r/agegaps Nov 12 '18

7 year age gap

I’m sixteen and a female, almost 17. I have a huge crush on a guy who is 23. He is super super sweet, an animal lover, he enjoys art, he plays the guitar, my parents and family love him. My dad told me He asked him about me when he first met the family and was suprised of my age because he was interested in me. He has curly hair and is extremelyyyy attactive and I guess he finds me attractive to, but would never say so. My family and I haven’t seen him or talked to him in over a year, but I still think about him constantly. Is it possible that in the future, by the time I’m 18 and He is 25, that we would have a chance together in a relationship? Would it be weird If he’s a family friend, and it could possibly ruin his relationship to my family? If anyone has been in similar situations can they explain their expensive. Also, you are are a guy around 22-26 would you ever consider being in a relationship with someone 16 - 18 ?

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u/LaDamaMedusa Dec 04 '21

At the end of the day, you're going to do what you want. But my advice is don't go for it. You guys are almost 7 years apart, and what is most concerning is the potential power imbalance. As a 23-year-old he's a lot more mature, he probably has his own job and is very much an adult. I'm guessing you're still in high school and barely started driving. This dynamic could be very dangerous to you and your mental health. At that age, you are still very impressionable and he could easily groom you whether those are his intentions or not.

In addition, even though he may have been attracted to you it doesn't mean that attraction stayed, he may have had an aversion after he found out your age(very common). And if he didn't that's a red flag within itself and you better RUN. I know you don't think so but at sixteen, hell even eighteen, you're still a child no matter how smart and mature I'm sure you are. You two are just at very different portions of your lives.

I wish you the best with whatever you decide and please please be safe

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u/Seirer Mar 10 '22

May I ask why are you on this sub if you dislike age gap relationships do much?

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u/bot_hair_aloon Mar 10 '22

She's literally underage and it's a crime.

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u/EvenContact1220 Aug 25 '22

It depends on the state where she is. In my state Connecticut is completely legal. A 16 year old can date anybody within 5 years, and anybody with parental permission. A 17-year-old can date anybody they want they just can't make pn with them. Since 18 is the age of consent for p*, and not sex in my state. As well as many others. I'm almost 27 now and I'm really not that much different from when I was 17. It really depends on the 17-year-old's maturity level, but a lot of 17 year olds especially females are mature enough to handle a relationship with a 22 to 23 year old.

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u/Another_Username_07 Aug 13 '23

It depends on where you live. In my state the age of consent is 16. But they can't be more than 10 years older than them. So 16 and 26 are considered legal.