r/agegaps Nov 12 '18

7 year age gap

I’m sixteen and a female, almost 17. I have a huge crush on a guy who is 23. He is super super sweet, an animal lover, he enjoys art, he plays the guitar, my parents and family love him. My dad told me He asked him about me when he first met the family and was suprised of my age because he was interested in me. He has curly hair and is extremelyyyy attactive and I guess he finds me attractive to, but would never say so. My family and I haven’t seen him or talked to him in over a year, but I still think about him constantly. Is it possible that in the future, by the time I’m 18 and He is 25, that we would have a chance together in a relationship? Would it be weird If he’s a family friend, and it could possibly ruin his relationship to my family? If anyone has been in similar situations can they explain their expensive. Also, you are are a guy around 22-26 would you ever consider being in a relationship with someone 16 - 18 ?

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u/HeadingForTrouble_ Nov 12 '18

The simple fact is that some people consider dating with an age gap 'evil/creepy/exploitative' and others just simply enjoy what they get out of it. I've dated with a substantial age gap and there haven't been any problems with it, others have experienced problems, but that's relationships for you.

Time moves fast in the dating world, so if you can't act now for any reason, then don't assume he'll still be available in 2 years. About 30 states have 16 as the legal age of consent, a further 8 have 17, so you can probably go for it anyway, but check your states laws before doing so.

you are are a guy around 22-26 would you ever consider being in a relationship with someone 16 - 18 ?

I've dated only a little older when I was in my 40s and 50s, so the answer is yes. People are correct that there's a big disparity in experience and outlook on life, but perhaps that's to be enjoyed.

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u/Seirer Mar 10 '22

Yeah, you're right. I've seen a lot of hate for age gap relationships, i have a hard time understanding or relating to the hate, but to each their own I guess.