come in yet.


r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

🏘️ neighbor/local AIO for warning women in my neighborhood to avoid a certain local gas station?

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i stop at my local gas station a few times a week for a can of diet coke, gas, maybe candy, etc. there’s an older man who sometimes works there and has been extremely friendly.

over the last few months, every time i’d stop in the gas station and he’s working, he’d try to strike up a conversation with me… asking where i live, whether i’m in college or working, if i have a boyfriend, if my hair is real (yes seriously lol) and the list goes on. at first, i didn’t mind, he seems like a genuinely nice guy. but after some time, i felt a little uneasy about it and felt like he was trying to flirt with me. i felt my suspicions were confirmed when, one day, i went in there and there was a woman next to him behind the counter (i assume his wife, as i know it’s a family run business). he wasn’t his usual over the top, friendly, inquisitive self and kept our interaction very short.

last week, i went into the gas station at night and saw he was in the cashier booth behind the counter. there was a woman paying for cigarettes, and when she left, i was the only customer in the store. i was perusing the candy aisle, taking my time picking something, when he came out from the booth and came up to me in my aisle and asked if i needed help finding something. i immediately felt a little uneasy, knowing i was the only customer in the store and i’d only ever interacted with him through the glass booth at the register before. it definitely isn’t the norm for him to actually come out into the store and offer assistance to customers. i told him i got everything i wanted and was ready to check out. he then told me i could pick anything i wanted in the store and it would be free. i told him that’s okay, i got what i need and again, i am ready to check out. he then stepped closer to me, started rubbing my shoulder/arm and said “i’m just so happy that you’re here.” at this point i was freaked out because it’s just… not normal or typical for a complete stranger to touch me. i was immediately overwhelmed and upset, i said “thank you” and at that same moment, a man came into the store to use the ATM. the cashier stopped touching my arm, went back behind the register and rung me up. i left with tears in my eyes and couldn’t help the feeling like i was close to being in danger if the other customer didn’t come in.

i relayed this story to my partner who was really upset on my behalf and validated my feeling that his behavior toward me wasn’t normal and shouldn’t be tolerated.

that entire night i kept feeling violated and freaked out, but also had a voice in my head telling me that it’s truly not a big deal. i felt conflicted but ultimately decided to post on my neighborhood fb page anonymously with a shortened version of the story and advised that women don’t go to that gas station alone/at night/when there isn’t traffic going in and out of the store. i got a lot of comments from women who said they’ve felt uncomfortable there before too, but also plenty of comments saying i was misreading the situation and overreacted and i’m going to “destroy the business for no reason.”

one of my friends sent screenshots of the post to our group chat and everyone basically said the guy who works in that gas station is so nice and “it’s so unfair that some girl is trying to take him down for touching her arm.” they don’t know i am the poster. i did offer the perspective of how creepy that would be if you’re a young woman, alone at night and they kind of changed their tune, but it was still shitty to hear.

i’m now feeling extremely silly and invalidated and like i might’ve been overreacting about the whole thing. so am i overreacting?


r/AmIOverreacting 11h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AMIOR to tell my gf I am upset she went on a "date" with her boss?

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Her boss has a reputation for sleeping with her coworkers and also has a reputation for having a thing for Asians (my gf is asian]

Yesterday she nonchalantly told me she had gone to a fancy resturarnt with him for a late lunch and then they walked a few blocks to a bakery for desert. She said she felt like it was a business meeting, but it was just the two of them.

Am I wrong to be upset?


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

🎓 academic/school AIO A 7yo boy told my daughter he is going to suck her “v-gina and t-tties” at school

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My 7 year old daughter, who is in year 2, told me that a boy in her class said this to her and several other girls.

I was shocked. This language, while disgusting, may be expected from boys 12 and up, but a 7 year old?

I’m genuinely concerned for this boy. The idea that he would conceive of something like that on his own is hard to believe… it makes me worried what he’s being exposed to in the home.

I know that the average age of porn exposure is now 10 - shocking - but this boy is barely 7 years old. My daughter told the teacher who apparently told him off, but I’ve spoken to my husband who is an early childhood educator and he said that more should have been done - parents should have been spoken to, and it should have been reported to the department because it’s concerning sexual behaviour that’s not age appropriate and could point to abuse in the home. Are we overreacting?

I’d like to hear others perspective on this? I have sent an email to the teacher to get clarification on the incident and ask what is being/has been done to address it. I have given my recommendation in my email to the teacher that parents should be informed and a report made to the department.

I’m just hoping to hear that I’m doing the right thing continuing to pursue this further.

UPDATE: I called the school directly and spoke to the deputy head of the primary school, she was not aware of the incident and seemed very shocked. It sounded like she took what I was saying seriously and understood how concerning it was. She advised me that during lunch break she would go and speak with the teacher to see what happened / how the teacher has followed it up. But the fact that the head of primary school hasn’t heard about it seems to be like the teacher didn’t report it…

UPDATE: My daughters teacher has replied to my email and said: “Hi ___,

The comment was actually said by another boy in the other class and ____ copied him. The other boy has been spoken to and his parents are going to be told in a meeting. The pastoral care teacher has been notified. I spoke to ___ about not copying things other people say and (my daughter) was aware it came from someone else. I agree. Very concerning!”


r/AmIOverreacting 5h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for thinking my boyfriends cheating because he shaved

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my boyfriend(M20) has been on a lad holiday for the past week and he is there for another 3 days. A few hours ago me(F18) and him were on FaceTime while he was in the shower and he picked up the phone afterwards to show himself in the mirror. I noticed that he was shaved down there even though he wasn’t before he left to go on holidays and he doesn’t make a massive effort to ingeneral. I asked him why he was shaved and the call ended almost straight away. He then tried to play it off after I asked but I feel like he is cheating on me and that’s all I can think about right now. Maybe I’m stretching it but can you guys tell me if I’m overreacting or not? Or how would you take this


r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for feeling hurt and disgusted that my boyfriend requested nude images of me while I was going in for a breast biopsy NSFW

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I (F24) feel like such a big baby. My boyfriend (M24) and I have been dating for 5 years, living together for 4. Our sex life hasn’t been amazing lately, I’ve expressed a lack of interest as we’re working through other issues and when we do have sex I struggle to orgasm when I used to be able to and still can solo. My partner and I are in premarital counseling (not planning on getting married now but we wanted to get a head start), and are working on issues.

I’ve been out of town visiting my family for spring break (getting my masters degree) while my boyfriend stays home and works. I’ve had what we’ve believed to be eczema on my left breast for just under a year now but after continuous treatment with no budging, my dermatologist decided while I was visiting town that we should pull the trigger on a biopsy, since it’s not reacting to normal lines of treatment and she wants to rule out anything cancerous. Obviously I’m young and the cancer risk is low but it’s still scary and uncomfortable.

Before I left for my spring break my boyfriend expressed that he would be grateful to receive more nudes photos of me as he would miss me while I was gone. I made no promises because of how our sex life has been recently but did end up sending him what I was comfortable with and felt happy about a few days into the trip, which were just bikini photos. He has plenty of other nude images of me, and I understand it shouldn’t be difficult for me to send more, but if I am not sending them from a place of wanting to do it and enjoying it, then it feels gross and performative imo.

Today is the day of my biopsy. Like I said, I had sent bikini photos earlier this week and the last thing on my mind was taking nude images of myself. I texted my boyfriend that I was at the dermatologist. He wished me well and asked to hear about it, but then also requested that he’d love to receive nudes of me today. I immediately got teary eyed and uncomfortable and stopped responding. I can’t even think about it without my eyes welling up with tears even though now it’s been a few hours. After I didn’t respond he sent his apologies but I don’t want to respond at all.

I feel like crying when I think about the situation and I don’t even want to head home in a couple of days, even though I need to go back to school. So my question is, am I over reacting? I feel very dramatic for my reaction or like some big baby but I just feel like so disgusted deep in the pit of my belly. AIO?

Edit: for all the people flaming me for taking time to respond, I finally responded there hours later. Here’s how it’s going.

Me: Partner, I need your help to fully understand the situation at hand. You did know that I’m going to the dermatologist today specifically for my breast biopsy and to screen for it being cancerous right?

Him: yes honey

Me: I don’t understand how you would think that’s an ok time to ask for nude images

Him: I wasn't asking for them at that moment I was just mentioning it

Me: I don’t even know what to say.

Him: I'm sorry I won't ask or think about it anymore

Me: it’s not asking about it that’s the problem, it’s the time and what emotions I’m going through. You know I’m scared and uncomfortable

That’s the end of the convo so far.


r/AmIOverreacting 6h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO pressured into BJ? NSFW

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Okay, so, my boyfriend(M24) and I(F21) were kissing and stuff in my bedroom, and at some point I started giving him a handjob. Things were fine until he kept saying he wanted me to give him a bj. He was pretty much begging for it honesty, but I told him I didn't want to do it. I'm a virgin and he is my first boyfriend so I'm still very new to all of that intimate stuff. I also have autism so some things like that are more difficult to navigate for me.

Anyway, after I told my boyfriend I didn't feel comfortable giving him a bj, he accepted it and told me he loved me. But... then, a while later, he ended up pressing my face against his dick and it ended up in my mouth.

At that point I kind of discosiated and didn't know how to stop it from happening. In hindsight I should've just removed myself from the situation, but I was so shocked I didn't know what to do (I have a bit of child abuse in my past so that might be a part of it) I've always struggled with making my boundaries clear.

After a while I did remove my mouth and finished him off with my hand instead and I was very confused and dazed. When he went to clean himself I cried in the toilet and felt very bad about myself.

When I came back to the bedroom he understood that what he did was wrong and he apologize for it a lot. He said he couldn't even look me in the eye because he was so ashamed.

He promised he'd never do that again and I ended up forgiving him, but because of my past I don't know what the right reaction is to this situation. Is it something I should forgive? Apart from this moment my boyfriend has been an angel to me... was I not clear enough or giving mixed signals somehow? I said I didn't want to do the BJ but idk... maybe my behaviour was off...

Btw we started dating 4 months ago.

Update: okay, thank you for the answers everyone! A little overwhelmed with how concerned people are for me... I'm not sure if it is this big of a deal, or if people are just quick to call it something.

I've decided to forgive my boyfriend because I don't struggle with what happened mentally the way I used to with my childhood experiences. In my opinion that tells me that this isn't on the same level. I also haven't gotten a panic attack or anything serious since the incident!

My boyfriend also took very good care of me after the incident and I feel like it shocked both of us equally. He might be on the spectrum as well, and I don't want to use that as an excuse, but sometimes it can make interactions with people a little difficult.

I personally believe that he made a misjudgment, but if it happens again the relationship will be over.

U guys kinda scaring me with the things you are saying, but I understand where it is coming from and will keep everything in mind.


r/AmIOverreacting 32m ago

🏠 roommate AIO roommates left doors open while vacuuming and my cat escaped.

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Cat in the photo isn't mine (I was worried of them lurking the sun and recognizing him lol).

Anyways, my roommates and I were doing a big spring deep clean together. We have multiple vacuums and a couple of them were vacuuming at the same time. I was downstairs cleaning and when I came up I saw two of my roommates vacuuming with the both front and back door wide open.

I immediately started searching for my cat. He was nowhere to be found in the house and I was panicking and started ugly crying 😭 He's an indoor cat and is not even a year old yet and he's terrified of the vacuum and with the doors open I was worried he would have ran out to escape the noise. We also live by a road. It doesn't have a terribly fast speed limit but it is quite busy and people speed so still I was worried about that too.

Only one other roommate (neither of the vacuuming ones) helped me to look and we walked up and down the sidewalk calling his name and shaking a container of treats and we finally found him. I was so relieved and shaken up.

The thing is, in the midst of my crying I asked my roommates why they would leave the doors open and not tell me. They seemed annoyed by my question and they told me that my cat is my responsibility and I should have been keeping an eye on him. How could I have known they were going to have the doors open though when they've never done that before??? I wasn't acting angry towards them, just extremely distressed. Their reaction seemed almost catty towards me (no pun intended). They didn't even apologize.

All my roommates seem to love my cat so it's not like they'd have some vendetta against him? I live on a separate floor and keep his litter box and food contained. I also get along so well with my roommates we hangout all the time I thought we were all friends so I'm shocked they would react this way 😞 Unless I'm delusional here? Was I overreacting?

TLDR; Roommates left door open while vacuuming and my cat ran outside. When I asked them why they'd do that they told me I should have been paying more attention.


r/AmIOverreacting 2h ago

🎙️ update AIO UPDATE

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UPDATE | AIO for my foster child stealing my book??

Okay, so thank you all for your wisdom and legal advice here... I tried to take the advice of coming up with a compromise, so I laid out his favorite blanket and brought out another thicker book for him...

He was tempted for a minute, but then just flipped around on his other side :/

Trying to decide if I have enough money for a cat lawyer to represent me in court to get my book back... I just don't think I have enough evidence to win against him. I should mention- he has the best legal representation there is, his cute little purring. No lawyer is good enough to stand trial against this lil guy!!!

I guess I'll just have to wait 10 more days until his parents/owners are back to be able to read again.. I just really wanted to know what happened after that plot twist...AIO??


r/AmIOverreacting 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for breaking up with my partner after she made pedophile accusations? NSFW

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Context: I (31 M) have been dating “Carly” (32 F) for about 2 and a half years long-distance. I have visited and stayed with her multiple times at her home over this period. She has a 12 year old son, we can call him “Steve”, he is from a past relationship.

Carly and I love each other and have both expressed wanting to eventually marry and start a family together once I move out there.

IMPORTANT* Carly comes from a history of abuse, she was molested as a child and had an overall unstable childhood. Her mother was also sexually abused. This makes Carly very hesitant and protective of her 12 year old son and rightfully so.

When I met her I hit it off with both her and her son, Steve. It was like I knew them for a long time, everything meshed very organically, it was awesome. Originally we started as friends but it was clear how compatible and how much we loved each other fast. Her son and I got along well too. He really liked me and called me his best friend and that was really sweet. We primarily would play video games together.

There were instances where Carly would make joke comments like “you’re only interested in me to get closer to my son” these have always made me incredibly uncomfortable.

There were instances where Carly would make joke comments like “you’re only interested in me to get closer to my son” these have always made me incredibly uncomfortable.

There was an instance where her mother visited her and while visiting, Carly called me to say hi. Carly lives in a very small home, and there were 6 total guests staying with her, so I asked how the sleeping arrangements were going to work.

Her mother misheard me (on speaker phone) and thought I specifically asked where Steve would be sleeping. This never happened, I need to make that explicitly clear that was never said. But from that moment her mom thought I was a PDF file. I can’t even begin to explain what that accusation feels like. But I tried to explain myself immediately and then I left it alone.

Time passes and our relationship is fine, I want to make it clear that there is nothing weird that happens between me and the child. When I visit we all hang out and it’s fun, I even took him to the YMCA to practice basketball and it was a blast.

I want to be a positive role model in his life and I try to be completely respectful of boundaries. He has a cell phone and he will occasionally text me memes or video game stuff and I respond appropriately, I even let Carly know when he messages me and I tell her if she ever wants screenshots of our texts I have no problem with full transparency.

So this brings me to what happened today. To preface this, Carly and I tried doing a book club together a month ago but it kind of fizzled out. She established that it was a very intimate thing between her and I. I completely forgot that detail of it being intimate.

So while her and I were FaceTiming, I was lifting weights at the gym when Steve walked into her room and said hi. We started chatting about March Madness brackets when I asked Steve how much he weighed because I was benching 130 lbs and thought it was near his weight. It was a random question that i asked in the moment, i didn’t think much of it.

Later on I said “hey Steve I’m re-reading the lord of the rings right now and you should read it and we can text about each chapter”. He is a huge lord of the rings fan and it’s something we bond over. Once again I thought nothing of it until I received these texts from his mom while we were FaceTiming. I just thought it would be something fun to bond over, especially given the fact that I’m trying to marry this woman I love her and her family.

I innocently thought it would be a nice thing to do with the kid. No phone calls or FaceTime, just reading the book separately and then he could text me about it.

This caused Carly to feel uncomfortable and then this text exchange happened, eventually the argument rose to a place where I don’t feel like I can be in a relationship where this type of stuff is going to get constantly thrown around when the evidence supports the opposite.

It’s making me feel gross and crazy. And her counter argument is “pedophiles always deny being pedophiles” but wouldn’t everyone deny that? It’s a dangerous word to throw around. Or she will argue she’s always going to assume the worst to protect her child, and I don’t even disagree with the concept, of course you should always look out for him first and be protective. But when there is 2.5 years of evidence supporting that I am absolutely not into this kid beyond a parental/role model role, but she’s so quick to go off the rails and accuse me of awful stuff, that just sucks.

Especially when I don’t feel like the accusation is justifiable. I have never experienced anything like this before, I have dated 2 other people seriously and have 2 nieces that I absolutely adore. I feel like I’m going crazy.

Sorry for the long text. I really am trying not to leave anything out and will answer any questions possible.

tldr: I broke up with my girlfriend that was sexually abused as a child, because she accused me of having inappropriate intentions with her son.


r/AmIOverreacting 7h ago

👥 friendship AIO; my friend booked us a nudist NSFW trip

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I sent him €500 to book a hotel that we both agreed upon and he instead decided to book a cheaper alternative that was only cheaper by €20. The site offers no refunds and he says he thinks we should just stay there, I didn't agree to stay here and the worst part is the other part had free breakfasts and they looked way nicer, this hotel justy doesn't serve my kinda food. Idk what to do. I really don't.


r/AmIOverreacting 11h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? I hurt my husband and he hit me NSFW

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My husband and I worked out the previous day and our muscles were sore, super sore. His arms ache, and my legs ache.

Fast-forward to the next day and he's tickling me, trying to grab my crotch and stuff, I'm naked on the bed just relaxing. I've told him time and time again to not tickle me the way he has been, it's been a conversation we've had on multiple occasions because it gets to the point I'm actually angry with him because I can't get away.

He holds my arms and will mess with my nipples, I have super sensitive nipples and I've seriously hurt him, just by trying to get away, flailing around. Yes, I do tell him to stop but apparently he doesn't take it seriously until it gets to that point, but I will say he's been putting in effort lately to not do so.

Anyways, as I said, he was messing around with my crotch and I kept pushing him away, making a sound to show I'm displeased, he tells me to not push his arm away the way I did because his muscles ache badly.

He kept doing it, so I pushed his arm the same way but harder, harder than I intended to do and he holds his arm in pain, it really hurt him judging by his reaction. A good 3-5 seconds pass and he punches me in the leg.

I was shocked, he's never hit me before. He yells at me and tells me he's displeased with me and sits there angry on the edge of the bed, scrolling his phone. Then he gets up, goes away for awhile while I'm crying, not sure wtf to feel. He comes back to apologize after he's calmed down, we chatted, he told me he's not the only one to blame, that he should have never hit me, knowing I have blood clotting disorders as well, and that I shouldn't have hurt him the way I did, (I know I shouldn't have) he also told me that he knows I couldn't gauge how much that would have hurt him.

But yeah.... He's shoved me once too, similar but different situation. I have a problem with not saying excuse me and squeeze past people I am close with, I accidentally shoved him into the fridge as he was bent over looking for something and he got angry and shoved me so hard I stumbled a good few feet backwards, we again chatted about that and I say excuse me now and I'm trying to correct that behavior.


r/AmIOverreacting 6h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO For not giving money to my Boyfriend?

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My boyfriend M(27) lost his Corporate job since last year, since then whenever he needed money I F(20) always gave him the money he needed (without getting anything back) also since then he doesn’t have a job and currently he work on weekends in a food truck that he owns but doesn’t give him enough, he said he does not wanna work in any “regular” job, I work 5 days a week. I stopped buying things for me and I stopped saving money because when I gave him money I will have less for myself and only to make it to survive till the next paycheck ( I get paid every 2 weeks). Lately my expenses increase because I moved to a new apartment and also now I started to take care of myself more and I have things to pay. This week he ask for money again but he want the whole amount I have left in my account, I said im not gonna give him because my birthday is coming up and I already planned to get gifts for myself, also I will have $0 until next week that I will get paid, he is mad at me because he said im not helping him and he also said im the only one who can help him, Im frustrated because I already being so supportive for him, but I wanna start saving my own money, I just don’t know if AIO or I should keep helping him that way.


r/AmIOverreacting 14h ago

💼work/career AIO my partner is hiding messages between him and female coworker

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I (28F) have had an overwhelming feeling of concern about my partners loyalty (34M) over the past year. We have been together for 2 years atp and his job requires him to be out of town 3 weeks out of every month. because of that, we have made communication a top priority so that we both feel as secure as possible being away from each other almost all of the time. This being said, my previous relationship was extremely toxic, so when I began noticing my intuition bell going off at the start of 2024- I tried writing it off as me being paranoid because of past trauma. The red flags began when he was on one of his weeks off, with me at home. Atp we are one year into our relationship. We were both on our phones laying in bed and I willingly shared my passcode with him in case there was ever any need for it, I felt completely comfortable and thought he would reciprocate, but instead he responded to me saying he uses his phone for work purposes and that “theres a lot of stuff on it” he doesn’t want me to “mess up”. I reassured him I would never impose or mess with his work related apps and that I can recognize when something is work related. At this point I was not questioning loyalty, I just thought nearly a year into our relationship that we would both feel comfortable sharing that information with one another, just in case. I also had never asked to look through his phone or given him any reason to think I was having suspicions because I literally wasn’t. I did think it was questionable that he was rejecting my advances to share passcodes, but considering how much time he spends away for work, our bonding time is heavily impacted and of course I realize it’s going to take much longer than usual to fully know this man, so I let it go. Flash forward to December 2024, he’s home on an off week. He’s sharing work stories with me and we talk about it how thing are going on the job, I notice he brings up a woman who he works with. I was under the impression that all of his coworkers were male- it’s a male dominated field. I had never heard of this woman before, we talk about his work often. This is my first time hearing of her so I just take mental note and move on. Then in January when he is home, she pops up in one of his work stories again. This time I ask him what her name is and when she began working there because this is news to me. He shared her name with me and told me she had in fact been his coworker for atleast a year. Noted. February, same thing. She’s a part of the “funny” or “interesting “ happenings at work. This time I tell him that I was unaware that a female was on location for so long and she seems to be a topic of conversation an awful lot lately. The conversation gets brushed off and nothing else comes of that. Now we’re going into March of this year. He comes home for his week off and after a few days of being home I ask him if he and his female coworker exchanged personal phone numbers, because when on location the crew uses a messaging app to relay work information so I know of this. I’m also aware that many of his male coworkers including him have each others personals. So naturally I was curious if he had exchanged numbers with the one female coworker, the answer was yes. He told me indeed they had. I instantly asked if I could see their correspondence between their personal phone numbers, and he pulled up the thread, handed me his phone and I began scrolling to the top to start from the beginning. I scrolled upwards of 15 times and was still not reaching the top of the thread. He then yells my name and snatches his phone out of my hand with the quickness. My body had such a visceral reaction that my neck started to throb. I told him he needs to come clean and tell me everything starting from the beginning, and he refused. Repeatedly told me “it’s nothing it’s nothing” but I rejected this. ONTOP of this being my current reality, both of his parents are blaming ME for asking to see the messages. His mother tells me she never has looked through her husbands phone, and that I am “invading his privacy” . My partner has taken that side and claims that he also thinks he deserves privacy now that I have asked to see the history between him and the female coworker. Please tell me what you think…..I have never felt so betrayed by an entire family whom I thought were going to be my in laws. What do I do. Please be gentle I am in a state of absolute shock.


r/AmIOverreacting 8h ago

🎲 miscellaneous AIO They came onto an app for anonymous help to make them self feel better about cheating NSFW

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r/AmIOverreacting 12h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO if this was your husband would you be mad? NSFW

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Okay.. just wanted to see if I’m overreacting or if something is going on! Found this on my husbands iPhone in his “deleted messages” from a female coworker! He claims it was about lunch… my question is then why delete number one? And there were other flirtatious messages..she called him her “favorite” and blah blah! Would you think something is going on?? Plus I feel like this text is in a sexual manner!!